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View Poll Results: How long did it take you to make friends here?
Less than a year 54 45.76%
1 - 2 years 19 16.10%
3 - 5 years 10 8.47%
5 - 7 years 0 0%
Over 7 years 4 3.39%
Still haven't made any friends (specify how long you've lived here) 31 26.27%
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Old 17.02.2015, 22:01
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Re: How long did it take you to make friends here?

It depends on what type of Swiss you meet. some of them more open then others. Of course language is a major problem. They may not express themselves well in English.
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Re: How long did it take you to make friends here?

You need some common point of contact - I worked for a Swiss family as a nanny and now we are still friends. We also have a very friendly neighbour so we have had lots of social contact with her. Speaking some of the local language makes a big difference. It shows you are trying to fit in. And joining in with some local activity helps - I joined the local first aid group (Samariter Verein). I think it takes years before people become "real" friends no matter where you are.
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Re: How long did it take you to make friends here?

We have been in our village for almost 5 years now. Whenever there is a village fête or other, lots of people come to greet us, ask how we are etc...but when it comes to sharing a table, only a handful will offer...another 5 years I guess and we'll be on "tu" terms!
Most have known each other since childhood, unavoidably there are cliques and as a foreigner, you're not part of any.
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Re: How long did it take you to make friends here?

all my friends are expats, in my opinion don't even both with swiss people. mostly cold and unfriendly.

of course there are exceptions. but knowing more international people is more fun. go for that crowd.
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Re: How long did it take you to make friends here?

How long did it take you to make friends here?
Hmmmm..... Forever?
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Re: How long did it take you to make friends here?

when you join a Swiss sports club that revolves around a sport you love dearly and have played for your entire life, and then realize how many Swiss men have joined the same club despite knowing next to nothing about the sport because they want to meet people...

...you'll probably also realize that difficulty in making friends is not a complaint that is exclusive to expats.

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Old 22.02.2015, 16:08
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How long did it take you to make friends here?
Hmmmm..... Forever?
You? No way. I'll give you a friend coupon.
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Re: How long did it take you to make friends here?

I moved to Zurich in JAN with my partner and we've had two very different experiences.

For me, it's been relatively easy and I guess that's down to having a job, not looking for a "bestie" and the fact I can enjoy a drink with pretty much anybody. Without sounding ungrateful, I'm already at the point where I have to turn down drinks, dinners, coffees et al.

For my partner, she's struggled and I feel the blame is split 50/50 on her and the environment. I guess you have to speculate to accumulate, which means you need to get off your backside, meet new people and then sometimes accept you didn't back a winner. I do sympthize with her however, as I see the environment to be cold, reserved and/or just plain boring!

A friend recently pointed how Zurich completely changes when the sun comes out - it's like "rent-a-crowd" - and I guess this will have a huge impact on the social front, so I'll circle back later in the year and I'm sure all issues will have sorted themselves out....fingers crossed
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I'm swiss. I made two very good expat friends, with whom I became very close.

Then they left the country. As most expats end up doing sooner than later. And I lost my friends.

I now avoid getting too close to expats, to protect myself.
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