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I don't even know what to say to that. If my personal safety is in jeopardy I don't know how you can twist the "let me parent" angle.
This isn't about good kids or good parents- i think we all agree here that good kids get the short end of the stick in Switzerland when it comes to stranger control and glares. I see the OP's point, I'm so scared of being that nasty stranger, and if a kid is happy reading its book to mommy or singing a song or whatever, gee, let the kid be creative even if it makes my commute noisy. If a kid is having a tantrum, let the parent handle it since most kids calm down faster without outside interference (oh wait, I can't say that because I don't know, no kids, right?).
What I don't get is the feeling you see the other side of the coin: when we, outsiders, choose to say something, instead of the parents going "hmm, maybe I should think about this", instead our opinion gets discounted because "we don't know what it is like." I've been laughed or even scolded at by parents whose children damaged my clothing, took my glasses off, kicked my cast, knocked books and cell phones out of my hand. They never once said "Billy, don't do that." It was my fault for holding my cell phone where the kid could see it, or my fault for having knees that the kid wanted to rub mud on, my fault for wearing glasses, or my fault for holding the book in front of my face where the kid couldn't see me. Never once could their parenting be lacking in any way because I would know better when I had kids.
So while there is an intolerance problem, people with kids need to realize that in most common areas we too have to adapt and sometimes it gets old listening to little suzy sing at six am, or having to put away our kindle in the tram because some kid is grabbing at it just like it gets old to constantly be tut-tutted just for having a stroller or trying to play a game with your kid in the train. I wish everyone could learn to get along.
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Well I am trully sorry you had those experience, because it isn't acceptable. I would have snap myself being you.
But we are not talking about the same situation. Tis is seeing someone once in a commute, etc. I am talking about people in your environment, life, entourage.
I can assure you that my kids would never disturb someone like that, physically or with noise.
Being parents isn a free ticket to be asocial. Like I said earlier, jerks come in different forms, parents as well.