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...... I thought about what I am doing wrong and what went wrong in the past....
I've read some of your comments Kitts, including the one from which the extract above was lifted. What are you doing differently now? and how's it working?
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. On Internet dating sites you would be confronted with a similar long list of choices / wishes.
I don't think that's necessarily true. As I said above, I tried Elitepartner for
a few months. Of course, there were women with lists (nothing wrong with a
few wishes) but I could skip over those that seemed OTT. I focused on
an age range and sort of looked for natural open-mindedness and a few other characteristics.

I met 4-5 women all of whom it was a pleasure to meet, and had a several month r/ship with one of them.

I'm out & about a bit and try to put myself in harm's way. In theory, there's
nothing wrong with supplementing that with an on-line service. In practice, the latter's very time-consuming.
oh and elite partner ended up being like a virus; I had my solicitor write to them and had a credit card re-issued to get shod of them
when I wanted to close the account...
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I don't think that's necessarily true. As I said above, I tried Elitepartner for
a few months. Of course, there were women with lists (nothing wrong with a
few wishes) but I could skip over those that seemed OTT. I focused on
an age range and sort of looked for natural open-mindedness and a few other characteristics.

I met 4-5 women all of whom it was a pleasure to meet, and had a several month r/ship with one of them.

I'm out & about a bit and try to put myself in harm's way. In theory, there's
nothing wrong with supplementing that with an on-line service. In practice, the latter's very time-consuming.
oh and elite partner ended up being like a virus; I had my solicitor write to them and had a credit card re-issued to get shod of them
when I wanted to close the account...
I can't concentrate and read your messages, unless you remove your avatar.
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Re: Any success stories with dating sites yet?

Badoo.com I met my husband (the best man in the world) there despite the fact that I was not serious and did not look for a relationship, just wanted to chat and learn French. It's a destiny, I guess!
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I can't concentrate and read your messages, unless you remove your avatar.

he he, sorry bout that.
You know Jonny V has slimmed right down; saw it in the paper not long ago..
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he he, sorry bout that.
You know Jonny V has slimmed right down; saw it in the paper not long ago..
The picture doesn't render properly on my tablet, so the face is pixelated. I always assumed the picture was you. Aviators can be misleading!
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Badoo.com I met my husband (the best man in the world) there despite the fact that I was not serious and did not look for a relationship, just wanted to chat and learn French. It's a destiny, I guess!
Gorgeous post! Would you like to share the story in more detail?
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... Aviators can be misleading!
Do you mean avatars?
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Do you mean avatars?
Do you consider pedantry to be an attractive quality in you?
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Badoo.com I met my husband (the best man in the world) there despite the fact that I was not serious and did not look for a relationship, just wanted to chat and learn French. It's a destiny, I guess!
Wow, you were lucky then to get something serious off of there. Badoo is literally the only dating site I have been on that I personally consider useless. Full of fake profiles, genuine whores, and people seem to have the attention span of a gnat. However, congrats all the same!
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Old 09.10.2013, 21:06
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Full of fake profiles, genuine whores, and people seem to have the attention span of a gnat.
I know another website like that!
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Re: Any success stories with dating sites yet?

I suppose I should contribute something sensible to this thread.

My circumstances when I first arrived in Switzerland were less than favourable (the fiancee for whom I moved over here dumped me seven days before I was due to arrive. I came anyway. I don't regret a thing! ), and I was reluctant to get involved with anyone romantically, despite being desperately lonely for the first couple of years.

I joined swissfriends.ch in the hope of meeting some decent female company for friendship. I was misled, somewhat, by the name of the website: it soon became clear that it's a dating site like any other. The problem is that I have always hated "dating". I'd rather go out for a few drinks, go for a walk, hang out with a bunch of friends, whatever, and if something happens then it happens, otherwise I'm having a good time anyway. The problem is that several of my correspondents had different ideas...

Despite getting myself into a few pickles with slightly less-than-sane women, I made some very good friends, some of whom I still see today, so it wasn't all bad. It also led to my joining the English Forum, which led to me attending a cheesy event at which I met the woman who later became my wife, so I guess, indirectly, swissfriends.ch did what it was supposed to.

Anyway, the key to using internet dating is to acknowledge that it's the internets. Just because someone seems like a really cool person on the internets, it doesn't mean they'll be the same in real life. Some women with whom I had crackling, sparkling relationships via email turned out to be either awkward or mad when I met them (I'm sure some of them thought the same of me, of course). On the other hand, some women with whom I had crackling, sparkling relationships via email are still good friends today... there's simply no way of telling.

Even if you're a bloke, apply some common sense. Don't put yourself in a position of danger - or in a position where you might find yourself accused of anything. Be a gentleman. Even if she's a nutter, she's still a human being and deserving of at least a polite refusal or let down.

And don't take any of it too seriously. As I said before: it's the internets. Once you've met someone several times in real life, then you can start thinking where things are heading. Until then, just treat it as a bit of fun, a mild diversion from real life.

It's got to be better than 9 Songs and a box of Kleenex, surely?
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I suppose I should contribute something sensible to this thread.

