15.03.2010, 10:48
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| Re: Why do people cheat?
For the sake of Derv; definition: infidelity (i.e. your partner doesn't know and wouldn't approve [to put it mildly  ]) My 5 raps:- Not all people cheat
- Those that do will do so for a variety of reasons
- If because of unhappiness, relatively easy to see why
- The more curious (or interesting, if you will) cases are the ones where everything was going "great" according to the cheated-on partner - in these cases it can be a case of brain function.
What do I mean by brain function? Well, we are all wired differently. Our brains have different pleasure centres (settle down boys) and these develop as we grow. Two of these centres are in counterbalance to each other: one promotes being settled, the other thrill seeking. Simplified further: safety vs. risk. To some, having an affair is a risk that they get a thrill from. It is just that they are (partially) programmed to seek thrills. In some instances, this translates as cheating. The most perplexing part of it all is that these people can often be very happy at home. The question we have to ask (y)ourselves is would you cheat if it was 100% guaranteed that there would be no repercussions (you did not want)?
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