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Or was your post sarcastic or sprinkled with irony?

I mean, for you to state you would feel need to drop your girlfriend into convo, make excuses and leave. Are you fearful of something?

why?

Why bring up your girlfriend? I mean, sure, it may come up but it shouldnt come up as in a manner to suggest "I have girlfriend so I must not be here alone with you" which is how I read it.

Then to leave? In case you are seen? Or is it simply not appropriate in your relationship to be alone with a woman thats not your girlfriend?


A little story:

I had an ex who i referenced earlier, we splt not long after I arrived here, who would happily tell me the company she worked for went to strip club, she was one of 2 girls in a 12 person party. Naturally, a man assumes horny drunk men swarming round his girl. I dont bite at this, I trusted her.

The following week, I was going to my bosses bbq. Thinking my ex was familiar with my bosses name, when I merely said I am going to Sammy's (not real name) bbq, she flipped. Sammy is 60 years old.

I can't be the only man who has been in a similar relantionship? Its happened more than once too.
Too many questions not enough time to answer. I have a client coming and I need to get my leather thong ready

In summary I can meet who I want when I want. My partner fully trusts me and I fully trust her too. Most girls can't resist my hotness and I don't like seeing them embaressing themselves which is why I make it clear that I am taken

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Old 04.05.2012, 17:51
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I sincerely wish all of you my kind of relationship as some of you really need it, although by the sounds of it don't actually deserve it

From my angle-

If I go to an event I sure as hell would do my best to take my gal with me. Imagine if I go alone and only one female turns up then my line of action would be to exchange quick plesanteries, drop my partner in the conversation, remark that the event obviously won't be taking place and then split.

On getting home I would tell my partner that the event was a failure and that just one woman turned up.

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Or was your post sarcastic or sprinkled with irony?

I mean, for you to state you would feel need to drop your girlfriend into convo, make excuses and leave. Are you fearful of something?

why?


Why bring up your girlfriend? I mean, sure, it may come up but it shouldnt come up as in a manner to suggest "I have girlfriend so I must not be here alone with you" which is how I read it.


Then to leave? In case you are seen? Or is it simply not appropriate in your relationship to be alone with a woman thats not your girlfriend?

Panda here has a point. I would so something similar. I would also mention that im engaged just to try and stop any thoughts (which doesnt guarantee anything i noticed) but i would stay and have coffee/drinks/whatever we are meeting up with. Just because people didnt turn up, that doesnt mean its going to stop me having a good night out

Although i agree with the part of Jordans post i highlighted
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Old 04.05.2012, 21:05
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Re: What do you think about such a behaviour? Is it ok?

It's hard to tell, OP.

I see Panda's point, Kristanez made an observation that resonated, too. Jordan's post is lucid and logical (for once, sorry, Jordan)..I guess those are two poles, and just OP can see if there are other things that made her question, since the incident she wrote about on its own can be completely innocent.

How did she find out, too.. If her OH told her, was it some kind of maneuvre to make her react or provoke? Or was he just being honest and open? If so, why post it here..unless having him read it here is the whole point of this thread
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I can't be the only man who has been in a similar relantionship? Its happened more than once too.
thankfully, i try to date only sane women.
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Re: What do you think about such a behaviour? Is it ok?

both sides needs to be more communicative so trust can be established.

it's stupid things like these that can fester and ruin a relationship. Just ask, but don't turn it into an interrogation.

you really shouldn't rely on a forum to conjecture whether your man/woman is a lying cheating dirtbag. You live with him/her.
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I am back and got some time to waste. Leather thong was too tight and difficult to take off so had to use a Swiss knife while stripping

Stripping jokes aside I firmly believe that people get the relationship they deserve. There are obviously exceptions but in general that is my POV. For example many of my acquaintances keep on ending with the same problems and with same type of partner relationship after relationship. It follows a pattern.

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Please don't project your issues or insecurities on me. You taking it too literally! I have been in a stable loving relationship for almost two decades so I am not one of those average guys who just ends up in bed with someone because they were too drunk or thought with their dick first. I have nothing to fear apart from wasting my time with some stupid chick who I don't even know.

