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Moving Around Without Losing Your Roots

Great article that seems to describe so many of the people I meet here on a daily basis: http://blogs.hbr.org/cs/2012/10/movi...our_roots.html
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Old 24.01.2013, 16:03
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Thanks for sharing, LA! The concept of being a "misfit by choice" seems to sum it up well.
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Yes I quite agree. Its a weird feeling "Not Belonging" ... Im sure il get over it
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sacrifice for gaining life experience, the story of my life. Though as a great man once said, 'The core of a man's spirit comes from new experiences'. I believe that speaks about a lot of people on EF.
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Thanks for sharing, it's good to stop and think about these things every once in a while.
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Great article that seems to describe so many of the people I meet here on a daily basis: http://blogs.hbr.org/cs/2012/10/movi...our_roots.html
Yeah. You realise also that you can never make more friends quite like old friends.
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Yeah. You realise also that you can never make more friends quite like old friends.
Don't I know that too well!
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Don't I know that too well!

Its so true and actually quite sad. None of my friends from home get it... and honestly i know i cant expect them too.

At Christmas time it really hit home how i am feeling so (New Years Resolution Style) Ive figured the only one who can fix it is me. So Ive decided to contact people more, say yes to things I normally wouldnt etc..

The plus side though is that Im so much closer to my parents now. DIstance has done us well. We have reached a "Friendship Stage" and I value that friendship totally .... The downside to that is..... Im over here and they are over there which makes me miss them more! lol. I cant win
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So Ive decided to contact people more, say yes to things I normally wouldnt etc..

The plus side though is that Im so much closer to my parents now. DIstance has done us well. We have reached a "Friendship Stage" and I value that friendship totally .... The downside to that is..... Im over here and they are over there which makes me miss them more! lol. I cant win
Getting in touch is so replenishing for the spirit, especially when someone answers!
Though what I believe, from the 'downside', is ultimately your spirit and esteem grows massive.
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Re: Moving Around Without Losing Your Roots

I have lived in five countries in six years so am more than familiar with the feelings of loneliness and isolation, as well feeling generally overwhelmed, when you move. This was made even worse by the fact that I did not speak the language in three of those countries.

I guess that I am one of the lucky ones though since my father was in the services so we moved a few times when I was a child ... it is never easy though.
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Switzerland is the 10th country I have lived and worked in. I have felt for sometime that my nomadic existence defines me more as a person than where I originally come from.
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Switzerland is the 10th country I have lived and worked in. I have felt for sometime that my nomadic existence defines me more as a person than where I originally come from.
I have been here over 7 years... and i know theres another 10 on the cards at least. (Well.. life is what happens when we are busy making plans... but my guess is another 10 years)

I find it difficult not belonging anymore. I feel it more and more every time i go "home".

Its probably not a bad thing ..... its just different
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Re: Moving Around Without Losing Your Roots

It's a little hard to relate.. I think to feel like a misfit one has to actually want to fit or at least notices the difference. It's better to be too busy with one's projects and priorities than to want to fit or belong and then be sad coz you stick out.

The sad bit is, if you are parents who value independence and foster self sufficiency in your kids, you will naturally end up without seeing them much. Like my folks. Being more of a partner and a friend to your grown up kids often means you will not hear from them much. Distance is sometimes healthy, not a sad, depressing thing. Makes you realize you cope, you don't necessarily need your fambly to survive.
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Re: Moving Around Without Losing Your Roots

I agree with you. And it seems that the longer you've been living abroad, the more people back home see you as a foreigner as well. Though in all sincerity I don't think I've changed.

No matter how long you live in Switzerland you're always considered a foreigner. So foreigner here and foreigner back home, I don't feel like I belong anywhere anymore.
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Re: Moving Around Without Losing Your Roots

I have never had any roots in a particular place, so there are none to loose. I grew up moving around the world every four years or so. My husband also grew up without roots, which I guess is why we found each other,lol. Family is very important to us, as long as we have our family, we're good anywhere. You may not belong anywhere, but you can make home anywhere, you just have to be ok with that realization.
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It's a little hard to relate.. I think to feel like a misfit one has to actually want to fit or at least notices the difference.
For me, it's noticing the differences when I am "home" for visits to family and friends. It's obvious my life is nothing like that of the people still living in the small town where I grew up. Plenty of them don't have passports or have only been to Mexico/Caribbean.

Most days that's fine because I'm living my life here and I am happy. But it can be really weird when the conversation turns to "what did you do last weekend." For example:

Me: Um, we drove to <insert name of any major European city within driving distance of Bern> for a few days.

Them: Oh. We took the kids to McDonalds.
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I agree with you. And it seems that the longer you've been living abroad, the more people back home see you as a foreigner as well. Though in all sincerity I don't think I've changed.

No matter how long you live in Switzerland you're always considered a foreigner. So foreigner here and foreigner back home, I don't feel like I belong anywhere anymore.
Agreed. I like identifying with being 'Foreign'. When I go home, which hasn't been for 5 years, I feel completely out of place. I've moved on, expanded my mind through experience and meeting different people. Whereas the majority at 'home' are still in the same mindset, It's like watching one of your favourite movies after having not seeing it for a few years, and realizing it's not the same, somehow dated and not as interesting. When I meet fellow Expats here in CH, there's an immediate connection and open mindedness I can trust and relate to. I feel perfectly at home being an outcast.
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I have moved 15 times in 14 years, I am sick of it. I have stayed in Switzerland the longest. And I really would rather not move again. Not for awhile
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I have moved 15 times in 14 years
Why?!
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Less my choice, but I have had some great experiences. This is explained better over a beer.
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