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Old 07.12.2014, 13:22
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don't think too much, go for it,
because hey, that's two weeks in beautiful swiss!
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

He's Just Not that into you................
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

Short but precise answer: he likes you a little bit but not so much to be together with you. And no, he does not want to be with you in a relationship. And yes, he can anyway want to spend a few days with you, and yes, he probably also wants to have sex with you.
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Short but precise answer: he likes you a little bit but not so much to be together with you. And no, he does not want to be with you in a relationship. And yes, he can anyway want to spend a few days with you, and yes, he probably also wants to have sex with you.

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But no matter what happens, I think people on here should give the guy credit for his openness and honesty - OP knows what she's getting herself into if she accepts the offer.


But since he has been "honest", this condones it ?
And thus if the other person does cry, it's their fault becuse they "knew" ?


Geez.. I've known a turkey or two in my time.. I never cease to be amazed.
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How did you two meet? Tell us everything!
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Long story short...
He and I have been friends for over a year now. It took a long time for him to open up to me and when he opened up to me, we became very close. When he opened up, I began to fall in love with him. I've been in love with him for about 3 months now. He says he likes my friendship and values it, and likes me but doesn't love me. I live in Moscow and he told me that we should meet other people because long distance wouldn't make him happy. Then a few weeks later he tells me that he's in love with someone else that's long distance from him. Yet, he wants me to visit him in January. He expresses his strong attraction to me and flirts with me alot. If he loves her, why does he want me to spend 2 weeks with him (at his house) in Switzerland? Why does he desire me and talks to me in this way?

What should I do? I love him but he confuses me.
Yes, men can be terribly confusing. Allow me to un-confuse you:

(1) He says he doesn't love you. This means that he doesn't love you.

(2) He says he values your friendship. This means that he values your friendship.

(3) He says that he loves someone else. This means that he loves someone else. Someone who is not you. (See point 1)

(4) You believe that he is flirting with you and expressing attraction. This means (and here is where it gets a little more complicated), either

(4a) He's a complete dickhead who enjoys messing with your emotions, and you should have nothing further to do with him.

Or

(4b) You're imagining it due to your own feelings, and causing yourself distress, so you should have nothing further to do with him.

HTH
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Old 07.12.2014, 15:15
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

Why, is it you?

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But no matter what happens, I think people on here should give the guy credit for his openness and honesty - OP knows what she's getting herself into if she accepts the offer.
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

It's a swiss man after all, how can he not be worth pursuing?
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

best thread in months on EF, thanks
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Old 07.12.2014, 15:54
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You are easily pleased.
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Old 07.12.2014, 15:56
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Long story short...
He and I have been friends for over a year now. It took a long time for him to open up to me and when he opened up to me, we became very close. When he opened up, I began to fall in love with him. I've been in love with him for about 3 months now. He says he likes my friendship and values it, and likes me but doesn't love me. I live in Moscow and he told me that we should meet other people because long distance wouldn't make him happy. Then a few weeks later he tells me that he's in love with someone else that's long distance from him. Yet, he wants me to visit him in January. He expresses his strong attraction to me and flirts with me alot. If he loves her, why does he want me to spend 2 weeks with him (at his house) in Switzerland? Why does he desire me and talks to me in this way?

What should I do? I love him but he confuses me.
I thought this thread was dedicated to famous Swiss criminal or alike

If I were you I would OTBC'ed him from your memory. Actually both of you

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Old 07.12.2014, 16:08
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best thread in months on EF, thanks
Do keep up at the back - how did you miss this?
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Do keep up at the back - how did you miss this?
Oh yeah, I liked that one too!
It would give a nice twist if the Swiss guy is Asian?
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But since he has been "honest", this condones it ?
And thus if the other person does cry, it's their fault becuse they "knew" ?


Geez.. I've known a turkey or two in my time.. I never cease to be amazed.
Not "this" but OP condones it if she accepts.
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Long story short...
He and I have been friends for over a year now. It took a long time for him to open up to me and when he opened up to me, we became very close. When he opened up, I began to fall in love with him. I've been in love with him for about 3 months now. He says he likes my friendship and values it, and likes me but doesn't love me. I live in Moscow and he told me that we should meet other people because long distance wouldn't make him happy. Then a few weeks later he tells me that he's in love with someone else that's long distance from him. Yet, he wants me to visit him in January. He expresses his strong attraction to me and flirts with me alot. If he loves her, why does he want me to spend 2 weeks with him (at his house) in Switzerland? Why does he desire me and talks to me in this way?

What should I do? I love him but he confuses me.
He just want "warm nights" ...
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Old 07.12.2014, 20:11
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

So you met how? Long distance I suppose. So you really know absolutely nothing about this person apart from what he's told you in e-mails, chatrooms, whatever. And you think you love him.

Please dear, grow up and find yourself a man who will love and respect you (which this guy obviously doesn't). He's just trying to see how many of you (yes, there will be others) fall for his charm and actually turn up on his doorstep.

+1 for WALK AWAY.
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

OP, is his name Marc by chance?
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

Agree with walk away, plus honestly if you do something with him knowing he's in a relationship, you're almost as bad as him. Cheaters and the people they cheat with (who know the cheater has a partner) are absolute filth in my book.
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Agree with walk away, plus honestly if you do something with him knowing he's in a relationship, you're almost as bad as him. Cheaters and the people they cheat with (who know the cheater has a partner) are absolute filth in my book.
But but they could fell madly in love with each other ....

Nah, I feel the same way but we shouldn't judge or generalise, circumstances can vary enormously. Who knows, I'm just sayin'.
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Re: Swiss Man worth pursuing? :/

It's very hard to see it another way when you've been the victim of it and the 3rd person relished in the fact that I existed (plus it's absolutely not in my nature to cheat, think the guilt would eat me up). If OP is even considering doing that, then I say go for it. That way, she'll get suckered in, fall in love and have her heart broken when he inevitably cheats on her. And she'll completely deserve it.
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