Go Back   English Forum Switzerland > Living in Switzerland > Daily life
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #541  
Old 12.11.2014, 21:52
Dechen01's Avatar
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: Luzern
Posts: 205
Groaned at 5 Times in 1 Post
Thanked 175 Times in 98 Posts
Dechen01 is considered knowledgeableDechen01 is considered knowledgeableDechen01 is considered knowledgeable
Re: London vs Zurich


I spent the year 2010 in London. From what I have seen and experienced, it shouldn't be a problem to find a potential boyfriend/husband there, even when you are over 30. Same for Switzerland. I met the love of my life in Switzerland - an East Asian by the way (born and raised in Tibet). You'll be fine wherever you go, don't worry
Reply With Quote
The following 4 users would like to thank Dechen01 for this useful post:
  #542  
Old 12.11.2014, 21:58
Phos's Avatar
Forum Legend
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: ZRH
Posts: 7,177
Groaned at 462 Times in 350 Posts
Thanked 9,365 Times in 4,926 Posts
Phos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
Austin sounds about right My brother did his MBA there, at McCombs school of business and says there is no a single thing he dislikes there
Austin is a highly educated part of America. They sell more books per capita than any other city. Have you been? BBQ and the underground music scene is tops.
Reply With Quote
The following 4 users would like to thank Phos for this useful post:
  #543  
Old 12.11.2014, 22:02
FuriousRose's Avatar
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: nearby the lake
Posts: 849
Groaned at 21 Times in 17 Posts
Thanked 890 Times in 424 Posts
FuriousRose has a reputation beyond reputeFuriousRose has a reputation beyond reputeFuriousRose has a reputation beyond reputeFuriousRose has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
Girlfriend, I'm not taking personal life decisions based on a Chinese/Asian racist view of the world. Certainly not in my personal life (except that I will never ever date an Asian from Asia). However some of this view has certainly filtered into the interactions and experiences I've had living out here. It's reflected in all sorts of everyday ways eg the legal rights you get as a landlord or tenant in many countries of Asia. I do believe in reciprocity. Now that I've experienced and read up on Asia I am of the view that there should be reciprocity in treatment of citizens. Eg in the Thai property market ...Thailand does not let foreigners hold title to land in their name...well I am of the view that when Thais come over to the UK or Switzerland we should grant them exactly the same rights, ie none. There are many other examples I could give.
Regarding the property market, you should see the context of these developing countries. One of the main reasons that government in these countries don't allow foreigners to own land is to prevent foreigners (mainly coming from developed countries) to buy out all their lands. This is also very important for developing countries that still rely on their natural resources as their main economic source. Still, as you see in these countries, particularly in Southeast Asia, foreign corporations control a lot lands because they are allow to lease. You can imagine in my home country, most of the oil palm plantations are controlled by foreign companies. And another reason is associated to the history of colonialism. See, you can't say that colonialism argument is expired. That means abandoning the history of country and a society.
Now I mention about colonialism, and you mentioned that you believe in reciprocity, should we then suggest these countries invade the countries that colonised them in the past?
Reply With Quote
The following 4 users would like to thank FuriousRose for this useful post:
  #544  
Old 12.11.2014, 22:05
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: Ungarn
Posts: 91
Groaned at 17 Times in 12 Posts
Thanked 87 Times in 44 Posts
Der_Spieler has become a little unpopular
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
Austin is a highly educated part of America. They sell more books per capita than any other city. Have you been? BBQ and the underground music scene is tops.
Yes, BBQ is top class indeed. We visited a farm in a small town near Austin where you can order a burger, wait 3 hours while literally the cow is being slaughtered, go sightseeing, then come 3 hours later and enjoy a super fresh $35 burger ))
Reply With Quote
This user would like to thank Der_Spieler for this useful post:
  #545  
Old 12.11.2014, 22:07
litespeed's Avatar
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Dietikon ZH
Posts: 1,854
Groaned at 15 Times in 12 Posts
Thanked 2,398 Times in 730 Posts
litespeed has a reputation beyond reputelitespeed has a reputation beyond reputelitespeed has a reputation beyond reputelitespeed has a reputation beyond reputelitespeed has a reputation beyond reputelitespeed has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
I'm interested in the world today and how it got here. One of the reasons I'm single is because I spend a lot of my spare time reading books especially by non-western authors about politics and economics. It's also partially part of my job.
I think we've worked out the other reasons...

