Hi! I have the same problem,
We have new neighbours down our appartment, 2 ladies, one very sick, she doesn't go outside of her flat. They do smoke on their balcony, and the smoke is coming right in my balcony and windows and of course inside the house. It's the same as if they were smoking in my house. YARK!!!!
So I went to them on sunday to explain the situation, I was very nice, smilling, cute, calm, etc. I'm pregnant, and I have my house who smell very bad because of their smoke. I am concern of my health as a pregnant woman and of the baby who will born. I don't want to live in the smoke. They told me they don't want to smoke in the house because of the smell. Something I do understand but it is ME who have the smell in my house.
We finally came to a deal, they could smoke in the kitchen under the ventilation. BUT all the week, the smoke came to my flat again. I send tonight my husband to talk to them in german, to be sure to understand each other. They stick on the fact they can't stop smoking, it's impossible, and they refuse to smoke in their house because of the smell and they can't stop smoking, etc... I don't care if they smoke, they can smoke 3 packs a day, I don't give a damn s**t, I just don't want to smoke with them!
I want to be able to open my windows, and go on my balcony. I can be reasonnable, and compromise, but it seems impossible from their side. The sick lady is the worst one, she is very defensive and fight against everything. I really respect their rights to smoke, but I ask to have the right to not have smoke in my house. What I will do this summer? Go inside everytime they will come out to grill one? Keep my windows close? I really want to find a solution, and sadly, the law is on their side, I can't do anything if they want to be a pain instead to try to have good relationship with their neighbours...
So it's make me very angry and frustrated because I can't do anything about it. They ruins my quality of life in my house...
I'm always the one who's doing the good thing, who's respecting the others, and compromise, etc... But it doesn't turn around, on my side....
It will sound childish, but I have to take this out of my chest. Any suggestion?
My mother in law told me to not worry, when the baby will be there, they will suffer with the cries, screams, etc... But it will not make me feel good since I will have to deal with it myself.
I was thinking to walk around the house with my shoes in wood... they make a looooooot of noise...