If I am going to a group event then chances are I am going for the crowd and not some individual who I don't even know. So if only one chick turns up who I have no connection with then the event which I went out for was a complete failure. So ideally I would just leave. As I am not a complete prick I would make small talk with the woman, maybe even have a drink if she has a decent personality and is not a psycho.

That said I would mention my partner because I would not want to lead someone on. It's not like I am going to say "I am taken so don't even try" lol
It would be more like "So what brings you to Swissy? bla bla bla" Then on her asking I would say "I came here for my girlfriend many moons ago, no regrets still a top woman, love her to bits......etc etc".

I know many taken men who would pretend to be single or keep quiet just to get some play, my point was that I am not one of them. I was never desperate like most men I come across so maybe I was never normal. You might think I am loco but frankly I don't care too much

Jordan your ex story I did not fully understand nor can relate to it. I have never been to a strip joint because I was never interested in such places. Same applies to my partner. It's not the kind of places we like to hang in. If my job involved going there because everyone else was going then I would change jobs or just not go. Everyone lives by different standards and that is what I have set for myself.

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Then to leave? In case you are seen? Or is it simply not appropriate in your relationship to be alone with a woman thats not your girlfriend?
I think I answered very clearly. As far as being seen is concerned I never gave two phuks about what people might say. My woman trusts me and that is all that counts for me. That trust was not built on small talk (which is cheap) but on foundation of love, friendship, affection, sex etc etc. So things that have stood the long test of time.

I am done so maybe we should just get back to the OP.

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Re: What do you think about such a behaviour? Is it ok?

When you had posted this, aren't your partner knows you are also in EF and she can also read your thread?
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When you had posted this, aren't your partner knows you are also in EF and she can also read your thread?
Maybe the person was talking about some other forum and used this forum as an example.
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I am back and got some time to waste. Leather thong was too tight and difficult to take off so had to use a Swiss knife while stripping

Stripping jokes aside I firmly believe that people get the relationship they deserve. There are obviously exceptions but in general that is my POV. For example many of my acquaintances keep on ending with the same problems and with same type of partner relationship after relationship. It follows a pattern.

Please don't project your issues or insecurities on me. You taking it too literally! I have been in a stable loving relationship for almost two decades so I am not one of those average guys who just ends up in bed with someone because they were too drunk or thought with their dick first. I have nothing to fear apart from wasting my time with some stupid chick who I don't even know.

If I am going to a group event then chances are I am going for the crowd and not some individual who I don't even know. So if only one chick turns up who I have no connection with then the event which I went out for was a complete failure. So ideally I would just leave. As I am not a complete prick I would make small talk with the woman, maybe even have a drink if she has a decent personality and is not a psycho.

That said I would mention my partner because I would not want to lead someone on. It's not like I am going to say "I am taken so don't even try" lol
It would be more like "So what brings you to Swissy? bla bla bla" Then on her asking I would say "I came here for my girlfriend many moons ago, no regrets still a top woman, love her to bits......etc etc".

I know many taken men who would pretend to be single or keep quiet just to get some play, my point was that I am not one of them. I was never desperate like most men I come across so maybe I was never normal. You might think I am loco but frankly I don't care too much

Jordan your ex story I did not fully understand nor can relate to it. I have never been to a strip joint because I was never interested in such places. Same applies to my partner. It's not the kind of places we like to hang in. If my job involved going there because everyone else was going then I would change jobs or just not go. Everyone lives by different standards and that is what I have set for myself.

I think I answered very clearly. As far as being seen is concerned I never gave two phuks about what people might say. My woman trusts me and that is all that counts for me. That trust was not built on small talk (which is cheap) but on foundation of love, friendship, affection, sex etc etc. So things that have stood the long test of time.

I am done so maybe we should just get back to the OP.
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Yes you are 100% right. Good luck with your next relationship.
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Yes you are 100% right. Good luck with your next relationship.
Thanks kindly, it's been going swell.

I've just let her know there's 15 women on my carriage, 60% are over 40, so she is fine with this. All about communication see
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Thanks kindly, it's been going swell.