You've really got lighten up and get out more. I'm also interested in the past, but Im far more concerned about today, the future and life first hand. Life is about interaction with people and the environment. You need to climb to the top of a mountain on a rainy day, jump into to ocean and taste the salt, go out and dance with total strangers. Learn to love and laugh at yourself and with others. Work out what makes you happy and strive for that, nothing else, like work or money, is important

Life isn't so serious, but it so finite. Venture outside your comfort zone and you might just get positively excited.
__________________
So sayeth the 'Speed
* I do look like my avatar
Reply With Quote
The following 5 users would like to thank litespeed for this useful post:
  #546  
Old 12.11.2014, 22:09
Forum Legend
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: CH
Posts: 5,123
Groaned at 189 Times in 148 Posts
Thanked 6,088 Times in 3,292 Posts
greenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
Regarding the property market, you should see the context of these developing countries. One of the main reasons that government in these countries don't allow foreigners to own land is to prevent foreigners (mainly coming from developed countries) to buy out all their lands. This is also very important for developing countries that still rely on their natural resources as their main economic source.
That should be done everywhere, not only in Asia. Unfortunately, within E.U. there are no barriers and you can imagine how disadvantaged the less developed countries are.
So who can blame those governments for this, really.
Reply With Quote
The following 2 users would like to thank greenmount for this useful post:
  #547  
Old 12.11.2014, 22:10
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: Ungarn
Posts: 91
Groaned at 17 Times in 12 Posts
Thanked 87 Times in 44 Posts
Der_Spieler has become a little unpopular
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
That should be done everywhere, not only in Asia. Unfortunately, within E.U. there are no barriers and you can imagine how disadvantaged the less developed countries are.
Spot on. Sunny Beach, Bulgaria is basically owned by the British But the EU is supposed to , at least legally ,be one big country, so ...why not
Reply With Quote
This user would like to thank Der_Spieler for this useful post:
  #548  
Old 12.11.2014, 22:13
Forum Legend
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: CH
Posts: 5,123
Groaned at 189 Times in 148 Posts
Thanked 6,088 Times in 3,292 Posts
greenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
Spot on. Sunny Beach, Bulgaria is basically owned by the British But the EU is supposed to , at least legally ,be one big country, so ...why not
Erm, yeah. When I hear UK politicians and some of the simpler folks I feel like I'm part of that big, happy and tolerant family.. (not to mention an informed one)
But I agree with you... It will be like that in time. People can't get readily used with this idea though.
Reply With Quote
  #549  
Old 12.11.2014, 22:13
FuriousRose's Avatar
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: nearby the lake
Posts: 849
Groaned at 21 Times in 17 Posts
Thanked 890 Times in 424 Posts
FuriousRose has a reputation beyond reputeFuriousRose has a reputation beyond reputeFuriousRose has a reputation beyond reputeFuriousRose has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
I think we've worked out the other reasons...

You've really got lighten up and get out more. I'm also interested in the past,...
Are you applying to be one of the candidates?

*Matchmaking mode
Reply With Quote
The following 2 users would like to thank FuriousRose for this useful post:
  #550  
Old 12.11.2014, 22:25
litespeed's Avatar
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Dietikon ZH
Posts: 1,854
Groaned at 15 Times in 12 Posts
Thanked 2,398 Times in 730 Posts
litespeed has a reputation beyond reputelitespeed has a reputation beyond reputelitespeed has a reputation beyond reputelitespeed has a reputation beyond reputelitespeed has a reputation beyond reputelitespeed has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
Are you applying to be one of the candidates?

*Matchmaking mode
Definitely not! A good sense of humour is a major prerequisite for me, and it's something the OP doesn't have.
Reply With Quote
The following 3 users would like to thank litespeed for this useful post:
  #551  
Old 12.11.2014, 22:25
Forum Legend
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: CH
Posts: 5,123
Groaned at 189 Times in 148 Posts
Thanked 6,088 Times in 3,292 Posts
greenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
Are you applying to be one of the candidates?

*Matchmaking mode
If OP decides to move to Zürich and then to attend some of the legendary EF events I'm sure there will be some candidates...I've heard there are even EF babies, I wouldn't be sure though, it could be just rumours...
Reply With Quote
The following 2 users would like to thank greenmount for this useful post:
  #552  
Old 12.11.2014, 22:35
VFR on top's Avatar
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: Jul 2014
Location: Basel
Posts: 724
Groaned at 19 Times in 11 Posts
Thanked 1,537 Times in 553 Posts
VFR on top has a reputation beyond reputeVFR on top has a reputation beyond reputeVFR on top has a reputation beyond reputeVFR on top has a reputation beyond reputeVFR on top has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
...I've heard there are even EF babies, I wouldn't be sure though, it could be just rumours...



like this one?


