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Alright, so I've never done this before. Moving into a WG.

I was quite excited by the prospect, but I'm getting mad as hell, at the people who are living here. I'm not going to respond to anyone trying to provoke me, but I will stand my ground, and I will get the police involved if this continues. (edit: a bit more context) it's a new place, people have only been living here for about 2 weeks, it's also still under renovation.

I've had 3 different people shouting at me, being aggressive telling me that cleaning the kitchen is my responsibility and I have no bloody idea what sort of mindset these people have, in which they think they have a right to treat me like this.

Another thing, I was cooking in the kitchen, and they started getting aggressive towards me when I wanted the door shut (they were sitting outside). And then he told me to go the toilet... honestly what the are these people?

Any comments? Should I keep a journal of incidents like this? I will not stand to be treated this way.
sounds like you are dealing with the typical kind of "passive aggressive conflict creators". That species is very common in CH unfortunately. You have 2 choices:

1. Everything they tell you not to do (which most likely you are not even doing but they do it and blame it on you), you now do it on purpose and continue stay there. Don't talk back, don't argue, just do what you want and keep them going mad. This will however create an even worse atmosphere.

2. Move out and tell them to kiss your rear end. Make sure you buy one of those "stink bombs" and put some drops on curtains and carpets. They will have to wash it those places they charge at least 200 chf to wash a curtain or the smell will not come off. Consider that your parting gift for the investment you made for ultimately leaving.

I would go for option 2.
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Re: Moved into a new place.

So the co-tenanats didn't get on, and don't forget, we only heard 1 side of the story, so either :-

1) Dick them about totaly and make situation worse

2) Cause physical damage that doesn't really do anytrhing but cause inconvenience, even the "warm gooey" feeling you get when you do put stink bombs everywhere or shit on the table or whatever won't last long and nothing will be resolved.

TALK TO THEM !!!

Don't forget, high chance in a small country you may meet them again sometime, maybe when you need them......
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So the co-tenanats didn't get on, and don't forget, we only heard 1 side of the story, so either :-

1) Dick them about totaly and make situation worse

2) Cause physical damage that doesn't really do anytrhing but cause inconvenience, even the "warm gooey" feeling you get when you do put stink bombs everywhere or shit on the table or whatever won't last long and nothing will be resolved.

TALK TO THEM !!!

Don't forget, high chance in a small country you may meet them again sometime, maybe when you need them......
1. stink bomb smell does not go away from curtains and carpets without proper washing.

2. talking to people is often not the solution. It should be, but the way he explained it I might have a good idea what is going on in there.

3. you are right about the one side of the story, but then again, I am answering based on what he wrote.

as for your last sentence, that is the worst advice you can give to someone. Never use "needing people" for an excuse not to man up at one point. But I think "needing someone" or with other words "making use of someone" for your own benefit is by far worse than any of the options I mentioned in my last post.

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Re: Moved into a new place.

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1. stink bomb smell does not go away from curtains and carpets without proper washing.

2. talking to people is often not the solution. It should be, but the way he explained it I might have a good idea what is going on in there.

3. you are right about the one side of the story, but then again, I am answering based on what he wrote.

as for your last sentence, that is the worst advice you can give to someone. Never use "needing people" for an excuse not to man up at one point. But I think "needing someone" or with other words "making use of someone" for your own benefit is by far worse than any of the options I mentioned in my last post.

Bad advice much?
The advice given about "needing them" is so common there is a saying about it:" Don't burn your bridges " ring a bell? Specially in a small country like CH. Making use of someone could be as simple as a rental/ job reference....

Nothing to do with being a man about it, often a correct person(A MAN!!!) will just do that and be the better person.

Do talk to them or move out , choice is up to you. Even if it is the moving out talk....
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