I think we are sold a lie if we think that bad things only happen to bad people, or vice versa, if you are 'good' then 'good things' will happen to you. Plenty of people peddle this lie...

I seek justice in this life, but do not find it. I hope that there is justice in the afterlife...

I think we are also sold some lie about being 'in control' of our lives. This is also a myth. We control very little about our lives. Striving to control your life is a pretty lost cause. Self-control is worth striving for, life-control is a myth.

I prefer the thousand year old wisdom of working to take each day, as it comes, to worry only for today, make the most of the day, and do not let your fears of the future cloud your ability to find joy in today...who knows what tomorrow may bring ?

If you aren't sold into the lie that 'if you are good, bad things won't happen' then I think you are better equipped to face the adversities of life, as they are. Take it just as it is...

I know plenty of people who hold onto the Christian promise that God won't throw more at us than we can handle...and to the secular humanistic view that humans are exponentially more gifted, capable and adaptable than we give them credit for (often)...and to simply 'hang in there' because there's not much else you can do sometimes.

I dunno what happens if you are a believer that if you are 'good' then only 'good things' will happen to you - because I never believed that...I find the suffering of life random..and am more surprised when good things happen, than when bad things happen...

Niceties are for people who have not suffered. I have experienced some measure of suffering, I no longer tolerate niceties....

Why do we expect the world to be fair ? - who promised to us it would be fair ? Where does that belief come from ? Why do we hold onto that belief ? What happens when it is challenged...what do we understand now.

When my daughter was 5 years old she came home from school really really really distressed because her 'best' friend told her that she would die first, because she was older.

My 5 year old was distressed at the idea of dying 'first' and at the same time she knew her friend was wrong, because she knew that sometimes babies die...first hand experience...the other 5 year old had no first hand experience of death, and was quite convinced that the 'natural order' of things was that the oldest people die first..

It was a good challenge for us in the balance between what we 'think' should be the natural order of things, and our first hand experiences which do not match this expectation...