Reply With Quote
The following 3 users would like to thank VFR on top for this useful post:
  #553  
Old 12.11.2014, 22:43
Phos's Avatar
Forum Legend
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: ZRH
Posts: 7,177
Groaned at 462 Times in 350 Posts
Thanked 9,365 Times in 4,926 Posts
Phos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
I met the love of my life in Switzerland - an East Asian by the way (born and raised in Tibet). You'll be fine wherever you go, don't worry
Tell us you're a woman!
Reply With Quote
The following 3 users would like to thank Phos for this useful post:
  #554  
Old 12.11.2014, 23:19
Phos's Avatar
Forum Legend
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: ZRH
Posts: 7,177
Groaned at 462 Times in 350 Posts
Thanked 9,365 Times in 4,926 Posts
Phos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond reputePhos has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
....But honestly now that I understand the Asian perspective of the world, it frightens me to see how brain washed the west is. .....
Quote:
View Post
It's far more relevant and necessary to look at Chinese economic and neo-colonial interests around the world. Wake up everyone - we're living in a brand new rapidly changing world! All this colonialism talk is more than expired.
Quote:
View Post
Guys you need to live in the political and economic present. The world is changing fast and you guys just seem outdated.
Quote:
View Post
I can post links to books by Asian intellectuals on this point.
Alright, fine, why don't you just spill it all in one good cathartic post instead of dozens of measly trepid posts?

So you read a lot. Of whatever it is, who knows. What are you really all freaked out about? Is the end nigh?

You too Der_Spieler. I promise I will listen and consider seriously.

Is there something wrong with the soylent green?
Reply With Quote
The following 2 users would like to thank Phos for this useful post:
  #555  
Old 12.11.2014, 23:28
Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: zurich
Posts: 188
Groaned at 14 Times in 12 Posts
Thanked 292 Times in 152 Posts
sudeepta has a reputation beyond reputesudeepta has a reputation beyond reputesudeepta has a reputation beyond reputesudeepta has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
Is there something wrong with the soylent green?
Yes kids are learning to swim the wrong way
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature...&v=kshb9a6mZS8
Regards
Reply With Quote
The following 2 users would like to thank sudeepta for this useful post:
  #556  
Old 12.11.2014, 23:36
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: Ungarn
Posts: 91
Groaned at 17 Times in 12 Posts
Thanked 87 Times in 44 Posts
Der_Spieler has become a little unpopular
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
Yes kids are learning to swim the wrong way
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature...&v=kshb9a6mZS8
Regards
You do realize you don`t actually have to write Regards every time , don`t you ))))
Reply With Quote
  #557  
Old 12.11.2014, 23:39
Forum Legend
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: CH
Posts: 5,123
Groaned at 189 Times in 148 Posts
Thanked 6,088 Times in 3,292 Posts
greenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond reputegreenmount has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
Tell us you're a woman!
Well, if it is of any consolation to OP, at least someone got married in China. With a Chinese man!!!

http://sarajaaksola.com/category/get...ried-in-china/
Reply With Quote
This user would like to thank greenmount for this useful post:
  #558  
Old 12.11.2014, 23:52
Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: zurich
Posts: 188
Groaned at 14 Times in 12 Posts
Thanked 292 Times in 152 Posts
sudeepta has a reputation beyond reputesudeepta has a reputation beyond reputesudeepta has a reputation beyond reputesudeepta has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
You do realize you don`t actually have to write Regards every time , don`t you ))))
I always have regards for my fellow EF-er. And somebody might be reading any particular post for the first time.

