I'm not sure that you'll need the visa before you enter the country - you can simply enter the country as a tourist and have all the paperwork sorted out here - shouldn't have to be a big drama involving embassies?

I found these which may or may not help:

http://www.englishforum.ch/help-tips...ht=spouse+visa
http://www.englishforum.ch/help-tips...t=husband+visa
http://www.englishforum.ch/help-tips...ight=wife+visa