Scandinavian Viking said it:

the thread opener says his girlfriend is madly in love with her - and he enjoys her company, the attention, he likes her family, and loves her hotness in bed.

Let's put it that way: if a guy told me he enjoys my attention, likes my family, thinks I am hot in bed and that he'd miss me if he'd let me go I'd say "so you don't love me".

I haven't heard once that he has romantic feelings for her or even loves her, just that he's afraid of losing her for - well, for whatever reason there might be, but love doesn't seem to be a plausible one to me.

Since this girl loves him so madly it would be fair to let her find someone who loves her back just as madly..

On Saturday I have had told her everything what i was thinking and we decided to talk back within next three months and if i am still not sure we will get apart.

Three months is too long. She's being generous.

So you did listen to the advice given on this forum.
What a fool you are!

(You all lighten up, I'm just kidding...)

Good thinking. Get your priorities straight, get back to her as soon as possible, ask her to marry you, and live happily ever after.

If you are not sure now, the chance of you being sure in 3 months is low. The break-up after that will be more painful for her...just saying...

I think I might be in a minority here, but I don't believe that if only one person in a relationship "loves" the other, it's automatic grounds for breakup. Love can develop in different ways and at a different pace from one person to the next.

I'm sure everyone has their own personal limit for when it's time to say "if you won't love me by now, then it won't happen later" and be done with the relationship. I just know that I've seen many a case where two people are really happy and one is saying "I love you" whilst the other just isn't there yet (it comes later though).

I lovely song for you. Listen it carefully.



P.S. One more thing: Listen to all and act as you feel like. No one knows how your situation exactly is. Good luck to you!

Maybe you just need more time to find out what you want. Nothing wrong with that. You have your reasons. There isn't a 3 year deadline for marriage proposals.

If she looks hot and is great in the sack then that's great news. If what is making you uncertain is her personality then you are better off not staying with her. Attitude or personality problems don't go away.

She is hot now, but she don't stay that way.
Sex may be great now, but it won't stay that way.

Chances are you'll get divorced at least once. If you get married get a prenup and make sure you protect your interests (and that she protects hers by the same token).

If she doesn't like the idea of a prenup you know you're not the priority in the relationship.

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FFS man! Marry the goddam woman! Why are we men always so worried about this committal shite.

You should be honest with her, she loves you based upon how she thinks you feel. If she knew how you really feel maybe she wouldn’t feel the same way.