I have been in Switzerland since three years and already three relationships, my current GF is swiss and she is insanely in love with me, I have enjoyed my last year at most because of her and my german improved, costs reduced, bla bla.

She gives me all the attention i need and i don't have a feeling of being in a foreign country, i am the only foreigner in her big entire family and she had to fight with her mother to move in with me and since we moved in together things have been different, it was so nice before we moved in together.

Last week she have asked me about her future with me that i don't know, I have to confess that i am being mean and not telling her about my feelings clearly, i am scared of letting her go.

Some kind advices may help a lot

thanks

Tell her the truth. Be honest with her and yourself. Any decisions that come afterwards will be based on honesty and insight of the present situation.

Above all, be honest. You owe it to her and to yourself.

Be honest with her, she at least deserves that much.

All I'd say is be honest. Someday you'd have to be honest, someday you'd have to speak the truth. Why not now? If not now then when? You can delay the troubles but not avoid them.

My advice totally depends on how hot she is.

I just don't want to regret any decision i make, I am just sure i can't let her go, i will miss her a lot, she is part of my life a big part i cannot live without.

I wouldn't say a thing until your German is perfect.

hot in bed ☆☆☆☆☆
hot in looks ☆☆☆☆

This sort of reply will not do your search for sensible answers to your question any good.

my devil inside tells me the same but i resist, she is just not a resource but a person i really care about.

Another vote here for honesty, and the sooner the better. The more you delay, the more chance for negative feelings to creep into your relationship; bitterness, anger, etc.

Perhaps the decision to move in together was a bit premature and influenced by additional factors apart from your true feelings? Maybe you were somewhat lonely and wanted 24/7 companionship; possibly she was looking to get away from her mom (maybe her mom is a bit protective or overbearing since they fought about her moving in with you)? Of course I am just speculating; that is just a hypothesis based upon the info you gave in your post and may be entirely off the mark. I am just throwing it out as an example of a consideration.

If you are honest with her now, perhaps you two can identify exactly when your relationship began veering off-course and correct it before it is too late. Try to decide if your apprehension regarding letting her go is based on genuine feelings for her or if you are only afraid of being alone and starting over again.

All the best to you.

Tell her that. If you don't know what your future plans are, tell her that too. Just don't tell her that you told the whole bloomin' internet world she's hot in bed.

I agree but is it because your thinking she is something you can't take with you when you leave, and you have plans of going back to where ever, which really wouldn't be good for her in the end. You have to talk it out with her and be honest and up front so she can also get on with her life. Years go by too fast to stop and smell all the flowers, when you wait and she waits in the end you both lose. Let her move on if that's your feelings. Oh as a gf she was ok or for bed but as a permant thing... no way.. let her go then.

Break up with her and then give her my number for consolation and support.

She was not living with her mom and she wanted to move in with me and we were both excited about moving together, I am just trying to be reasonable and trying to find a valid answer to her question.

So in all seriousness here...

What's changed since you moved in together?

It's okay that you don't know. It seems like you're still adjusting to living with one another. What exactly did you tell her that isn't clear though? I agree with everyone that honesty is important, even if you aren't telling her what you think she wants to hear.

And as for all the hotness stuff and you caring about her, I hope you tell her what you told us. Because I think for most girls, it's great to feel special, appreciated and sexy.

Sorry, a valid answer to her question??? Either you tell her the truth or you lie to her, there is no valid answer.

Do you mean her question about your future together?

If so, you need to look inside your own head and not here on the forum. We can help by giving you considerations or questions to ask yourself, but only you know the answer. And the answer should probably have more considerations than just how hot she looks and how hot she is in bed...

Did she tell you what she wanted for the future? Did she have a timeline? That would be scary. But if you love her, that should be enough for the time being, considering that you haven't been with her so long...

Wow actually three years and three Girlfriends.. this one moved in.. time for her to move out the fourth year is coming up.. right?