If, as you say, you posed a question only to facilitate open discussion I see no reason at all to use specific details of a client.

You may have been raising a valid question and discussion point but IMO I think it was far too specific and so bordered on being unprofessional.

You could had done all what you set out to do without giving details like age of child, longevity of the IVF treatments etc, which would have protected your vulnerable clients.

So although I for one appreciate your explanation, I can also appreciate some peoples derision and cynicism to it.

Gal