I've just let her know there's 15 women on my carriage, 60% are over 40, so she is fine with this. All about communication see
No, probably she worked out there's really very little risk....
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No, probably she worked out there's really very little risk....
Of course, once I announced to the carriage my relationship status, whilst she was on loudspeaker, she has 100% trust in me
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I mean, for you to state you would feel need to drop your girlfriend into convo, make excuses and leave. Are you fearful of something?

why?

Why bring up your girlfriend? I mean, sure, it may come up but it shouldnt come up as in a manner to suggest "I have girlfriend so I must not be here alone with you" which is how I read it.

Then to leave? In case you are seen? Or is it simply not appropriate in your relationship to be alone with a woman thats not your girlfriend?


A little story:

I had an ex who i referenced earlier, we splt not long after I arrived here, who would happily tell me the company she worked for went to strip club, she was one of 2 girls in a 12 person party. Naturally, a man assumes horny drunk men swarming round his girl. I dont bite at this, I trusted her.

The following week, I was going to my bosses bbq. Thinking my ex was familiar with my bosses name, when I merely said I am going to Sammy's (not real name) bbq, she flipped. Sammy is 60 years old.

I can't be the only man who has been in a similar relantionship? Its happened more than once too.
1.Panda, If I was the "lone woman" I would be rather annoyed - FCS, I would have been there because of the event, not because I had any designs on the guy.

2. Bosses BBQ: It's all in how you announced the intention to go to the bbq. "I'm going to Sammy's bbq" could be interpreted as "I don't care what you are doing." Or, "I'm going and not taking you." Was it a bbq that partners were invited to as well? In which case did you ask your partner if she would like to go as well? If it was actually a work event that was just for the bosses underlings, then did you explain that at the start?

I wonder why there are so many ex's around.
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"I'm going to Sammy's bbq" could be interpreted as "I don't care what you are doing."
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1.Panda, If I was the "lone woman" I would be rather annoyed - FCS, I would have been there because of the event, not because I had any designs on the guy.

2. Bosses BBQ: It's all in how you announced the intention to go to the bbq. "I'm going to Sammy's bbq" could be interpreted as "I don't care what you are doing." Or, "I'm going and not taking you." Was it a bbq that partners were invited to as well? In which case did you ask your partner if she would like to go as well? If it was actually a work event that was just for the bosses underlings, then did you explain that at the start?

I wonder why there are so many ex's around.
Well, of course she was invited, but as much as the BBQ parties at the bosses are good, not sure I'd fly over from UK to Zurich for it. I'm not sure she would of made it in time.

The boss is more a friend and very hospitable so wasnt a work thing.

Her strip club venture was also with work, I wasn't invited to that, but again I wouldn't of flown to London for it. She had just started new job, I was in secondment, so she obviously felt it a good time to network with her team. I'm not sure she generally like watching women strip, despite Pandas wildly defensive essay.
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1.Panda, If I was the "lone woman" I would be rather annoyed - FCS, I would have been there because of the event, not because I had any designs on the guy.
In that case I would have had a decent conversation with you and bought you a drink. If on the other hand I fond you irritating then I would have left asap as taking care of irritating stranger's feelings would not have been my highest priority.
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So if I told you why I moved to CH then that would annoy you? Why? I would have been very interest in hearing your story and if that meant you mentioning someone who was BIG part of your life then that would not have bothered me in the slightest.

There are many desperate women out there who grab the wrong end of the stick (no not that stick) One can't be too careful.
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Of course, once I announced to the carriage my relationship status, whilst she was on loudspeaker, she has 100% trust in me

Your relationship soulds pretty insecure if you need to go to these lengths.
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Well, of course she was invited
Was your BBQ boss Hugh Hefner? Why would any woman get jealous if you are going to meet your old male boss for BBQ?

Your ex could be a psycho but then you could have a history of being a cheating prick who was making her feel insecure. Normally I have noticed people feel insecure for a reason. Get on your carriage and get your ex to come on the forum so we can hear both sides of the story lol
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