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Women on sex & age:
at 20+: Mainly curiousity and experimentations
at 30+: It's all about the passion
at 40+: This is when women really learn how to enjoy sex to the fullest.

It's suppose to get better and better with age for women. But guys, on the other hand, may have ED by that point. But don't fret. Notice viagra was invented before a cure for cancer.
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So you are saying you are single at the age of 34 because of reading books... I thought being smart and educated having hobbies can only help. Nobody is single because of reading books.. sounds like excuse but not very good one. What are your other excuses? Maybe you need to shine some light on the problems that stop you form (successful) dating? Sometimes therapy helps. Perhaps you can talk to someone who is professionally prepared to deal with such problems? Talking to family and friends might seem like a good idea but it is not always so. Friends don't want to give you wrong advice or they don't have such experience and mothers take it too personally so think of relationship coach.

Do you like men? If you don't they will feel it. If you are frustrated, desperate and can't access your feminity (too independent, too career-focused or too much in your masculine) they will all run for the hills.

Forget about the list of qualities you are looking for. "Dating scene"? I would avoid it. What is dating scene anyway? I hate this expression to be honest. Sounds like meat market. It is nice to meet people and being sociable helps but are you aiming for decent man to spend your life with or some notorious bachelor? You can meet interesting people everywhere so focus on other channels. You should be looking for someone emotionally stable, someone who can keep a job and will love you, someone you won't be bored with. It is a lot but there are plenty of fish in the water and the theory about two halves of one apple is outdated. There are many people on this planet you can be happy with but you will have to make some effort and maybe break the cycle and habits that no longer serve? If you approach each fella with your list and mangyfing glass chances are small and they are getting even smaller with each year passing. Usually the older we get the less flexible we are with our routine and habits. It also becomes difficut to adjust to other person's life style.

I'll give you unasked advice: we often see these big white men with Thai girls and we secretly laugh at in our opinion pathetic or fake relationships but we can also learn smg from them. Sometimes things are much simpler than you think. Sometimes it is just enough to be pretty, smile= be positive person, show him attention, be a good friend etc. etc.

You need to think of how to make man feel like a man. Today when women are so career-focused this energy exchange can be imbalanced so think of the relationship more in terms of Jin and Yang exchange. If you feel complete already and always lead with masculine energy, chances somebody will be attracted to it are not great. I am not suggesting you have to be first disconnected or unfulfilled. This is not the point but please read about relationship polarity. I know it is difficult because with love there is no handbook or training program so you will have to do a bit more work on your own. Once you understand it things can change.

Being 34 shouldn't stop you from being happy in private life.
Don't listen to men who say 31 is already too old for many, wishful thinking and everyone is allowed to fantasize. Not so long ago I've met two women who just got pregnant with their first. They are both 40 so you have time but you need to develop some new skills.

Access your feminity and enjoy it. Don't always show you are smarter than him. I know how it sounds but you are smart and successful, you are brave to travel, live in foreign countries and have career there but this WILL NOT help you to find a man. He is not looking for someone to compete with. He probably has that 5 days a week (so don't bring work home). You want to CONNECT not compete. He wants to be a hunter and bread winner. Let him and enjoy it, relax as you don't have to prove anything.

Your job and education is your strong asset but you need to focus on what you can contribute as a woman to the relationship. The question is do you want it? Will you be really happy to compromise on your career (I don't think it is necessary, maybe on the attitude to your career, your job does not define who you are) and do you really need a man by your side?


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Dude I never said anything about white supremacy - stop putting words in my mouth; if anything I went on about Asian supremacy. I am sick and tired of being labelled racist for pointing put alternative world views to the liberal we are all equal and let's rant on and on about western colonialism and let's deny cultural differences in an increasingly economically important part of the world that are undermining respect for women. But wait it suits you since you decided to buy into it right?
If anything that makes you happy about these cultural differences that are undermining women, you should consider this concept: "the mistress and the maid", which underlies the world of women nowadays. Liberation, gender empowerment or gender equality in the West, which allows participation of women in the work force, is not accompanied by equal division labour at the household. That implies, among others, that the households need people who will do domestic and reproductive works, previously done by women. And guess what: it's mainly women from the Southeast (or I'd prefer the divide between North and South in this case, rather than East and West, because Southern countries also include developing countries not located in the East, such as Latin America).