My circumstances when I first arrived in Switzerland were less than favourable (the fiancee for whom I moved over here dumped me seven days before I was due to arrive. I came anyway. I don't regret a thing! ), and I was reluctant to get involved with anyone romantically, despite being desperately lonely for the first couple of years.

I joined swissfriends.ch in the hope of meeting some decent female company for friendship. I was misled, somewhat, by the name of the website: it soon became clear that it's a dating site like any other. The problem is that I have always hated "dating". I'd rather go out for a few drinks, go for a walk, hang out with a bunch of friends, whatever, and if something happens then it happens, otherwise I'm having a good time anyway. The problem is that several of my correspondents had different ideas...

Despite getting myself into a few pickles with slightly less-than-sane women, I made some very good friends, some of whom I still see today, so it wasn't all bad. It also led to my joining the English Forum, which led to me attending a cheesy event at which I met the woman who later became my wife, so I guess, indirectly, swissfriends.ch did what it was supposed to.

Anyway, the key to using internet dating is to acknowledge that it's the internets. Just because someone seems like a really cool person on the internets, it doesn't mean they'll be the same in real life. Some women with whom I had crackling, sparkling relationships via email turned out to be either awkward or mad when I met them (I'm sure some of them thought the same of me, of course). On the other hand, some women with whom I had crackling, sparkling relationships via email are still good friends today... there's simply no way of telling.

Even if you're a bloke, apply some common sense. Don't put yourself in a position of danger - or in a position where you might find yourself accused of anything. Be a gentleman. Even if she's a nutter, she's still a human being and deserving of at least a polite refusal or let down.

And don't take any of it too seriously. As I said before: it's the internets. Once you've met someone several times in real life, then you can start thinking where things are heading. Until then, just treat it as a bit of fun, a mild diversion from real life.

It's got to be better than 9 Songs and a box of Kleenex, surely?
It feels good to hear people having success with dating sites of any kind here. It gives me a glimpse of a chance, the same happening for me, hopefully not very far form now. I have almost joined all the mentioned sites as of today, I'm carefully anticipating any message now. Looking how desperate & vulnerable I am though, I wouldn't be surprised if the first girl that shows me interest end up being my bride someday


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Looking how desperate & vulnerable I am though, I wouldn't be surprised if the first girl that shows me interest end up being my bride someday
Expect disappointment. One of the women I met through swissfriends.ch was wonderful. We chatted for hours and hours on the phone. We spent a weekend together. We had so much in common, it was like we were fated to meet. I thought we'd really bonded.

Except we hadn't. I'd invested too much into our friendship and came across (I now realise) as too needy, too desperate. She wasn't impressed and it fizzled out.

A few months later, though, I met a lovely young lady with whom I had almost nothing in common, apart from a cheeky sense of humour and a fondness for bratwurst and cider.

That turned out quite nicely, actually. But being a gentleman I'll leave it there...
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Wow, you were lucky then to get something serious off of there. Badoo is literally the only dating site I have been on that I personally consider useless. Full of fake profiles, genuine whores, and people seem to have the attention span of a gnat. However, congrats all the same!
useless? how?!

actually, badoo is so ridiculous, i thought it was a spoof. had fun trolling people on there though.

decent site for anyone after a no-strings hook-up, though.
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Everybody makes badoo sound like chatroulette
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Everybody makes badoo sound like chatroulette
Does that still exist? Man, we had lots of fun trolling masturbating men on chatroulette, there was that one month where they were doing construction/maintenance on the tram lines at night, not a chance of sleep, so we would mess with the sad public w@nkers online. Seems a lifetime away, to be able to do daft stuff just because.
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Do you consider pedantry to be an attractive quality in you?
That is one of mine (and kittster's) favorite qualities! do they have a check box for that on these dating sites?


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Just because someone seems like a really cool person on the internets, it doesn't mean they'll be the same in real life.
I'm much cooler in real life..... wait this is a thread about dating sites... what am I doing here????? slow night on EF!


Anyway..... I have a friend who is on ALL the dating sites. She is genuinely gorgeous with a figure that will stop traffic, super intelligent (doctorate candidate anyone?), speaks 4 language fluently, has a great job, funny, sweet as pie... basically she is perfect, and she can't get find love online.

Being none of those things and having been in a series of one long term relationship after another, I do wonder what she is doing wrong......
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Anyway..... I have a friend who is on ALL the dating sites. She is genuinely gorgeous with a figure that will stop traffic, super intelligent (doctorate candidate anyone?), speaks 4 language fluently, has a great job, funny, sweet as pie... basically she is perfect, and she can't get find love online.

Being none of those things and having been in a series of one long term relationship after another, I do wonder what she is doing wrong......
she's probably a horrible horrible person deep inside.
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Anyway..... I have a friend who is on ALL the dating sites. She is genuinely gorgeous with a figure that will stop traffic, super intelligent (doctorate candidate anyone?), speaks 4 language fluently, has a great job, funny, sweet as pie... basically she is perfect, and she can't get find love online.

Being none of those things and having been in a series of one long term relationship after another, I do wonder what she is doing wrong......
very simple: if you are perfect, you shouldn't shop on the desperate market.
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