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Appropriate gift for a hero

This evening I got stuck in a muddy field in my car in the middle of nowhere. A car stopped and the man got out and proceeded to help me. After a lot of faffing about, the arrival of a couple of friends as back up with some wood for grip the guy took charge and got the car out by sheer skill (kind of going back and forward...).

It was cold, dark, dirty and he stayed with me and eventually got me out of a horrible situation. Of course I have his name and address and I want to send him something to say thank you. So I am looking for advice on what is appropriate.
I don't know anything about him so don't know what he might like, the monetary value (if you think of that) would be quite high but would someone be upset by being sent money (my husband thinks so). The human value was massive - what a kind thing to do, and he was very practical too.

So any ideas of what would be appropriate - what have you done in the past if you've had a similar experience. Oh and should I go and find the farmer and apologise for mashing up his field?
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

That's nice of you to want to give him a thank-you gift (and, of course, very nice of him to have helped you!).

Maybe a Migros gift card? That seems like something that pretty much anyone here in CH could find useful. And, of course, there are lots of other gift card options as well. I think the post offices here often have a large, rotating rack with lots of different ones (for different stores). So maybe something like that with a nice personalized thank-you card.
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

A Bonnie Tyler single.
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

Läderach box of chocolates, the big one.
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

Why not give him something from your home country as a monetary/gift voucher tends to show a lack of imagination.

Was he a local chap or expat ?
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

What about a gift card, as suggested, and something a bit more personal, like some chocolates or a nice bottle of wine?

And definitely, I'd go to the farmer to explain his messy field with another bottle of wine.

What, I like wine
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

I would give him several gift vouchers from Coop or Migros. Then he can always use them as presents or spend them on himself.

If you had called a garage it would cost several hundred francs to pull you out.

Tell your husband this present is very acceptable, it isn't cash, but it brings a good feeling.

You could also apply for the award "Knight of the Road" for him, http://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ritter_der_Strasse
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

Big box of chocolates and a thank you card. A thank you card with anything really
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Läderach box of chocolates, the big one.
We're talking about a man here, not OP's favorite aunt.

Get him the Old Spice gift set from Müller.
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

It was a very nice thing for him to do and I think you're quite right to want to thank him in some way.
I agree with the gift card idea and a thank you card and maybe something personal and homemade to go with it. (Cookies, cupcakes, lemon curd, or whatever you like doing).

Out of interest ( because I'm really nosy and nobody's asked yet) how exactly did you end up stuck in the middle of a field?
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

Nice ideas, thanks. I did think about gifts from home, but not sure that marmite crosses cultural boundaries well.
He was a local guy, Spoke Swiss German but had a French speaking Lady with him. I was just so surprised that when he stopped he actually set about helping and stuck around and didn't abandon me...
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

I think the field was actually mine.

I'll PM you my address.



We've already established that I like wine, haven't we
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(Cookies, cupcakes, lemon curd, or whatever you like doing).
The guy could have some allergies or intolerances so it may not be a good idea to give him cookies or cupcakes or something you make. Though it is a very thoughtful present.
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

My experience of living in a small village for many years in Baselland taught me that the average Swiss really don't do thank you gifts in any way like I had been used to or indeed like much of a fuss being made. I had a couple of misses with giving gifts that would be totally required/expected in the UK (eg to cleaning lady for Christmas) but which caused a certain amount of disquiet here in CH. Whilst gifts are always appreciated (who doesn't like a little something?) the gift always went down well when it was modest and tasteful. No money!

So basing it on this, I don't agree with something of a big value and certainly not something that has a directly evident monetary worth - ie a gift card.

I don't think the value is the point. I do agree with something homemade plus a nice bottle of wine. If you worked out that he was married, you could also include a small bouquet of flowers for his wife/partner for having delayed him on his way home.

Edit: would whisky be stretching the "gift from home" too far?
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

I agree with the giftcard.Is he a farmer as well? If so,a giftcard from Landi.
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

I would personally give him a bottle of wine. I'm not sure how much a man would appreciate a food gift voucher - sorry don't want to be sexist but most of the men I know would much rather have a bottle of red...
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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

Burn your own DVD, and send it to him.
Even he knows no English, he'll probably know the song from Shrek, and should appreciate the personal significance.





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Re: Appropriate gift for a hero

ECB, it isn't the value that is important I agree, I put that to give an idea that it wasn't just a little favour.

Maybe if I explained that a gift card would be so he could treat himself to whatever 'tipple' he likes
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I think the field was actually mine.

I'll PM you my address.



We've already established that I like wine, haven't we
I don't have a field but I feel your pain so..... Pm sent for my wine too..
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