OK I am going to close this thread. It was wrong on so many levels.

OP I think you got some answers but unfortunately I think the couple in question have likely read stuff that the authors on here would not have said if they knew they were reading.

Really the question 'why do bad things happen to good people' is a silly question. There is no answer is there? there is never going to be an answer. As a counselor I would have thought this a bad tact to take with your clients trying to figure out why. Surely as a counselor your job is to help them over come the process not try and answer impossible questions

To the couple in question - I think you'd be surprised if you came on here and told your own story, I think PegA has a point that it might have been an intimidating prospect but I actually think you would get a lot of support from the members

Nicky