Thanks to J P-L and swisspea for your input.

Jpl, I assume you are a single mother/father also? I read that you are french american so I assume you have lived in both places as well so I would love more input from you.

What is it about CH that is *more* difficult than the US? I am looking for specifics if you can think of any. I don't have much family or support here or there. My parents are here but they are elderly. But I have more friends there because I have been living in europe for so long.

Swisspea, those are all excellent questions. I know you are not looking for answers but are posing questions to consider. I have to say that I don't know the answers to some of them yet as we are just starting our divorce...but my ex makes a good salary so I am hoping to get a settlement that provides a decent standard of living-- although I realize it won't be as before. (The pie is fixed and expenses are higher.)

Part of it will be an emotional decision...I don't feel like I fit here in the in the US anymore..but maybe it will just take time before I feel at home here again.