I had a significant depressive episode in my teens. Never cut myself with a razor, or did drugs and alcohol, although you can hurt yourself emotionally too. My mother had been through something similar when she was younger and was open and easy to talk to, but it wasn't quite enough. Sooner or later, looking at your relationship becomes a part of the discussion and that's where it gets hard. I ended up seeking professional help when I was an adult, it was just what I needed, but wish it had been an option when I was younger.

No one knows your situation better than you do, it is true. But, it could be that you need a professional to help work with your and your daughter. The most understanding mother in the world can be too close and the best thing she can do is seek help elsewhere.

At 13 or 14, it can be difficult to talk to your mother for whatever reason. Maybe a child feels that she is a dissappointment, maybe she is angry with her mother, maybe all of the changes that happen - hormonal and physical just make it impossible.

Cutting is not that common, so you're right to be concerned. Teens are susceptible to depression and anxiety, and are sensitive to peer and media pressure. An adult who is there to advocate for them can be so invaluable in helping wade through all the confusion. Sometimes though, a parent is too close and a professional is best (therapist, physician, teacher).

Best of luck to you both.