I would say a clear YES on the card - words of sympathy, and seeing what an impact the life of the deceased had, is a great comfort for the family. I think AbFab's suggestion really good, of writing something similar to what you did here. If it's in English, then I'm sure they will find a way to get it translated. If however you would prefer to write it in German, then PM me and I will be happy to help you with that.
At the moment, I would suggest NOT inquiring about the circumstances, as it is so recent - you may need to wait until some time has passed, or even until you can talk to someone outside the closer family who may know more.
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| ... it is typical around here to have another service 30 days later. "Dreissigste....." something-or-other which perhaps is written on the notice you received. I couldn't attend the funeral of a friend's mother but attended this ceremony a month later which was nice and a bit less somber than a funeral. | |
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The "Dreissigste" is a Catholic rite of remembrance, held thirty days after the funeral. Protestants don't have this.