Thanks for all the inputs

@j.l-p, @ladylou, I totally agree with you, that being single parent ( esp for woman) at least she has the right to make her own decisions and no need to cook and clean for the guy. A kind of good trade off? But how can a single parent to show both disipline and love at same time? When i was kid, usually mum was "nice" and dad was the "strict" one, there were certain balances in the role play... ( well, in fact, mine own mum was never nice.. but never mind )

@ Bertrand, may I ask then why you broke up with her? Too many trips to school for picking up the kids?

@amaraya, Thanks for the sharing. I just wonder how did you balance the professional/student life and taking care of your son? I mean logistically? Swiss school system ( public school) as far as i learnt is that if you work full time, it seems impossible to take care of the kid. Not to even mention that kids need some other activities. Who will send them to musical class, who goes to pick them up from a sport competition? ... My nephew is in US, as far as I know that they can stay after school till 6pm, for various activities, but in CH, this seems impossible. Plus, recently one of my friend here told me that she is going to work even less when her kid goes to primary school, as she will have to sit with her every night to study together. and it seems quite common in CH?