I am going to visit my boyfriend in October and talk about getting married. He is worried that I won't like to stay in Switzerland and I am worried that I won't be able to adjust with the culture,language, etc..

I also want to ask if anyone out there that has the same dilema or had experienced with this kind of stuff. Please give me some tips or advise! Thanks!

I was in a similar predicament a few years back. The first thing I did before even having the slightest idea of the "M" word, was to visit. And when I realized I loved it here, I learned the language - thoroughly.

What I'm trying to say is - just relax, enjoy your vacation here and take your time

Hello. I've moved here with my Swiss wife and we now have a half auslander daughter. It is a beautiful country, but a bit standoffish from time to time for foreigners. But, I married the person, not the state. If you've found your other half, then I'm sure you'd both be comfortable in Switzerland, wherever you're from or anywhere for that matter. Come on over, check it out and let the chips fall where they may. Good luck.

Yes please make sure. We were living in Geneva 6 years ago and it was very hard for me to adjust and so I went back to U.S. to work. We stayed together and now this year I have moved but we live in Basel now. I like it much better and I am older. We married this year and still the last 6 months has been hard. Finding a job was very difficult and not having any of your friends or family. Just make sure is all I am saying. Culture shock is real and it can lead to relationship problems and severe depression. MAKE SURE YOUR PARTNER IS VERY SUPPORTIVE AND REALIZES IT IS GOING TO BE DIFFICULT. My partner has been wonderful and lifts me up when I am feeling so down. I love it here now. If you can get through the first 6 months- a year then you will be fine just take your time in deciding. I wish you all the best.

Don't forget you have the huge advantage of a native other half. This means you will never really be a foreigner but the wife of a Swiss. Thats an advantage a big one...

Most importantly, do you both speak the same language, perfectly...
The last thing you need is miscommunication and a huge fight in two languages. Not knowing whether someone is calling you something hateful or simply sarcastic can be catastrophic.
Don't get married just to stay here, come and stay for a month or three. Make sure he, and the country, is what you expect.
If you like the idea of being alone in a country where you cannot speak the languages and don't mind not seeing your friends for pub nights every Friday (for ex.) than you may like it. Only you can decide.

yes I have that advantage also as I married a Swiss native also but it does not help when I am missing my friends, family and workplace

We speak English and yes, there were some miscommunication but we have talk it over.

I am NOT going to visit to marry. I am going to visit to see the place and meet the family. And we will just talk it over and plan.

best of luck with your visit - to be honest, I'd suggest you don't rush into things.....has this always been a long-distance relationship (without prying too much)?

it's a good idea to come for a visit and meet the family. That was what I did 9 years ago. Been happily married for 8 years now and going strong. The Phils has a mixed and colorful culture so adjusting and adapting to a new culture should not be a big problem. I won't let the language be a big barrier either....it can always be learned.

Had to learn italian when I got here, had to learn german when we moved to Bern...

The exact same situation - long distance girlfriend, but I kept coming to Zürich making quick visits - was always made to meet the family, friends, work mates and travel around Switzerland. It seemed perfect. Couldnt wait to move.
Then I finally came down for 3 months to sort things out, get a glimpse of life, which wasn't the same anymore. I was home alone, my now husband at work for 10 hours atleast. Me having to fend for myself, no one really willing to speak in English esp at coop at the time, having no one really around and honestly that freaked me out. But then I decided - home is where the heart is and thats the best decision I made. Its not everyday you get to start everything all over again. Its painful but fun. This really made things better and gave me the confidence to give up everything and stay. And have been happily married since! Slowly found work, picked up the language and its really lovely. This forum is a HUGE help.

All you need is patience. There are times when you may want to scream because everything being different -people, culture, language, food, tv - gets to you. But then when you think about it, the grass is always greener (and cleaner) in Switzerland.

Wish you all the very best! And keep an open mind.

Thanks! Its good to know that there are alot of people who understand the situation. I will keep an open mind because I love him so much!