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Old 09.06.2015, 13:49
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Re: Small child attacking other children in the park!!!

How about this? Take your camera down to the playground and show it to the kid's keepers. Make panning motions like you would when filming the playground and say clearly to them at the same time "Polizei". That should get the message through.

Or when you see him misbehaving grab hold of him and dump him in his keepers' laps. If they get hit inadvertently because he's thrashing around then maybe they'll do something about it.

Frankly, you sound a lot more tolerant than I would be in that situation. I'd have given him a good smack or two or three by now and sod the consequences.

Are you even sure they're in the country legally?
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Re: Small child attacking other children in the park!!!

LOL we have told the girls and their friends to stand united together, my daughter knows that if that if she needs to defend herself and she uses violence then she won't be told off.

One boy did lay into him as I said and he didn't like it at all!!

I just don't want to teach my girls that it's ok to hit someone, if he was her age then we would tell her to react this way but she's almost seven and he's four so it's a tricky one. My youngest who's three and a half kicked at him when he was hitting them on the climbing frame, we congratulated her for defending her sister. I just know what kids can be like and I don't want my eldest to think it's ok just to wallop someone , and it's a mixed message to say you can hit him back when we are all up in arms for him doing it in the first place.

She does KNOW though I can assure you that if pushing him away doesn't work what the next step would be...........
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Old 09.06.2015, 13:55
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Re: Small child attacking other children in the park!!!

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Teach them to work in pairs; one keeps him occupied and interested whilst the second performs a flanking manoeuvre and takes him out from behind.
One quietly goes behind and crouches down on all fours behind, without him seeing and then then the other pushes him hard from front - and watch him go flying ....... then both stand up and point at him laughing loud and hard, and slowly both walk together towards him.

Humiliate and intimidate.


The biggest thing about being a bully or violent is the lack of fear (or awareness) of consequences. Quite weak people can be bullies if they have no qualms about inflicting violence on others. Most people find it difficult to hit others and naturally back away.

If they can learn to override this psychological barrier, it will knock the wind from his sails in more ways than one.
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Old 09.06.2015, 13:59
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Re: Small child attacking other children in the park!!!

Knowing that blood feud is still a considerable problem in Albania, I would avoid fights (even between the kids) and focus more on openly talking to the parents. If the talk with the father proofs to be without any results, you can still go to the police and ask for guidance on where you should turn to. Probably they will guide you to this Family Welfare Office.
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Old 09.06.2015, 14:07
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I just don't want to teach my girls that it's ok to hit someone,
What you wrote above is something I also advocate. But recently I have come to appreciate that some children do need to be able to defend themselves physically, to avoid getting harsher treatment later on. My eldest is a sweet kind boy, and sticks to the rules (I mean ALL the rules), and at times, we feel that we do need to change tactic and encourage him to fight his corner. He is the kind of child who takes things seriously and gets bruised emotionally.

So my message is - Do chime in your girls that attacking is not nice, but defending themselves is okay. Oh, and book some self-defence classes for your girls ;o)

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Re: Small child attacking other children in the park!!!

This sounds rather like a "clash of the cultures", if the mothers/aunts just laugh at the little boy bullying of girls.

In the Emirates I was gobsmacked in a supermarket to see two little kiddies in a double pushchair being pushed along by their parents (Arabians) - when the little boy (about 4yrs old) suddenly back-handed his sister full in the face (she about 2yrs old), and the parents just ignored it! The little girl appeared to be used to this treatment! She cried and was ignored. Painful.

I would approach the police about this particular little guy. Let them talk to the parents.

This approach worked for us when my grand-daughter here was being bullied on way home from school a few years ago. Police liased with the school, and no more problems arose.
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