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maybe a heavily drinking, partying man, that is wild about bikes and cars, doesn't need a girl friend.
Yes they do!

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Yes they do!

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Someone needs to clean up after the party and wash the grease stains on the biking clothes!
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Maybe Allan you like dating alcoholic extraverts?

The big advantage for me when I used dating sites, was I could limit my search for someone living near me and who met my basic requirements.

What is the point of going to bars looking for women, who are often out with their friends and just not looking for a partner? You waste your time and you can look to be a fool, when trying to pick up happily married women. By all means go about your daily life with your eyes open, but many people do not trust complete strangers!

Join a good dating site, create a sensible true profile, add two nice pictures and wait. If nobody bites then look at yourself closely: maybe a heavily drinking, partying man, that is wild about bikes and cars, doesn't need a girl friend.
Nicely said! Now, I will need an address of this dating-site which sounds to be working for you well.
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Old 08.10.2013, 12:15
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Nicely said! Now, I will need an address of this dating-site which sounds to be working for you well.
I am NOT on here... but do you reconize anyone? Actually many of these ads are quite stale.

http://dating.telegraph.co.uk/s/find/search.php

and strangely the Times has a similar site.. http://www.encountersdating.co.uk/s/find/search.php
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Re: Any success stories with dating sites yet?

Meeting randoms via face-to-face scenarios, or via friends is not similar to meeting on the internet, so the discussion that often pops up about which is better is fruitless.

As there's still a social tabboo in some cultures about meeting online, those who partake in it will often have an emotive staunchly-defensive response to discussion of:

-The negative impact of it and the negative behaviours and judgements it encourages in members
-If it is helping, or just encouraging unpleasant people to continue to avoid taking responsibility for being unsuitable and undesirable for relationships unless they change

Anyone with a suspicion of/closed mind to meeting new people will always struggle to find partners. In a busy populated location, there are opportunities to meet interesting impressive people every day, but not if you're unfriendly and unwelcoming.

I remain perplexed by the numbers of people who tell me they have resorted to internet dating because they never meet any men/women, yet watching their behaviour in day-to-day situations shows them causing this. They don't proffer a smile or kind words to anyone. They don't pass the time of day in conversation; they stay silent and stare at the ground. They emit discomfort with social situations.
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Re: Any success stories with dating sites yet?

As "european" culture doesnt have a taboo or stigma about internet dating how relevant is it to the majority ?
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Meeting randoms via face-to-face scenarios, or via friends is not similar to meeting on the internet, so the discussion that often pops up about which is better is fruitless.

As there's still a social tabboo in some cultures about meeting online, those who partake in it will often have an emotive staunchly-defensive response to discussion of:

-The negative impact of it and the negative behaviours and judgements it encourages in members
-If it is helping, or just encouraging unpleasant people to continue to avoid taking responsibility for being unsuitable and undesirable for relationships unless they change

Anyone with a suspicion of/closed mind to meeting new people will always struggle to find partners. In a busy populated location, there are opportunities to meet interesting impressive people every day, but not if you're unfriendly and unwelcoming.

I remain perplexed by the numbers of people who tell me they have resorted to internet dating because they never meet any men/women, yet watching their behaviour in day-to-day situations shows them causing this. They don't proffer a smile or kind words to anyone. They don't pass the time of day in conversation; they stay silent and stare at the ground. They emit discomfort with social situations.
They're probably also nerds who spend all their time on EF
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What is the point of going to bars looking for women, who are often out with their friends and just not looking for a partner? You waste your time and you can look to be a fool, when trying to pick up happily married women.
I agree that dating sites filters out the search for any individual easily. But, you are not sure about the person in such cases. Online dating sites are crowded with fake profiles. Very few profiles are true. Here is slight disconnect of thoughts.
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i agree that dating sites filters out the search for any individual easily. But, you are not sure about the person in such cases. Online dating sites are crowded with fake profiles. Very few profiles are true. Here is slight disconnect of thoughts.
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Nonsense, the opposite is true.

Dating sites work much better than trying to pick up someone in a bar as far as relationships go.

Tom
I am not saying to pick up a random girl from a bar neither I am against dating sites. After all, it generates revenue to their owners.

But , I ll prefer more valid and sensible way to approach a girl for a long term relationship rather than choosing someone on any xyz.com , have intercourse and end up at no where. Thats what I personally feel
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Old 08.10.2013, 15:41
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What is the point of going to bars looking for women, who are often out with their friends and just not looking for a partner? You waste your time and you can look to be a fool, when trying to pick up happily married women. By all means go about your daily life with your eyes open, but many people do not trust complete strangers!
It's interesting how differently we see this. I can see it could feel like wasted time, if the person turns out to be dangerous/psychotic/toxic/repellent. I can see you could feel like a fool, if the person is offensive in letting you know they are attached/uninterested.

However, there are many other scenarios that could play out, and it feels like you used the word "often" without merit, because there are always lots of single women looking for single men.

Couldn't this person also turn out to be a new friend or acquaintance, with single friends for you to meet?

Couldn't this person also turn out to be a new friend or acquaintance, who becomes single at a later point (I'm not suggesting to hope for the ending of their relationship, though)?

Isn't deciding you'd like a relationship inclusive of the idea that it might not happen immediately, and that you may need to put yourself in different situations to optimise your opportunities to meet new people?
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It's interesting how differently we see this. I can see it could feel like wasted time, if the person turns out to be dangerous/psychotic/toxic/repellent. I can see you could feel like a fool, if the person is offensive in letting you know they are attached/uninterested.

However, there are many other scenarios that could play out, and it feels like you used the word "often" without merit, because there are always lots of single women looking for single men.

