Swiss and Birthdays
I get it. Things are different here. Instead of people treating you on your birthday, you are required to pay for everyone else. Sure. Fine. Whatever.
Backstory: For my OH's birthday I am putting together a book with photos and messages | memories from friends. 3 months ago, I sent out a message to our friends asking if they would like to participate. Nothing big required. Just a sentence or two would be enough.
Here's how it turned out: The majority ignored me and went out of their way to not run into me. Now, these are people we have both known for at least 10-15 years. The ones that didn't outright ignore me said that they don't really know him and wouldn't know what to say. Again, these are people we have both known for 10-15 years.
Even my stepfather, his possible future FIL, said "I can just send him an SMS". WTF?!