Regards
Reply With Quote
The following 3 users would like to thank sudeepta for this useful post:
  #559  
Old 13.11.2014, 00:26
FuriousRose's Avatar
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: nearby the lake
Posts: 849
Groaned at 21 Times in 17 Posts
Thanked 890 Times in 424 Posts
FuriousRose has a reputation beyond reputeFuriousRose has a reputation beyond reputeFuriousRose has a reputation beyond reputeFuriousRose has a reputation beyond repute
Re: London vs Zurich

Quote:
View Post
Is there something wrong with the soylent green?
Ecopop? Oh no, wrong thread..
Reply With Quote
This user would like to thank FuriousRose for this useful post:
  #560  
Old 13.11.2014, 00:36
IzabelaInZug's Avatar
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: Zug
Posts: 728
Groaned at 62 Times in 36 Posts
Thanked 485 Times in 257 Posts
IzabelaInZug is considered knowledgeableIzabelaInZug is considered knowledgeableIzabelaInZug is considered knowledgeable
Re: London vs Zurich

So you are saying you are single at the age of 34 because of reading books... I thought being smart and educated having hobbies can only help. Nobody is single because of reading books.. sounds like excuse but not very good one. What are your other excuses? Maybe you need to shine some light on the problems that stop you form (successful) dating? Sometimes therapy helps. Perhaps you can talk to someone who is professionally prepared to deal with such problems? Talking to family and friends might seem like a good idea but it is not always so. Friends don't want to give you wrong advice or they don't have such experience and mothers take it too personally so think of relationship coach.

Do you like men? If you don't they will feel it. If you are frustrated, desperate and can't access your feminity (too independent, too career-focused or too much in your masculine) they will all run for the hills.

Forget about the list of qualities you are looking for. "Dating scene"? I would avoid it. What is dating scene anyway? I hate this expression to be honest. Sounds like meat market. It is nice to meet people and being sociable helps but are you aiming for decent man to spend your life with or some notorious bachelor? You can meet interesting people everywhere so focus on other channels. You should be looking for someone emotionally stable, someone who can keep a job and will love you, someone you won't be bored with. It is a lot but there are plenty of fish in the water and the theory about two halves of one apple is outdated. There are many people on this planet you can be happy with but you will have to make some effort and maybe break the cycle and habits that no longer serve? If you approach each fella with your list and mangyfing glass chances are small and they are getting even smaller with each year passing. Usually the older we get the less flexible we are with our routine and habits. It also becomes difficut to adjust to other person's life style.

I'll give you unasked advice: we often see these big white men with Thai girls and we secretly laugh at in our opinion pathetic or fake relationships but we can also learn smg from them. Sometimes things are much simpler than you think. Sometimes it is just enough to be pretty, smile= be positive person, show him attention, be a good friend etc. etc.

You need to think of how to make man feel like a man. Today when women are so career-focused this energy exchange can be imbalanced so think of the relationship more in terms of Jin and Yang exchange. If you feel complete already and always lead with masculine energy, chances somebody will be attracted to it are not great. I am not suggesting you have to be first disconnected or unfulfilled. This is not the point but please read about relationship polarity. I know it is difficult because with love there is no handbook or training program so you will have to do a bit more work on your own. Once you understand it things can change.

Being 34 shouldn't stop you from being happy in private life.
Don't listen to men who say 31 is already too old for many, wishful thinking and everyone is allowed to fantasize. Not so long ago I've met two women who just got pregnant with their first. They are both 40 so you have time but you need to develop some new skills.

Access your feminity and enjoy it. Don't always show you are smarter than him. I know how it sounds but you are smart and successful, you are brave to travel, live in foreign countries and have career there but this WILL NOT help you to find a man. He is not looking for someone to compete with. He probably has that 5 days a week (so don't bring work home). You want to CONNECT not compete. He wants to be a hunter and bread winner. Let him and enjoy it, relax as you don't have to prove anything.

Your job and education is your strong asset but you need to focus on what you can contribute as a woman to the relationship. The question is do you want it? Will you be really happy to compromise on your career (I don't think it is necessary, maybe on the attitude to your career, your job does not define who you are) and do you really need a man by your side?


Sorry about my English. It is probably full of typos and other mistakes but I'm trying to tell you what I know.

Last edited by IzabelaInZug; 13.11.2014 at 01:08.
Reply With Quote
The following 10 users would like to thank IzabelaInZug for this useful post:
This user groans at IzabelaInZug for this post:
Reply




Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Top end of IT market - my experience of London vs Zurich cm3101 Employment 105 14.12.2012 11:29
Software Engineering salaries, Zurich vs. London alanic Employment 8 11.08.2010 13:19
london vs zurich .. yes i know this has been asked before pimlico Employment 11 23.02.2010 12:19
London Vs Geneva salary Alty938 Employment 25 07.01.2008 09:42
Zurich vs London lana Daily life 31 09.09.2007 23:08


All times are GMT +2. The time now is 10:11.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2016, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
LinkBacks Enabled by vBSEO 3.1.0