Couldn't this person also turn out to be a new friend or acquaintance, with single friends for you to meet?

Couldn't this person also turn out to be a new friend or acquaintance, who becomes single at a later point (I'm not suggesting to hope for the ending of their relationship, though)?

Isn't deciding you'd like a relationship inclusive of the idea that it might not happen immediately, and that you may need to put yourself in different situations to optimise your opportunities to meet new people?
Alice is that you?

I wonder in which part of Switzerland you are living anyway. Because, judging by your over-the-top assertions, and notion of befriending people here that easy as you describe it, will make one question, your overall mental state (You've been warned) . But, I can assure you, beyond any reasonable doubt ... specially here in Switzerland, there isn't a context in which going out to find someone is easier than the whole internet-dating process. It's just not true. I am the living and breathing evidence of that fact. I'm not sure, if you are this irresistibly hot girl, which everyone stares at (in that case pm me) or somehow likable ... and things are working out for you, don't know. But, for a regular guy like me, not much to look at ... just forget it. It won't work.. or as the Texans like to put it "That dog don't hunt".
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Seriously, I refuse to kiss an ashtray. .
Hi Kittster
I was just having a tower at today's posts & saw this thread.
Your comment above reminded me instantly of my U17 rugby coach.
He'd noticed that some of us had girlfriends that smoked and said 'how
can you do that? must be like kissing an ash tray!'

anyway, what if the guy is tall, fit, isn't a complete muppet, likes a bit of rumpy pumpy, has patience of Job etc...
but was widowed suddenly several years ago, and has kids (gymi aged).

You've got a pretty long wish list, and am wondering how I measure up..

re: dating sites, I was on elite partner for a bit. It was time-consuming and
hard work half, or more, of it in German (I'm ok in D & F but can't express
myself with the velvet subtlety of English). I met a few great women, had one realtionship in particular... although the timing wasn't the best...


I don't usually use many ellipses, quite a few above however. You must've intimidated (or excited) me!

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In a busy populated location, there are opportunities to meet interesting impressive people every day
Perhaps, but there are plenty of people who do not live or work in a busy populated location.

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Alice is that you?

I wonder in which part of Switzerland you are living anyway. Because, judging by your over-the-top assertions, and notion of befriending people here that easy as you describe it, will make one question, your overall mental state (You've been warned) . But, I can assure you, beyond any reasonable doubt ... specially here in Switzerland, there isn't a context in which going out to find someone is easier than the whole internet-dating process. It's just not true. I am the living and breathing evidence of that fact. I'm not sure, if you are this irresistibly hot girl, which everyone stares at (in that case pm me) or somehow likable ... and things are working out for you, don't know. But, for a regular guy like me, not much to look at ... just forget it. It won't work.. or as the Texans like to put it "That dog don't hunt".
It's a pity they don't list location on here...

If you need to resort to insulting a woman's mental state for a cheap thrill, that only reflects on you.

Obviously, it's impossible for anyone to comment on the specifics of your own dating dilemmas, without knowing more about you, so we can't especially comment.

Can you be specific about what you disagree with in my posts?

Here's an example from last night. I was out running late, and 2 guys bantered with me as I approached and ran past. This resulted in all laughing, and I stopped for a couple of mins to chat with them. 1 of them expressed interest in a date, and I said thank you for the compliment but that I wasn't looking for a date. The bantering continued, then all wished goodnight, I carried on running, and they went wherever they were going to. All very civil and pleasant, and a fun surprise to my run.
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Perhaps, but there are plenty of people who do not live or work in a busy populated location.

Tom
Sure, but does that need stating? The word "plenty" is stretching it, but I think most people know that some people choose to live outside of that description. Is the point of your post to suggest that dating sites are most useful to remotely located people?
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Re: Any success stories with dating sites yet?

I see Abe 'I'd rather remain schtum and be thought a fool than open my mouth and remove all doubt' Lincoln is pictured above.

could be relevant... just saying...


... more ellipses...
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It's a pity they don't list location on here...

If you need to resort to insulting a woman's mental state for a cheap thrill, that only reflects on you.

Obviously, it's impossible for anyone to comment on the specifics of your own dating dilemmas, without knowing more about you, so we can't especially comment.

Can you be specific about what you disagree with in my posts?

Here's an example from last night. I was out running late, and 2 guys bantered with me as I approached and ran past. This resulted in all laughing, and I stopped for a couple of mins to chat with them. 1 of them expressed interest in a date, and I said thank you for the compliment but that I wasn't looking for a date. The bantering continued, then all wished goodnight, I carried on running, and they went wherever they were going to. All very civil and pleasant, and a fun surprise to my run.
Where, How and When did this happen? I want every detail...

I surely, wouldn't mind running back-and-forth a couple of times on this mystical holy ground, given that is all takes to chat for "couple of mins".
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Here is slight disconnect of thoughts.
Are you sure English is your native language? I wonder if you're even in the US.
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It's a pity they don't list location on here...

If you need to resort to insulting a woman's mental state for a cheap thrill, that only reflects on you.

Obviously, it's impossible for anyone to comment on the specifics of your own dating dilemmas, without knowing more about you, so we can't especially comment.

Can you be specific about what you disagree with in my posts?

Here's an example from last night. I was out running late, and 2 guys bantered with me as I approached and ran past. This resulted in all laughing, and I stopped for a couple of mins to chat with them. 1 of them expressed interest in a date, and I said thank you for the compliment but that I wasn't looking for a date. The bantering continued, then all wished goodnight, I carried on running, and they went wherever they were going to. All very civil and pleasant, and a fun surprise to my run.
No one splash water or throw ice cream at you this time and the subsequent fear of going out?
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