| Re: help ! how to deal with baby crying
I also read the article. I agree that the advice it gives is very sensible and measured:
ˇ Do not try to persuade the child out of their emotions, however extreme or unreasonable you might feel those emotions to be.
ˇ Do not minimise their emotions: show through touch, tone and facial expression that you understand the intensity and quality of what they are going through.
ˇBe their emotional rock: be kind and calm.
ˇHold them - touch is vital to calm and soothe a child.
I am sure that those perfect parents among us have been steadily applying it. Alas, I am not one of them. I am afraid that I occasionally try to persuade my children out of their emotions at 2 am. I am usually not very successful. And I have a tendency to over-show, especially through tone, that I understand the intensity and quality of what they are going through.
But the last bit is something that is implementable even when you want to pull your hair out. Holding your child while they cry and rage will eventually soothe them. Whether you will be able to get to sleep after that harrowing experience is another matter.  |