On a personal note, I also wanted to say, your "husband" sounds like a toxic, dramatic mess-and-a-half, and you might be happier staying well away from that for as long as possible. He doesn't sound like he has his priorities in order at all, and, regardless of the other benefits, having him close-by might be the worst thing you could do to yourself. if you did decide to come back, I would certainly suggest moving to the other end of the country, at least. He sounds like a narcissistic nightmare.