I wasn't really seeking advice as I think my situation is quite unique, what I wanted to hear was what other expats do practically to help from a long-distance perspective & I have read some really good posts that only help.

My other half would shiver with fear would I suggest they come live with us!

Aside from that, the way I see it is that I would not be here were it not for them. Perhaps my fear of getting old myself perpetuates me thinking so much of what I can do to make life easier for them as they reach the twilight years.

One thing I do appreciate in reading the difficulties of others who are much farther away from their families is how much easier it is for me.