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I think your last sentiment was uncalled for, especially as Izabela was genuinely offering sincere advice. But seeing we've dropped the diplomacy, I'll translate what this boyfriend of yours said as direct I can:



I'll give you a real insider pro tip: Stick to a "5 date rule". The additional 2 dates will separate the guys who are really serious from those who just want to f**k you. This will work pretty much universally in SIN, ZRH or LDN.
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I sometimes think so as well: When you mix Durian with alcohol it kind of feels like being in St. Gallen...
Wait, there's Durian in St. Gallen?
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Old 13.11.2014, 11:28
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And by the way, I prefer to be single than date some guy who is incapable of developing his own INDEPENDENT view of the world.
That's right baby... I know what you need. Mr. Grey will see you now.

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Old 13.11.2014, 11:42
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Definitely one of my favorite popcorn threads. It has it all, Regional comparisons, insults, racist, all-trolly goodness and a lovestory to boot!

I hereby reserve the film rights to this---it will be the modern love-story masterpiece.

Plot twist in the last few pages, new working title:
"The curious progression of a future crazy cat lady"

Directed by M. Night Shyamalan
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If anything that makes you happy about these cultural differences that are undermining women, you should consider this concept: "the mistress and the maid", which underlies the world of women nowadays. Liberation, gender empowerment or gender equality in the West, which allows participation of women in the work force, is not accompanied by equal division labour at the household. That implies, among others, that the households need people who will do domestic and reproductive works, previously done by women. And guess what: it's mainly women from the Southeast (or I'd prefer the divide between North and South in this case, rather than East and West, because Southern countries also include developing countries not located in the East, such as Latin America).




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Wait, there's Durian in St. Gallen?

Actually I agree with you on women in the workplace but that wasn't what I was referring to. I was referring to the way women are treated as highlighted in previous posts ie things like bodily integrity, rape, domestic violence rates, etc. I'm not alone...a female friend of mine dated a highly educated Indian guy and got pregnant and had to have an abortion. He told her it was her fault and she had to pay for and go through the abortion alone. These stories abound out here (esp with Indian guys) but of course you're more likely to be aware of these stories if you're a western WOMAN.

@litespeed - I'll match your crudeness. My ex had a low sex drive and had trouble getting it up. I liked him that much that it didn't matter to me. Unsurprisingly, it turns out that he's broken up with latest gf. Yup, there are people out there looking for a relationship rather than just shagging some characterless doll.
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You should have dumped him first!

I take it you've been badly hurt in the last few years, but please, for your own sake, don't become a bitter, undatable woman.
My guess is you were attracted to the wrong type of men, at least "wrong" for you and that had nothing to do with their culture. It's up to you to see if there's any pattern you follow when choosing a certain man and if that pattern inevitably leads you to the same results i.e.- broken relationships.
Anyhow, racism is the last resort for terribly unhappy-with-their-life people, you don't want to become like that, do you? And frankly, coming here for advice, or any other online forum as a matter of fact, when you're broken-hearted and depressed it's not the best idea IMHO.
Take a decision, move to Zürich or London and try to connect with normal guys, not the overly ambitious, or the not-interested-in-a-serious-relation, or the mommy's boy, or goodness know what.
You're still young, you have plenty of time to experiment. 34 years of age is young, for God's sake.
Thank you for this post. The issue I'm highlighting is that western women cannot and should not get involved with non-western men. Just does not work. This is reflected in the divorce rates. And whilst some western women need to stop being career obsessed and embrace femininty, I'm asking western men to stick to western women. We are destroying our society and importing social problems from other people's cultures. To try and pretend everyone is equal is damaging to western women who led the feminist cause during the twentieth century. Whilst this may have gone too far in some cases and countries, I am pleading with western men to respect women and not lower themselves to the standards of men from some other non-western cultures.
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Old 13.11.2014, 12:20
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I'm asking western men to stick to western women. We are destroying our society and importing social problems from other people's cultures.
Just. Wow.
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Actually I agree with you on women in the workplace but that wasn't what I was referring to. I was referring to the way women are treated as highlighted in previous posts ie things like bodily integrity, rape, domestic violence rates, etc. I'm not alone...a female friend of mine dated a highly educated Indian guy and got pregnant and had to have an abortion. He told her it was her fault and she had to pay for and go through the abortion alone. These stories abound out here (esp with Indian guys) but of course you're more likely to be aware of these stories if you're a western WOMAN.

