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Old 16.06.2015, 16:34
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Re: Helicopter parenting: are you over protective?

I remember this topic from the other day, and it got me thinking.

Judging by the content of EF (is there any other way to judge?), helicopter parenting has become the default.

Do we need a new term for what used to be "normal" parenting?
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Re: Helicopter parenting: are you over protective?

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I remember this topic from the other day, and it got me thinking.

Judging by the content of EF (is there any other way to judge?), helicopter parenting has become the default.

Do we need a new term for what used to be "normal" parenting?
Absolutely not - a dumb default shouldn't be accepted as "normal". Let's keep normal the way it's supposed to be. TIS

And it's probably fair to say the default EF response to helicopter parenting is a SAM

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Old 07.12.2016, 12:43
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Re: Helicopter parenting: are you over protective?

Swiss court rules child ‘too pampered' for school

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A seven-year-old boy in the canton of St Gallen must attend a specialist school because his over-protective parents have left him unable to do things for himself, Switzerland's highest court has ruled.
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Old 07.12.2016, 12:52
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Re: Helicopter parenting: are you over protective?

Here the story in German as it appeared in the Sonntags Zeitung from 19.11.2016
http://www.tagesanzeiger.ch/sonntags...story/21110881

The also introduce a new term: Drone Parents. They hover even more closely and permanently over their little precious snowflake, ready to fulfill any wish and protect them from even the smallest kind of harm.
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Re: Helicopter parenting: are you over protective?

Whether we like it or not, it has become the norm...

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...aunch-epidemic
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Old 07.12.2016, 13:27
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Re: Helicopter parenting: are you over protective?

My mum, a world authority on parenting (my sister turned out normal(ish)) used to say:

First, you give them shoes, and teach them to walk.
Then, you show them wings, and help them learn to fly.
When they're gone, you've done a good job, and so will they.
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Old 07.12.2016, 13:54
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Here the story in German as it appeared in the Sonntags Zeitung from 19.11.2016
http://www.tagesanzeiger.ch/sonntags...story/21110881

The also introduce a new term: Drone Parents. They hover even more closely and permanently over their little precious snowflake, ready to fulfill any wish and protect them from even the smallest kind of harm.
I'm feeling like I was neglected...
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Old 07.12.2016, 13:57
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Re: Helicopter parenting: are you over protective?

Mine could cook by age ten, and I often left them to fend for themselves for a week, sometimes two, by age 12.

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Mine could cook by age ten, and I often left them to fend for themselves for a week, sometimes two, by age 12.

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Your kids or your parents?
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Old 07.12.2016, 14:11
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Whether we like it or not, it has become the norm...

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...aunch-epidemic
The American norm, which, thankfully, isn't yet the norm here.
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Old 07.12.2016, 14:14
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Mine could cook by age ten, and I often left them to fend for themselves for a week, sometimes two, by age 12.

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While I admire your parenting style, if you did this anywhere in Europe or the States if found out, you would be having a visit from social services and probably be waving goodbye to lil Junior.

I was swimming in the Klongs of Bangkok and catching snakes in India by the age of 10, we also used to flatten coins on the railway tracks and run around unaccompanied and barefoot in 3rd world countries, I think my parents would have had a lot of explaining to do if something had happened to my bro or me.
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Old 07.12.2016, 14:33
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While I admire your parenting style, if you did this anywhere in Europe or the States if found out, you would be having a visit from social services and probably be waving goodbye to lil Junior.
Fortunately, Switzerland isn't in Europe, and 12 is considered adult enough here.

Anyway, they made it to adulthood, despite crashing their motorcycles a couple times.

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Old 07.12.2016, 14:43
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Simultaneously?
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Old 07.12.2016, 14:49
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Re: Helicopter parenting: are you over protective?

My eldest is pretty advanced and we make sure she learns by doing without parachuting in.

Admittedly the pediatrician suggested that after our first attempts at getting her to use the microplane grater we wait until she is at least 6 months before using the global knives.

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Re: Helicopter parenting: are you over protective?

Oh goody, it's one of those when-I-was-a-youngster threads

Swiss kids beware..

helicopter-parenting-you-over-protective-3271_29a2_500.jpeg

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Old 07.12.2016, 15:06
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Oh goody, it's of those when-I-was-a-youngster threads

Swiss kids beware..

Attachment 120665
Skis?!?!?!?!

L U X U R Y!!!!

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L U X U R Y!!!!

But you try and tell the young people today that... and they won't believe ya'
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Old 07.12.2016, 15:10
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Re: Helicopter parenting: are you over protective?

Bart turned out ok.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1lyjuC2xXa8
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L U X U R Y!!!!

Not Skis - long blades of tough grass with curly bits on the ends.

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Simultaneously?
We were cool kids.
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