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...I would have called them over and told them the probably going to end up with a squashed body, smashed head, broken legs, eyeball hanging out, etc - if they run around in the road throwing stones at each other. But if the thought of that makes them happy, then carry on kids...
My German is improving, but I really couldn't guarantee accuracy if I attempted to say something with that level of detail! My debate was whether or not to say something simple, such as, "The street is not a playground. Play at the school. Walk on the sidewalk to get there".

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PS - The gal with the suitcases was at least 10 years younger than I am, which probably means she just hasn't learned how to pack light for travel yet.
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PS - The gal with the suitcases was at least 10 years younger than I am, which probably means she just hasn't learned how to pack light for travel yet.
Or she was moving house, which is the only time I use anything other than hand luggage. My rule of thumb is...If I can't pick my case up and throw it, I've packed too much.
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Very fitting word (ending with .com above the other word ending with .com) in the bottom left corner
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Old 30.03.2016, 18:16
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Oh, guess I just made myself sound really old there.
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Re: Swiss etiquette - what would you do?

scenario 2, chivalry is appreciated in every culture.


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Re: Swiss etiquette - what would you do?

Regarding the kids - I once was in a street where there were young children running around, one of them was about 18months and could barely walk. One of the other children sat him on the roof of the car and left him. I don't know what would have happened if i had not intervened as the child would probably have been killed if he had fallen.
I asked one of the kids where the toddler lived and went round there with this crying infant and rang on the doorbell.
Some woman answered the door and when I was telling her what was happening to the child a voice sounded from the back.
'Shut the door on that nosy b**** and tell her to F*** O**
She grabbed the child and slammed the door in my face!
( Quick call to Social Services by me)
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Very fitting word (ending with .com above the other word ending with .com) in the bottom left corner
Kids these days... smh.
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smackerjack that's just crazy!
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Regarding the kids - I once was in a street where there were young children running around, one of them was about 18months and could barely walk. One of the other children sat him on the roof of the car and left him. I don't know what would have happened if i had not intervened as the child would probably have been killed if he had fallen.
I asked one of the kids where the toddler lived and went round there with this crying infant and rang on the doorbell.
Some woman answered the door and when I was telling her what was happening to the child a voice sounded from the back.
'Shut the door on that nosy b**** and tell her to F*** O**
She grabbed the child and slammed the door in my face!
( Quick call to Social Services by me)
In Switzerland?
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Oh, guess I just made myself sound really old there.
Oh no, don't feel bad...I've heard kids saying "Kids these days..."... (only girls and playing the older sister role though)
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Old 31.03.2016, 10:12
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Re: Swiss etiquette - what would you do?

I would have invited the kids to the train station to stone the lady for going out alone without a man. That is what we do back home.
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This is going to sound silly, but I've recently encountered two situations where I wasn't sure what the "proper" reaction would be to fit with Swiss norms. In both cases, I debated and did nothing because I figured that's what would be expected. Had I encountered the same situations in the U.S., I would have acted - thus the guilt and the reason for asking the EF expert opinions.

Scenario 1 - On my walk the other day I observed 3 young boys (early primary school age, I'd guess) playing in the street as they wandered back to school after lunch. They were throwing rocks at each other and running back and forth from one side of the street to the other without looking. No parents in sight, and also no older children. It's not exactly a busy street, but there are large trucks coming and going regularly to the industrial park and some cars going to the housing areas. Back home, I would have told the boys to stop playing in the street and walk on the sidewalk where they belong.

Scenario 2 - On my way home from the train station yesterday I observed a woman lugging two massive, heavy suitcases. She was obviously struggling with them even on a flat surface. Our station only has stairs. No ramp. Back home I would have offered to carry one of her suitcases for her, as I had a free hand. Here I thought that could be construed as telling her she looks weak or incapable. I've had to lug suitcases in the past, and no one has ever offered help at our station although I've had offers of help at the airport. I've never asked for help either.

What would you have done?
Being "Swiss" or attending to their "etiquette" has nothing to do with being human and doing what you (and probably the general moral audience) feel is proper.

If you cared about those boys, why not at least tell them to be careful?
If you thought you should help that obviously struggling lady, why not offer your help? (especially if you think that it would have been nice if someone offered a hand when you had to fight with your luggage)

Even if you get a "f-off" reply, you still did what you initially thought was right, right?
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Old 31.03.2016, 10:48
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Re: Swiss etiquette - what would you do?

I'm Canadian, but I grew up here.

I probably would have said "ufpasse" to the boys.

As for the woman and her suitcases - I think it would totally depend on my mood and my time.

However, I gladly help people with their stollers (it doesn't cost me anything) and get out of my seat on trains and busses for the elderly, hurt and pregnant (haven't yet met someone who met all criteria).
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Canadian here.

1) Not sure about the kids, would assess how dangerous the situation really is before acting on it. If in doubt, I'd advise them to be careful, possibly just by asking about their own risk appreciation (aren't you afraid a car will come speeding and run you guys over?).

2) I would offer help to the lady in the extent that I am not loaded with stuff myself. In the same situation, I would appreciate if someone offered to help even though I would probably refuse the offer. Being equal to men or not has nothing to do with it, it's about helping people when you can. If I saw a guy struggling with luggage I would probably offer my help too.
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Re: Swiss etiquette - what would you do?

Thought I'll jump in and add "I'm Canadian" too. Just because I am, so I can. *wink*

For the kids, I'd probably give them a big smile, then point at cars coming. And continue walking so no threat posed to them.

And I'd definitely help the lady. I always offer my help, and always with a big smile. How could anyone refuse it? Life is too short. Smile more often people, and the world becomes brighter for everyone else. Even the Swiss grannies are yakking away with me at the bus-stop, even though I have no clue what they are talking about.
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Re: Swiss etiquette - what would you do?

Your gut instinct were right in both cases.

Today I helped an old man carry his shopping up some stairs and he was incredibly grateful. A lot of Swiss people have helped me carry my buggy up and down the train steps, and I am always so thankful, otherwise I couldn't get on or off the train.

Also if those were my kids, I'd hope someone would tell them to get off the road.
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