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All of these ideas are fine.. But if I was the hero guy, I didn't stop and help to be paid. Forget the the money value, forget gift cards too, that simply puts a price on what he did.. A simple card saying thanks, a box of Merci chocs, a bottle of wine.. Any of these would do.

If I was the guy, the simple fact of knowing that my help was appreciated would be fine.
This is worth bearing in mind.

I once helped an elderly couple, stuck in fresh snow, in a semi-remote car park on a dark, snowy Christmas eve.
For me, it was no big deal - I carry several hessian sacks in the car, in winter, and just placed these under and in front of the drive wheels, gave a shove and away they went.

But it could have turned nasty for them, as there was no one else around, it was bitterly cold and the man was trying to push himself with the car (mpv = heavy) running and in gear, with wheels spinning, but no one at the wheel.

Didn't think for one moment about receiving a 'reward', and I left with a nice warm glow, knowing I had stopped a minor incident from becoming a major catastrophe, for someone less prepared and able than me.



...... and if he didn't look like a big girl's blouse, forget the Old Spice.
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Old 07.01.2015, 10:34
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Maybe this is another care of Swiss German versus Swiss a French thing but a gift card seems to be the preferred option around here.
Very possibly a regional difference - and this may be only a Schwyzer thing, or even a my little village thing - but around here one must be careful of giving anything to someone outside the family that is too elaborate (elaborate gifts are seen as promoting one's own status rather than bringing joy to another) or with a stated price such as a gift card.

Dezent is the word. (In pretty much everything here in Schwyz.)

Especially as a thank-you. A gift card is too much like money and could imply payment for services rendered rather than an acknowledgement of a gesture of kindness. It might be perceived as diminishing the hero's selfless action.

Bottle of wine or other tipple, box of candy, flowers to a lady, something homemade - these are all acceptable. And always a hand-written note expressing thanks.

One way around the tricky question is if there are children in the family. Everyone appreciates a (smallish) gift given to a child.

I give home made jam and a bottle of wine, or a nice selection of teas if I know that the person does not drink. If I am on more than nodding acquaintance, I bake a batch of scones to go with the jam.

Gift giving is a minefield 'round these parts, I tell ya. Just when you think you have safely navigated around cultural sensitivities, up pops another social faux pas to trip over.

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Whatever you decide to do, as long as your expression of thanks comes from the heart I'm sure it will be appreciated.
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

Im surprised people suggest gift cards. He helped you because he is a helpful person and it made him feel good. He does not expect to be paid for it. A couple of gift cards is the same as giving him cash. He might even be offended by it, eg "i can afford my own food".

What he would appreciate is a gesture that shows that you are grateful. A standard thing here seem to be a nice thank you-card, a bottle of nice prosecco and a couple of finer salamis. In the end, the card is the most important of it all, not the gift.

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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

mmh not in this part of Suisse Romande. I have never received a gift card but have received little boxes of chocs, homemade jam and wine and a bunch of flowers before Christmas to say thank you for driving someone's son to sport every week.


Something homemade trumps everything because you spent time on it.
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Something homemade trumps everything because you spent time on it.
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Gift giving is a minefield 'round these parts, I tell ya. Just when you think you have safely navigated around cultural sensitivities, up pops another social faux pas to trip over.

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Im surprised people suggest gift cards. He helped you because he is a helpful person and it made him feel good. He does not expect to be paid for it. A couple of gift cards is the same as giving him cash. He might even be offended by it, eg "i can afford my own food".

What he would appreciate is a gesture that shows that you are grateful. A standard thing here seem to be a nice thank you-card, a bottle of nice prosecco and a couple of finer salamis. In the end, the card is the most important of it all, not the gift.

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Of course not, but most people feel the urge to also do/give something nice (and here comes into discussion what could be "nice") in return, express their gratitude. I can understand that.
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

Well, I've just come in from spending an hour cleaning the car (inside and out!) and found these replies - thank you all.

So, I think I'll go with a couple of good bottles of wine, some homemade cookies or scones and a pot of homemade jam, with a nice hand written thank you card (actually, I could get one of my kids to make that). Put it all in a little basket or pretty box et voila. Job's a good 'un.

Right, off to buy some decent wine because we only have plonk here.
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mmh not in this part of Suisse Romande. I have never received a gift card but have received little boxes of chocs, homemade jam and wine and a bunch of flowers before Christmas to say thank you for driving someone's son to sport every week.


Something homemade trumps everything because you spent time on it.
Having thought about it I realise that the gift cards have all come from the 'Italian' Swiss ( who are very numerous in this village).
The ones who have given me chocolates, or homemade plum tart, or tresse, or fruit and veggies are probably the 'real' Swiss. ( well the don't have Italian sounding names in any case)
Only ever been given wine if we've invited people here for dinner or apero or something like that, not as a thank you thus far.
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A thank you note and a bottle of good wine.
Agree with that - local farmers just help each other out because that is what one does - nothing wrong with acknowledging your gratitude for not leaving you stuck there but going overboard will only make the chap feel uncomfortable.

On our short, steep, curvy street it is a given someone will slide off at some point in the winter - no gifts, but words of gratitude. As for the field, the farmer will have already muttered a few grumpy words about "people who shouldn't be driving in he country after dark"...because he would do same about anyone who drove into his field.

Someone drove off the rode into our field in Sweden, the evacuation left quite a mess, but the missing bits of the car we found must have been enough grief for him to explain to car owner (girlfriend's father).
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Well, I've just come in from spending an hour cleaning the car (inside and out!) and found these replies - thank you all.

So, I think I'll go with a couple of good bottles of wine, some homemade cookies or scones and a pot of homemade jam, with a nice hand written thank you card (actually, I could get one of my kids to make that). Put it all in a little basket or pretty box et voila. Job's a good 'un.

Right, off to buy some decent wine because we only have plonk here.
I think you got it exactly right
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

I was the woman in the car with him.

I would like a Louis Vuitton handbag, a bottle of wine.

He wears Eau Sauvage aftershave and also drinks lots of wine.

That's why we were almost stuck in the mud with you!!

Seriously, i think a nice bottle of wine and a thank you card will do. And keep his number for the next time....
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A dry cleaning voucher?
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Well, I've just come in from spending an hour cleaning the car (inside and out!) and found these replies - thank you all.

So, I think I'll go with a couple of good bottles of wine, some homemade cookies or scones and a pot of homemade jam, with a nice hand written thank you card (actually, I could get one of my kids to make that). Put it all in a little basket or pretty box et voila. Job's a good 'un.

Right, off to buy some decent wine because we only have plonk here.
Excellent

(He did it simply to help, to do good, and you show it's appreciated a lot particularly by giving something made by yourself. If you gave cash, voucher, or any other kind of money you'd put a price tag on his kindness)
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