Gruezi - how ignorant would that be- it's short for Grüss Gott, and I am atheist,
I have the solution:
I say moin to everybody. It's low-German for nice and the usual greeting. They can decide themselves what they want to be nice.
And I won't get accused by a Swiss to use dialect... that would backfire. re-
Walking down towards the lake last Sunday, I met a group of four youngsters (about 25 years old I guess) with skins somewhat darker than mine. I said 'guete Daag' and one replied 'gueten Oobe'. We all realised the mistake at the same moment and I burst out laughing. Is that racist?
My crappy day started early with my husband telling me he wasn't able to drop our son at the day care after all and I would have to do that. That sucked cause I've been hosting a lot of guests mostly his family and I arranged for my son to be at the day care the whole day today so I could relax a bit. It has been quite hot so I decided to wear my cotton kurta/pakistani shirt with leggings, cool and comfortable (or so I thought). In my hurry I managed to bang my forehead pretty bad with a piece of furniture, missed the bus and had to push a double stroller 20 mins uphill in the sun (so much for the relaxing part). After dropping my son I decided to head to a neighboring town for some work. The buses in my area have a ticket terminal inside the bus where we buy our tickets however this particular bus only had a ticket machine next to the drivers seat. As the bus was going on a curvy uphill road and I had a pushchair I waited for the bus to stop at the next station before asking the driver to issue me a ticket (im still in the same zone). The driver casually waved his hand pointing outside and then said to me in german "Sie müssen aussteigen und...oh Sie haben ein kinderwagen ok Ich kann dass schon machen" (my written german isnt good so minus the grammatical mistakes that is what he said). There was a ticket terminal at one of the stations where he was stopping but that particular bus runs only once an hour and surely he couldnt have saved any time if I got off and bought a ticket neither could I have been expected to wait an hour for the next bus. Anyway still confused at his behaviour I decided to let it go. Afterwards I decided to go to Landi and check some plants out where a swiss man approached me and said to me in German Are you a Punjabi? You are wearing a Punjabi shirt you know. You must be from pUnjab. I honestly thought that was quite rude but just smiled and said nein ich bin kein pUnjabi and moved on. on my way out I bought a 9CHF swimming pool for children by INTEX and headed to Aldi. At the check out as I put down the stuff in the push chair and bent down to take out my wallet I heard the cashier say in a very loud voice "und was ist mit dem?" I looked at him puzzled and said mit was? he pointed to the swimming pool in the pushchairs basket and said mit dem. I told him I had just bought it in Landi to which he said sarcastically Are they selling the same brand as us? Now that was absolutely ridiculous because every other shop is selling intex and I went through their stuff and they didn't have that particular one which I had bought. Then he demanded to see the receipt and after checking all he had to say was tip top danke. They have detectors in their branch and even if he suspected he could have approached me separately instead of making a scene infront of everyone at the counter. I dont know if im just being sensitive because of the particularly crappy day ive been having or if everyone behaved the way they did because they thought im some lowlife/ausländer/thief. Iv been living in Switzerland for 8 years and am absolutely shocked at how people reacted to me wearing something other that jeans or trousers. Had any of the events taken place separately I wouldnt have given it much thought. But three different people behaving like this within an hours time just cause I was wearing what they thought was a punjabi dress
I am just sorry you are having a crappy day but don't overthink it
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Actually, its not the words that count, it`s the voice inflection behind the intent - like dogs go by body-language and instinct.
Most times the "Gruezi" greeting (or any other) is mumbled, sometimes I fantasize that they could have said "Ef u" - and just greet them back regardless. There`s more to life than getting embroiled in possible innuendos.
The Swiss people get all in a fluff if you look different, your skin color is different than theirs, you wear something other than black or grey or if you just don't conform in general.
I find this comment ignorant and somewhat embittered. I think you are reflecting on your own sense of feeling ill at ease. Where in the world do people not hold differences with some suspicion? So you may get a frown in Switzerland for looking like a fool or idiot, but in most other parts of the world, you could very well get killed for it.
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I just took the time to read the OP and I got the impression that the driver was trying to help. From what I read, could he have been offering to get the ticket for you, or maybe helping you with the stroller while you went for the ticket? I've seen drivers help with strollers and the such.
Of course I wasn't there but could that have been a possibility? And the guy asking you if you were a Punjabi - perhaps he had been there (or even lived there) and wanted to talk to someone he recognized as possibly being from there? Again, I wasn't there so I can't know, but I prefer to take a more positive view of these encounters. I have found that even when I am with a clearly foreign person, they are inevitably treated politely. Not effusively friendly, min, but I don't get that either.
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