@litespeed - I'll match your crudeness. My ex had a low sex drive and had trouble getting it up. I liked him that much that it didn't matter to me. Unsurprisingly, it turns out that he's broken up with latest gf. Yup, there are people out there looking for a relationship rather than just shagging some characterless doll.
White, black, brown, beige, yellow, pink men ALL do these kind of things to women / have trouble getting it up.

White, black, brown, beige, yellow, pink women are ALL aware that these things go on, and some become wiser, some become bitter.

You seem to have gone to SG in good faith, have had bad experiences, and have become prejudiced as a result. Now, in the name of "spreading awareness about asian culture" you are coming across as a racist.

No matter how many anecdotes you come up with, all that the other posters are trying to tell you is no matter what has happened, try to not generalise, or continue embittered.
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Old 13.11.2014, 12:23
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....I am pleading with western men to respect women and not lower themselves to the standards of men from some other non-western cultures.
Wow, that is a new low in crass. So even the crassest western woman is higher than the classiest non-western woman. May the crassest western men take heed of your plead, and may you find them who are at your level. Natural selection. OK, that's appropriate. Deal!
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Then why is the divorce rate between Swiss women and African, Middle Eastern and Indian men 80% within the first year of marriage whilst the divorce rate between Swiss men and Swiss women is 50%? Please explain.
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western women cannot and should not get involved with non-western men. Just does not work. This is reflected in the divorce rates. .
Very sweeping and stats based, you mention stats a lot, stats are not everything! A girlfriend of mine (Western!) is married to an Indo guy, their marriage looks solid to me
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Now, in the name of "spreading awareness about asian culture" you are coming across as a racist.
With all PCness - it is not "coming across" anymore, the last post really does not leave a lot of room for misunderstandings....
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Plot twist in the last few pages, new working title:
"The curious progression of a future crazy cat lady"

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Indeed..despite our futile attempts, I see a flat full of furry felines in the OPs future.
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Then why is the divorce rate between Swiss women and African, Middle Eastern and Indian men 80% within the first year of marriage whilst the divorce rate between Swiss men and Swiss women is 50%? Please explain.
Not knowing each other enough before venturing into marriage? Both partners being shallow and thinking a marriage certificate could change something? (similarly, people in fragile relations wanting to have babies with the hope one of them will "change").
A gazillion of unrelated reasons, really.
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Then why is the divorce rate between Thai women and Swiss men 30%?
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Then why is the divorce rate between Thai women and Swiss men 30%?
Because neither side can communicate with the in-laws.
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Then why is the divorce rate between Thai women and Swiss men 30%?
I think we've already agreed it's the merit of Thai women rather than Swiss men's merit.
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Then why is the divorce rate between Thai women and Swiss men 30%?
Why is the England and Wales divorce rate 42%?

Why is the moon not made of cheese?
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Why would this not be the same for a Swiss woman - African/Middle Eastern/Indian man pairing?
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I think we've already agreed it's the merit of Thai women rather than Swiss's men.
Then why is the divorce rate between Swiss men and Russian women 15%?
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