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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

Best is to give something home made, like cake or whatever.
Reason is that it is something you can't buy but actually requires effort to produce.

(and of course the accompanying bottle of wine)
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Best is to give something home made
It depends which home.
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This evening I got stuck in a muddy field in my car in the middle of nowhere. A car stopped and the man got out and proceeded to help me. After a lot of faffing about, the arrival of a couple of friends as back up with some wood for grip the guy took charge and got the car out by sheer skill (kind of going back and forward...).

It was cold, dark, dirty and he stayed with me and eventually got me out of a horrible situation. Of course I have his name and address and I want to send him something to say thank you. So I am looking for advice on what is appropriate.
I don't know anything about him so don't know what he might like, the monetary value (if you think of that) would be quite high but would someone be upset by being sent money (my husband thinks so). The human value was massive - what a kind thing to do, and he was very practical too.

So any ideas of what would be appropriate - what have you done in the past if you've had a similar experience. Oh and should I go and find the farmer and apologise for mashing up his field?
What were you doing in that field in the first place?
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Old 06.01.2015, 23:10
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What were you doing in that field in the first place?
Getting stuck.


[were my thoughts, too]
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

Glad that there was a good Samaritan there for you.

A homemade cake or muffin basket or an elaborate gift basket would be good to send.

I would definitely send something to the farmer as well - after all I am sure that he suffered some loss on his fields.
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

I took an wrong turn up a narrow farm lane and tried to turn round. The car is four wheel drive but the ground was muddier than I thought (it was fairly cold and the ground had started to freeze but I think it must have been wetter here than I though). Bad judgement, compounded by me spinning the wheels as I am not really used to being stuck in the mud/snow/ice etc and really didn't know what to do. Also we couldn't find the tow hook on the front of my car or the man would have been able to tow me out in about 2 minutes flat I think.

Good thing is it made me realize how woefully prepared I am for accidents/difficult situations and I'll be addressing that.
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Glad that there was a good Samaritan there for you.

A homemade cake or muffin basket or an elaborate gift basket would be good to send.

I would definitely send something to the farmer as well - after all I am sure that he suffered some loss on his fields.
Oh please, it's a Swiss field....what's the loss, 2 carrots and a cucumber?

To OP: Forget the homemade crap. Get him a case of wine and the Old Spice gift set from Müller.
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Glad that there was a good Samaritan there for you.

A homemade cake or muffin basket or an elaborate gift basket would be good to send.

I would definitely send something to the farmer as well - after all I am sure that he suffered some loss on his fields.
Yes, I agree but I'm not sure how to find out who owns the land. think I will be ringing the gemeinde tomorrow to ask.
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ECB, it isn't the value that is important I agree, I put that to give an idea that it wasn't just a little favour.

Maybe if I explained that a gift card would be so he could treat himself to whatever 'tipple' he likes
As far as I know the Swiss, in this circumstance a gift card is a big no no.
Maybe a nice, but not the very expensive kind, bottle of wine and a thank you card would be appropriated.
Had numerous discussions about gifts with my Swiss friend and I am rather moderate now...
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Oh please, it's a Swiss field....what's the loss, 2 carrots and a cucumber?

To OP: Forget the homemade crap. Get him a case of wine and the Old Spice gift set from Müller.
Is this the Swiss must-have?
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Is this the Swiss must-have?
Yes, it is if the message you want to send is "thank you for your help, but I wish you didn't smell so ripe".
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Yes, it is if the message you want to send is "thank you for your help, but I wish you didn't smell so ripe".
or "you are too old for Axe"
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

Wine, whisky or schnaps would do it but go for quality.
And in the thank you card please sign "terramundi who was stuck in terra muddy"
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Old 07.01.2015, 09:37
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Yes, I agree but I'm not sure how to find out who owns the land. think I will be ringing the gemeinde tomorrow to ask.
I wouldn't worry about the field too much - have you seen the mess a tractor makes just driving in and out of a field.

I second the bottle/case of wine for the chap who pulled you out.
I don't know a single Swiss person who doesn't enjoy wine so it's a fairly safe bet.
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Is this the Swiss must-have?
I don't know, but it does seem like the right thing to do.
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

All of these ideas are fine.. But if I was the hero guy, I didn't stop and help to be paid. Forget the the money value, forget gift cards too, that simply puts a price on what he did.. A simple card saying thanks, a box of Merci chocs, a bottle of wine.. Any of these would do.

If I was the guy, the simple fact of knowing that my help was appreciated would be fine.
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As far as I know the Swiss, in this circumstance a gift card is a big no no.
Maybe a nice, but not the very expensive kind, bottle of wine and a thank you card would be appropriated.
Had numerous discussions about gifts with my Swiss friend and I am rather moderate now...
Maybe this is another care of Swiss German versus Swiss a French thing but a gift card seems to be the preferred option around here. Not a large amount but a token of appreciation.
I've been given them when I've helped someone out. It's always either a gift card ( for a bigger thing) or a box of chocolates around here.
Whenever I've offered gifts in return for services they've usually been met with ' oh you shouldn't have, it was really necessary' but accompanied by a beaming smile.

I've brought back a (small)regional product from our holidays as a gift for neighbours who look after the animals and keep an eye in the house while we're away on holiday and we took home made ( by him) lemon curd to the neighbour who went onto her roof to rescue our son's remote controlled aeroplane when he landed it there. In fact she like it so much she came and asked for the recipe.

I've never actually offered a gift card but have received them from a Swiss (French) neighbours and friends.
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All of these ideas are fine.. But if I was the hero guy, I didn't stop and help to be paid. Forget the the money value, forget gift cards too, that simply puts a price on what he did.. A simple card saying thanks, a box of Merci chocs, a bottle of wine.. Any of these would do.

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I wouldn't buy a Swiss person a box of German chocolates, ever.
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Maybe this is another care of Swiss German versus Swiss a French thing but a gift card seems to be the preferred option around here. Not a large amount but a token of appreciation.
I've been given them when I've helped someone out. It's always either a gift card ( for a bigger thing) or a box of chocolates around here.
Whenever I've offered gifts in return for services they've usually been met with ' oh you shouldn't have, it was really necessary' but accompanied by a beaming smile.

I've brought back a (small)regional product from our holidays as a gift for neighbours who look after the animals and keep an eye in the house while we're away on holiday and we took home made ( by him) lemon curd to the neighbour who went onto her roof to rescue our son's remote controlled aeroplane when he landed it there. In fact she like it so much she came and asked for the recipe.

I've never actually offered a gift card but have received them from a Swiss (French) neighbours and friends.
Yes, I realise that.
In my earlier days in Switzerland I still used to bring a small present every time I visited my friends, even for a short visit i.e. "just a coffee". This is the way I was taught at home, never go to someone's house with empty hands. My Swiss (German) friends were always trying to moderate me - even though I protested, I explained it was something I do with great pleasure, etc etc. We help each other a lot these days, I'm helping whenever I can so I don't feel bad for only receiving (I was helped a lot by my friends in the beginning!). And you're right, something homemade or something that you used your skills and time to produce is always appreciated.
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A thank you note and a bottle of good wine.
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