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Old 08.05.2012, 10:37
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Re: Has being a trailing spouse threatened your relationship?

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I didn't think I would mind, but I now feel as if that is it, I am no longer a professional person, I have become unemployed and in effect unemployable.

Our relationship is pretty strong but I now feel slightly wobbly about the future, my husband though has never resented me not working, but I feel guilty about it ( I am trying to learn German, but I can't see how I could ever do a 'proper job' with the language I have).
you hit the nail on the head...

"wobbly" not only about the future but about the present, too.
I go from feeling like the world is mine (when I look at my CV, experience and languages) to feeling naive and deluded - surely there are so many better candidates out there and it will never get to the stage that someone will give me a chance

I do think that this will put a strain on my marriage at some time.
not that my husband makes me feel guilty for not working as much as before, because he knows how much work I do with the kids and to keep the family running.
but I would like to be the one walking out of the door in the morning knowing that I will be meeting colleagues and clients, solving problems, using my brains... or simply having a good reason for dressing well, and not just habit!
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