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Old 03.08.2012, 17:52
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I would say it is the other way around, it would take so much courage to tie your life with somebody else who you don't know that well.
So I guess someone who gets drunk, meets a stripper in vegas, and marries her 2 hours later is really courageous?
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Old 03.08.2012, 17:55
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So I guess someone who gets drunk, meets a stripper in vegas, and marries her 2 hours later is really courageous?
I would say yes! I wouldn't dare.

But it is not comparable to an arranged marriage, because if you divorce the stripper your mom would be very happy. On the other hand if you divorce who they have arranged, they will not flying over the moon.
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Old 03.08.2012, 18:03
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I would say it is the other way around, it would take so much courage to tie your life with somebody else who you don't know that well.
But that's the thing--I don't think you would marry someone you don't know that well in an arranged marriage. From what my friends of Indian descent have told me, there are multiple meetings (sometimes for years) with the person your parents have introduced you to, and then finally they get married, and only if both people consent. This is no different than meeting someone and dating for a period of time before deciding to take the next step.

My parents also had an arranged marriage back in the day in Taiwan, and I think it is no different then someone just recommending someone else whom they think might make a good match. You are always free to say "no thanks" if you meet up and don't hit it off. No different than a blind date.

In my parents' case, they each had other "recommendations" prior to deciding to be with each other. And although they both admit that they didn't marry for love, they recognized that they might make good life partners, and I think over the years, they grew to love each other and would never, ever separate now. They're actually a perfect match for each other. 35+ years and still going strong!
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Old 03.08.2012, 18:12
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But that's the thing--I don't think you would marry someone you don't know that well in an arranged marriage. From what my friends of Indian descent have told me, there are multiple meetings (sometimes for years) with the person your parents have introduced you to, and then finally they get married, and only if both people consent. This is no different than meeting someone and dating for a period of time before deciding to take the next step.

My parents also had an arranged marriage back in the day in Taiwan, and I think it is no different then someone just recommending someone else whom they think might make a good match. You are always free to say "no thanks" if you meet up and don't hit it off. No different than a blind date.

In my parents' case, they each had other "recommendations" prior to deciding to be with each other. And although they both admit that they didn't marry for love, they recognized that they might make good life partners, and I think over the years, they grew to love each other and would never, ever separate now. They're actually a perfect match for each other. 35+ years and still going strong!
I am sorry but in majority of arranged marriages the couple do not spend years to know each other,they talk to each other 20 times tops. Otherwise, either of the parents intervene and ask "do you really want to marry? otherwise don't waste my daughter's / son's time"

In the cultures where arranged marriages are still popular, dating with somebody long term is not very welcomed. also, everybody will know your past with the other gender and those cultures do not take this as a good sign. A mom will say "no no, I don't want her in my family, she was with blabla's son and didn't end up well."

I got married after 7 years of dating but I also have witnessed a lot of the above mentioned cases.
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Old 03.08.2012, 20:04
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I don't know how old she is and I know that she's been raised in a very religious household.
But I know that he is a very nice guy and will see that she feels welcome and happy, so I'm not worried.

I just was amazed about my own feelings, because I like to think of my self as an open minded person.
But then again I didn't think about the difference between a forced and an arranged marriage.
And I don't think it's a forced one.
I don't understand your concerns?

sorry, but this is not your business whether it's arranged marriage, how old she is or if she was brought up in a "very religious household"...it's purely a private matter not yours...get a life
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Re: arranged marriages in switzerland???

This thread is what motivated me to join the English forum, as I need to know if someone had already had this experience of getting arranged marriage facility in Switzerland ?


Is it just based on family relationship matters or communities of nationalities? or there is someone who knows a professional organization (not a dating site) that offers such services ?


For me as a Muslim I registered my details in the mosque near to me, and wanted to extend my search as well - there is a website that is mainly for such service - but sadly most registered people are not putting the correct information about them, you discover this after you start talking and feel no much trust to continue.


For those against this thing - I can understand your concerns and I respect them all, but some people may not have a chance to go out and socialize, many of them including me have this kind of shyness to initiate talk with people they don't know or don't know well, it does not mean they do not talk at all - they may be very talkative afterwards and this kind of arranged marriage is very helpful to them, it is like their hope to start a family and live a socially stable life.


I was also worried to write now as I just joined the forum today so I may look like a spammer while I promise I am not.
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Re: arranged marriages in switzerland???

so your question is if somebody knows an "agency" that helps with arranged marriages? how do you think this works? catalogue with women, price tag, contact details? i doubt it exists here and most arranged marriages will always happen that the families involved fix it. i think there is some criteria afer which the heads of the families pick "prospects" and decide that for each side... so why dont you ask your family?
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