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The problem of the OT is being entirely unable to follow the conversation, and in such a situation it is inconsiderate not to use a language that can be understood by all, and in that specific case that's Standard German. This is my opinion, others may disagree.
Edit: Ok, I see, Faltrad beat me to that. Thanks.
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Captain, I think most of us here agree with the excellent points you have made. My only issue is this - however inconsiderate it is of the others at the party, it will not help the OP to adopt a powerless victim position. Otherwise she may just get frustrated about integrating with SGs and give up.
Livinginswiss obviously wants to connect with her neighbours and integrate, but denied herself an opportunity because of the barriers created by others. I just think if she wants to get her way, she needs to empower herself a bit more - and that means if the others won't change, she can change something to find a way forward. I sympathise with her wholeheartedly - I've had the same problem myself, and I've had to solve it myself, because not many people here will do much to accommodate a foreigner.
I would also suggest that although some of the people in this situation were being deliberately inconsiderate, others may have just become really at ease. I often end up in conversations with SGs where as they become more relaxed in my company, they also speak HG more "naturally" including the mistakes they normally make, and then eventually switch over to SG. If I understand what they are saying, I go with the flow, if I don't understand it, but can live without an understanding, I just urge them to continue speaking and if we hit a wall, I apologise for being really bad at SG. If they speak English, they try to switch to that, and I reel them back into HG, and if they speak no English they switch to HG,(except for my MIL who persists with SG and asks my husband to translate to HG!).
Perhaps Livinginswiss first needs to accept that although it was inconsiderate of the others, they are unlikely to change for her, so if she desires their friendship, she must empower herself and find a way forward that works for her.