[I am] staying in Zurich on a B Permit dependent Visa.
We married on 3rd June 2011 & I came here in Oct’11. First few days were beautiful. Few arguments did take place, but I always considered them as part of a relationship. Few days before Diwali (India’s most important Festival), I came across some of his sex chats and dirty conversations with various women. When I confronted him regarding the same, he threatened me and also assaulted me sexually. Due to repeated sex assaults, I had to be admitted to the University hospital a day before Diwali. He threatened me not to mention any of the incidents to the doctors as well as both our families. Due to this I remained in continuous stress and the doctors were unable to diagnose the problem. Finally when I couldn’t bear the pain, he agreed to take me to India only after my father assured to pay for 1st Class tickets.

I confided the reality to a renowned doctor in India, after which I got the right treatment.

In India, after a series of incidents, I realized that he blatantly lies. I finally explained the reality to both of our parents. His Parents were ashamed of his behavior and assured me that they shall get things sorted.

After recovering my health, I thought of forgetting these bitter incidents and restarting my life with him. My In-laws too assured me of his good behavior hereafter.

On 27th Jan’12 I reached Zurich. His behavior towards me was weird. He had stopped giving me money, he always picked arguments about my health. But I thought of dealing patiently as I wanted to work on our relationship. On 4th Feb’12 midnight, he wanted access to my facebook account. When I denied he was furious. A heated argument followed in which I mentioned to him about his ongoing sex chats. He started assaulting me physically always mentioning that he will not leave a mark on my body so that I am unable to prove him guilty. He asked me to leave his house and hurled a glass at me. I sensed danger to my life and I ran for my life from the kitchen window.

A gentlemen helped me find a police station. Now I have filed a complaint and he has been banned to be in my vicinity for 14 days. Being new to this country, I am unaware about the law and its procedures.

I am unable to understand German and am even short of monies as my cash credit card access has been blocked.
Request you to guide me with the legalities and help me.

This Thread gives you sites where you can get help:

Where to go when you need help - links & contact numbers

Sorry for your situation. You should be able to get assistance and advice there.

You seem to be from a wealthy family, and you need financial help.

Take your passport and the Permit 'B' to a bank or Post Finance and open an account in your name. Ask your father to send you CHF 2,000 each month.

When you have some money, get a small flat or share an apartment www.wgzimmer.ch

Go to a lawyer and get a divorce. Your husband has had 2 chances, and is now violent. Don't wait for a third attack, it might be next time with acid!

You can ask the police where is the nearest "Frauenhaus" (Womens' refuge) They will look after you until you have some money and can see a lawyer.

Or you could go home, but I suspect you will as a female get better justice here.

I have never done this before and I hope never to do it again, but I have changed your User Name without asking you to suggest a new one.

It looked to me (and to others) as if this might be connected to your real name or a name you use elsewhere. If you are genuinely having serious family problems the last thing you want to do is to leave a trail all over the Internet for anyone with a minimum of computer knowledge to find.

I'm deliberately writing this in here instead of in a PM in the hope that anyone with a similar problem in the future may search for help and find this thread - and this advice. Don't forget that anyone Googling a couple of innocent words or phrases you often use may find this thread.

Hey my dad agreed for paying the airtickets bill as he wanted to see me alive. Also let me tell you that he is retired since 8 years.

ok thanks for changing my name.

Koldit, you may want to change your location too... just put ZH nothing too specific

A friend of mine - layer in Zurich - specializes in helping immigrant women in distress, will send you a Private message to give you her info.

Oh, can't send you private messages... I let her know about you, and she'll post directly to this tread.

koldit - it is very sad to read about your unhappy experiences and I wish you strength and courage to find a way out.

I came across a similar story when I lived in the UK for a number of years. There I met a lovely young Indian woman who married a seemingly charming man also from India. When she joined him in the UK where he was working he behaved very strangely towards her, treating her like someone worthless. She came to understand that he just wanted a home-help, especially to look after an elderly parent back in India.

This friend also tried to adapt to her husband's requirements and be a "good wife" but he did not change and she was desperately unhappy. She ended up returning to her own family in India. Her husband refuses all contact.

It is difficult to understand such things.

You may want to contact the Indian Embassy. I am not sure though if they assist in family matters but atleast they should be able to guide you since you are assaulted.

http://www.indembassybern.ch/locationembassy.html

I am really feeling sorry for you have trapped in a marriage like this.
Better to go back to your native place and keep off from this jerk. Such a saddist he is...

There are some things that may help in these type of situations, if you insist on staying with that type of guy. You wait for him to fall asleep ... you put a bucket of boiling water next to the bed ... and you drop his hands into it.
Other than that .... I`d recommend getting as far away as possible ... as soon as possible.

I understand that you are angry at what the OP has endured, but it is irresponsible to suggest / encourage her to engage in a criminal assault. That's not going to help her case in court, and may well lead to her being prosecuted....

What did you ever see in this scuz-ball that made you want to marry him?


(p.s. you don't have to answer this question, I have no real interest anyway, I just wanted to say 'scuz-ball')

Maybe she had no say in this matter.

and you infer that solely from the fact that she's from India...?

Well since this person, assuming he is a Swiss, is a threat to her life, so I am guessing she would be divorcing him. But with a B permit, no job and when divorced, does a person here have a right to stay?
Plus why stay when the family support system is back in India?

OP...do you need help ?
Place to stay ? Money ? Tickets so you can go back home ?
PM me.

I'm in ZH.

If father can afford first class tickets to India for 2 people i wouldn't think financial problems need addressinjg, but it was nice to offer.