thankfully i didn't have to go thru the logistics here in switzerland. it's much more complicated because of the time they are home for lunch, half days on wednesdays and so on. for me, as a student, my son was too young for kindergarten and so i sent him to a day care that was on campus, which was excellent but quite expensive for me. when i wasn't studying i was working, usually watching other people's kids to pay for his daycare.

in terms of discipline and love- you can't have one (in a healthy way) without the other. for me there were times i felt bad setting limits all the time- but it made both of our lives much easier to do so- and most parents know after you set the limits and stick to it, there's not much argument about it.