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Colleague trying to get money

Hi Guys,

I need some urgent advice.

Last week there was a major issue in my house, then a colleague, a woman that I know for some time offered for me to stay in her house as I could not return to mine.

Today when I was getting ready, she told me to get ready that she wold be sending me the bill for the stay in her house plus the food I ate there ( mind I took food from my home to her house ).
To top it up, she also told me that she would send me a list of missing items of her house as she wants money.

Needless to say, this is not true.
She owns a house, but have been unemployed for 2 years.

What should I do?
Should I go immediately and make a report against her?
Where?
I just want to be protected. I just cannot even believe she said that when I was leaving.

And she was so eager to help me when I needed ...

Please help with your knowledge.

Thanks

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Old 01.01.2015, 14:08
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Re: Colleague trying to get money

Did you sign anything or make any agreements to pay anything? If not, just don't pay her.
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No, of course I did not.
I thought she was just trying to help me.
It was never agreed any payment what so ever. Or I would have gone to a hotel.

And if she accuses me of taking something? How can I prove I did not?

I think what it is: she knows that I am getting some money soon and want to take money from me.

From what I have heard and saw today, I think she is pretty much capable to lying to put me in troube.

Please advice what I should do.

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Re: Colleague trying to get money

It's not up to you prove you didn't take anything, it's up to her to prove you did. If you didn't, she can't prove you did.

Sounds like a total bitch, by the way.
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Re: Colleague trying to get money

I know, completely. But living and learning. Never again.

I thought I should do a Police Report againts her, about her threats and insinuations, but I guess this is not necessary then?

Horrible, really horrible.
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Re: Colleague trying to get money

What a horrible person, to take advantage of your misfortune like that.
You owe her nothing, just ignore her threats.
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Re: Colleague trying to get money

Send her a couple of hundred francs for room and board.

Then change your number.

She sounds like a loony.
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Re: Colleague trying to get money

I know, I did not see that coming. I should have been to a hotel.

But now I see she is really looking forward to get any money out of me, god knows at what cost.
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Re: Colleague trying to get money

Not nice- but I agree with Patsycat to send her about 200CFH to cover for your board- and then ignore. If she works with you and it becomes a problem- talk to your supervisor calmly and explain what is going on- and ask for advice on how to proceed (but confused here as you say she is unemployed???)

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Re: Colleague trying to get money

I don't think I quite understand. You call her a colleague and then inform us she has been unemployed for 2 years. Generally I think colleague refers to somebody you work with. Is she a former colleague? If she is a current colleague, I agree to throw 200 chf her way and ignore her going forward. if she is not a current colleague, I'd probably ignore her completely just on principal.
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Re: Colleague trying to get money

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I know, completely. But living and learning. Never again.

I thought I should do a Police Report againts her, about her threats and insinuations, but I guess this is not necessary then?

Horrible, really horrible.

Yes, you SHOULD DO so.
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Re: Colleague trying to get money

I shouldn't imagine the OP's supervisor will be able to do anything.

Colleague in this context clearly means Kollegin.
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Re: Colleague trying to get money

I have noticed, with the Swiss (don't know if this is just where I am), that if you say to a friend "Oh I'll be in place X next week, could I sleep on your sofa/ stay in your apartment for a few days" they will be like "Sure, is 30chf a night ok?" .. I was horrified at first, but now I just expect it. I have also had Swiss friends give me money for letting them stay for a few nights, even though I would never dream of asking them, ridiculous
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Re: Colleague trying to get money

There are a number of languages in which "colleague" means "-mate" e.g. Workmate, housemate, classmate so as DB says, I wouldn't take colleague strictly in the English sense of the word.


It is very disappointing when you realise someone who you liked is actually an awful person. I hope things are back on track for you soon, OP.
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Re: Colleague trying to get money

Maybe the word "colleague" is used more in the sense of "acquaintance", as young people from the Balkan are known to do - a direct translation of the word "Kolleg", which in itself can be seen as the short form of "Kollege".
"Kolleg" is a different word in normal German...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kolleg
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Re: Colleague trying to get money

if you ever pay, do it by wire transfer to have a track of the transaction.
You can also "threat" her to local tax authorities: acting like a hotel without authorization and not declaring VAT and revenues. If she's done that with you, she's probably done that before with others.
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Old 01.01.2015, 14:51
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I have noticed, with the Swiss (don't know if this is just where I am), that if you say to a friend "Oh I'll be in place X next week, could I sleep on your sofa/ stay in your apartment for a few days" they will be like "Sure, is 30chf a night ok?" .. I was horrified at first, but now I just expect it. I have also had Swiss friends give me money for letting them stay for a few nights, even though I would never dream of asking them, ridiculous

WHAT?!! They don't sound like your friend, not charging a mate to sleep on your sofa for a night is not a cultural thing...


We've had a house guest for 2 months and haven't asked for anything for rent or food (although he has insisted on giving something) because that's what you do for friends... And he's not even MY friend (that's what you do for your boyfriend's friends...).


It's not like OP stayed for 2 months!
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Re: Colleague trying to get money

You said she has been unemployed for 2 years, so I assume she is an ex colleague?

There are often problems with people living in the same home together & it appears like you were living with her over the Christmas holidays.

No idea what food of her's you might have used. When we have flat shared there has been the odd occasion we were out of something, then used something from someone else & then replaced, e.g. might have been a quater packet of rice and then we brought full packet, usually within 24/48hours & explained to the other person & been thankful to them.

As you were still there and she said you had taken items, could you not discuss it before you moved out?
Maybe you moved something somewhere and she thought it was missing.

Only you know your behaviour when living with her, like keeping the place tidy, cleaning the bathroom, kitchen, bedroom after use etc

We are not used to accepting hospitality from someone without returning it in some way.

In this instance, yes send her some money, keep a receipt for it, probably end of friendship.
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WHAT?!! They don't sound like your friend, not charging a mate to sleep on your sofa for a night is not a cultural thing...
I know! Mental! But I've found it to be quite common.

I had a friend coming to stay with me for a few nights, but then she wanted to bring another friend, and we didn't have room. They (Swiss) stayed in a studio that belonged to another friend of ours (Swiss), for two nights…. and yes, he charged them.
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What should I do?
Nothing.

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Should I go immediately and make a report against her?
Why? For what possible reason?

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