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Feeling lonely

Hm just wanted to share how I feel so lonely. I came here 2 months ago, and didnt really make any real friends, someone I can talk to, go for a walk, coffe..just feel so lonely. Maybe im geting i depression. I dont know really how is with other people, do they feel the same.
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Old 28.10.2015, 21:15
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Re: Feeling lonely

I remember the same feeling... two months is not really enough time to have your feet under you completely, but long enough for the novelty to wear off and you realize what's missing.

Hang in there, it'll get better. And then worse again, and then better again...

I remember two or three months is also about when the language barrier really started to bother me, not being able to understand what people said to me in shops, having to get colleagues to help me read my own mail etc. I felt like I couldn't understand what was going on and it meant I effectively couldn't be a grownup here. But it took me a while to pin down exactly what was making me so unhappy and what I could do to change it.
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Old 28.10.2015, 21:18
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I remember the same feeling... two months is not really enough time to have your feet under you completely, but long enough for the novelty to wear off and you realize what's missing.

Hang in there, it'll get better. And then worse again, and then better again...
I guess im just disapointed in one "friend". I meet her online, i tought we would be best friends and then she stoped talking to me and blocked me on whatsapp for no reason. Shes swiss. Its hard when you cant talk wbout your problems with someone, you wanna go out and hang out with someone, but you dont have no one to do that with. I guess its really hard to finde friends todays. I feel so lonely here.
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Re: Feeling lonely

Chin up! You'll kiss, or almost kiss many froglins before you meet the "Princess".

Women don't need a reason to dump or block you. We go through spells, I like you today, see how I feel tomorrow, until we find the right one. He too could be in danger at time. Being Swiss is usually not a criteria to do that. Now, dry your eyes and look who else is online.
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Re: Feeling lonely

Go to Kennedys Irish pub in Zurich on Saturday. There are bound to be a few fun people to talk to. Albeit they will all have funny accents.
Around about 4pm should be good.
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Chin up! You'll kiss, or almost kiss many froglins before you meet the "Princess".

Women don't need a reason to dump or block you. We go through spells, I like you today, see how I feel tomorrow, until we find the right one. He too could be in danger at time. Being Swiss is usually not a criteria to do that. Now, dry your eyes and look who else is online.
Nooo I already have a girlfriend lol. Im talking about friendship.

I have 0 friends here. Its not about girlfriend, i could even today pick up a girl who works in Gidor in Shil city lol. But its not about that.

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Go to Kennedys Irish pub in Zurich on Saturday. There are bound to be a few fun people to talk to. Albeit they will all have funny accents.
Around about 4pm should be good.
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Re: Feeling lonely

Had no idea you could go online to meet "just friends". Can't you talk to your Girlfriend about these things then?
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Hm just wanted to share how I feel so lonely. I came here 2 months ago, and didnt really make any real friends, someone I can talk to, go for a walk, coffe..just feel so lonely. Maybe im geting i depression. I dont know really how is with other people, do they feel the same.
Real friends in 2 months.....hmmm. Where I come from it takes a lot longer, so maybe that is why I was fine with that in my first 2 months here. I had a real friend though, and that was my boyfriend. Do they not count these days? I feel so old and out of touch..
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Had no idea you could go online to meet "just friends". Can't you talk to your Girlfriend about these things then?
I talk but i cant be with her 24/7. I need my time and she needs hers. She goes out with her friends and talk. But I have no one to talk to about stuff that friends talk to. If i get in a fight with her, i cant talk to anyone about it.

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Real friends in 2 months.....hmmm. Where I come from it takes a lot longer, so maybe that is why I was fine with that in my first 2 months here. I had a real friend though, and that was my boyfriend. Do they not count these days? I feel so old and out of touch..
I dont have ANY FRIEND, noir people i can hang out with. I cant be 24/7 with my girlfriend. She is my best friends but i need some space.

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Re: Feeling lonely

Your girlfriend is your best friend, you need space, you have no other friends.

Does your girlfriend have any friends with boyfriends who could take you out occasionally.

Or else, as has been suggested, go down the pub on Saturday. Get there early and grab a seat at the bar, that way you can start meeting people. Very early, if it's like the Pubs in Geneva people start arriving at around midday.
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Your girlfriend is your best friend, you need space, you have no other friends.

Does your girlfriend have any friends with boyfriends who could take you out occasionally.

Or else, as has been suggested, go down the pub on Saturday. Get there early and grab a seat at the bar, that way you can start meeting people. Very early, if it's like the Pubs in Geneva people start arriving at around midday.
Im a woman lol.

It would be stupid to go alone in the pub dont you think so?

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Re: Feeling lonely

Anatomy of a post: all those buttons and links, explained

Hi FS, please use the Multiquote button which can be found next to the Quote button to quote multiple posts/quotes in a single post of yours.
More info in the post I linked above.

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It would be stupid to go alone in the pub dont you think so?
What? Why would it be stupid? Of course you can go to pubs/bars alone.

Just be sensible, look after your drink etc but you'd do that even if you were out with friends.


FWIW if I ever have a disagreement with Mr. MathNut I do not talk about it with friends. He doesn't either. What happens between us stays between us until we can resolve it together. Of course different couples have their own ways of doing things and perhaps we are a little bit old-fashioned. I just mention it as a possibility. (Ideally this should be something both partners are on the same wavelength about, either both feel free to discuss such topics with their friends, or both feel they should be kept private.)
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Re: Feeling lonely

Sorry to hear you're having a rough time. It does get better, it does get easier but it's tough when you're home alone all day in a new country. Are there any courses you could sign up for? Or a hobby you always wanted to pursue but never had the time for?
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Im a woman lol.

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Sorry to hear you're having a rough time. It does get better, it does get easier but it's tough when you're home alone all day in a new country. Are there any courses you could sign up for? Or a hobby you always wanted to pursue but never had the time for?
Best wishes.
Im soon going to sign up for German kurs B1 but im afraid that there will be no one my age.
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Re: Feeling lonely

Its shitty when you cant call someone like hey lets go for a drink or shopping. I think everyone no matter if its haves partner or not, always should have a friend.
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I guess im just disapointed in one "friend". I meet her online, i tought we would be best friends and then she stoped talking to me and blocked me on whatsapp for no reason.
Why are we not surprised?

I've met friends online, and likewise results.

And then, I married one.

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Why are we not surprised?

I've met friends online, and likewise results.

And then, I married one.

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Well dud she didnt play you. I would not be so disapointed if she was not so pushy to meet with me. I was sorry for her because she took 2 days free from work to meet me. And then i had some family situtation and i told her i cant meet her until 2 week from then. I feelt she was disapointed but she said its okay. Then she stoped talking to me, I messaged her week after that and no response, also today because its more than month now since we talked last time. I asked why is she so rude because i have done nothing to her. Again no response and then she blocked me on whatsapp. But i would not care so much about it if she doesnt live 10 min from me. If we bump on each other it will be awkward and stupid.
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Its shitty when you cant call someone like hey lets go for a drink or shopping. I think everyone no matter if its haves partner or not, always should have a friend.
You have been given ideas of places to go and reassured that there's no problem going to these places alone.

It looks like you're looking for reasons to be miserable now.

Go out! It's only ten o' clock! The International Bier Bar and Kennedy's will still be open. What's stopping you?
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Its shitty when you cant call someone...
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