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| Because sometimes, in some culture, things are not that simple. It can be hierarchy, positions and age of people that put them in a position of respect. This position of respect means a lot of things that may not make sense to you and others who never been in these cultures but makes it difficult for those in to just walk away and say no.
And if one say no, it puts the entire family back home in a difficult situation again, for many reasons.
So a strong reason is needed to take away pressure on Phil and his family, without them looking bad. | |
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Because of the wording of the OP, I was (and still am) presuming that the request has come from the same culture as members of my family. I stick by my "say no, if that is what you want to say."