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Old 02.08.2013, 21:39
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I got Fed up with my Family Speaking with Food in there Mouth And swearing

The Titel says it all. I do Not Swear, Or speak with Food in my Mouth, but my Hubby And Kids do grrrrrrrr. I was so Fed up i made a Box And put it on the table a Few days ago everytime they talked with Food in there Mouth i made them Pay 0.50. today nö One as Spöken with Food in there mouths plus nö One as sweared Since. Just Goes to Show People can Control themselves
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Old 02.08.2013, 21:43
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Re: I got Fed up with my Family Speaking with Food in there Mouth And swearing

My kids never swore until after they would watch the Ozzy Osbournes on TV in that horrid reality show they had. I did not even have a tv at the time but they would see it at their friends.

Well done you for correcting your family. Once the moral compass shifts, it is incredibly difficult to put right again.

Now I mock my kids for their lack of vocabulary if they swear, so they tend not to do it in front of me.

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My kids never swore until after they would watch the Ozzy Osbournes on TV in that horrid reality show they had. I did not even have a tv at the time but they would see it at their friends.

Well done you for correcting your family. Once the moral compass shifts, it is incredibly difficult to put right again.

Now I mock my kids for their lack of vocabulary if they swear, so they tend not to do it in front of me.

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My Kids hear swearing all the Time in the School with there Friends, i HATE it, if my Kids Friends come over to Play with my Kids And Swear i send them home
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Re: I got Fed up with my Family Speaking with Food in there Mouth And swearing

Mine learned it all in kindergarten. Believe me, sometimes I was speechless hearing them use words that I didn't know until I was twenty. I used to ask them what the word meant and of course they didn't know. Made me often wonder what kind of cultural/educational background some of the parents had since that is where their kids must have heard it.
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Re: I got Fed up with my Family Speaking with Food in there Mouth And swearing

If I didn't talk with food in my mouth I'd be mainly silent.

And no one would want that (pre-emptive comment).
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Old 02.08.2013, 21:57
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If I didn't talk with food in my mouth I'd be mainly silent.

And no one would want that (pre-emptive comment).
Sorry cant stop giggling so you had Food in your Mouth 24\7
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Old 02.08.2013, 22:07
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Sorry cant stop giggling so you had Food in your Mouth 24\7
mmmmchew yeah mmmmchomp pretty much slurp
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Re: I got Fed up with my Family Speaking with Food in there Mouth And swearing

When my Kids went to kindergarten in Germany I was shocked at the words they were bringing home . It went too far when my then 5 year old used the F word! After telling him I would wash his mouth out with Soap if i ever heard him say it again, I mentioned it to the kindergarten teacher. Her reply: yeah, they pick it up from the School Kids in the hort but just explain to him that it is a nasty word for something that is actually very Special!!!

As if I was going to start that sort of conversation with a 5 year old!
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Old 03.08.2013, 16:25
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Re: I got Fed up with my Family Speaking with Food in there Mouth And swearing

We moved here in October and when my son started school here locally, his
first complaint was all the swearing - the english curse words were the only english some of the kids knew and as soon as they found out he was american, that was all they would say to him. He hated it. He told me one day that he was learning words he never knew existed in english. His friends at home never cursed and his school in US would not tolerate it.

I talked to the teacher about how it bothered him, and she was surprised that we found "shit" to be
offensive. She thought it to be a "short effective little word to use in frustration". We have stopped listening to the radio because of the language (our US station used the clean version of the songs) and TV movies in english are not the cleaned up versions either. So, I can imagine having younger kids that it is hard to enforce when the adults and kids are using these words so freely. My son just happens to luckily find curse words not to his liking in any way (hope it stays that way). And of course, like all kids, they will communicate with their friends differently that they would at home, so you never can fully censor them I suppose.
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Old 03.08.2013, 16:33
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Re: I got Fed up with my Family Speaking with Food in there Mouth And swearing

I have a friend/ex-flatmate who eats with her mouth open. Drives me NUTS! Don't get how people don't realise how noisy it is
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Old 03.08.2013, 16:35
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I talked to the teacher about how it bothered him, and she was surprised that we found "shit" to be
offensive. She thought it to be a "short effective little word to use in frustration". .
She is correct!

Shit stopped being offensive a long time ago
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Old 03.08.2013, 16:43
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Re: I got Fed up with my Family Speaking with Food in there Mouth And swearing

For some reason, I found myself thinking about swear words the other day... and how it's rather strange that certain words have become taboo and forbidden. I mean, after all, they're just words. So why is it okay to say "poo" but not "sh*t," for example?

Anyways, glad you found a way to keep your family from speaking with food in their mouths... and one that doesn't require duct tape.
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Re: I got Fed up with my Family Speaking with Food in there Mouth And swearing

Similar experience to Janice. The level of swearing/foul language/explicit lyrics on Radio and in Newspapers here in Switzerland was very suprising when we arrived in Zurich.

I think that the non-English speakers don't realise how offensive the words are considered to be by native speakers. They don't have the same 'weight'. I'd be very surprised if they use equivalent words in German or French broadcasts.

I find it helpful to considered these 'taboo' words - we all know them, kids certainly learn them, but we then learn to not use them, or to only use them in particular company, or in particular contexts. When you lack the context, or the social awareness, or you have a different cultural background (even within sub-groups), then you can easily offend.

I totally agree, the kids using these words don't get the same negative feedback than if they used the equivalent German work in front of their parent. I know I would not be able to detect swearing in German or French very well either, although our middle child is quite fluent and we can tell by the expression on his face whether he's using a 'rude' word
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Old 03.08.2013, 16:51
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Similar experience to Janice. The level of swearing/foul language/explicit lyrics on Radio and in Newspapers here in Switzerland was very suprising when we arrived in Zurich.

I think that the non-English speakers don't realise how offensive the words are considered to be by native speakers. They don't have the same 'weight'. I'd be very surprised if they use equivalent words in German or French broadcasts.

I find it helpful to considered these 'taboo' words - we all know them, kids certainly learn them, but we then learn to not use them, or to only use them in particular company, or in particular contexts. When you lack the context, or the social awareness, or you have a different cultural background (even within sub-groups), then you can easily offend.

I totally agree, the kids using these words don't get the same negative feedback than if they used the equivalent German work in front of their parent. I know I would not be able to detect swearing in German or French very well either, although our middle child is quite fluent and we can tell by the expression on his face whether he's using a 'rude' word
I was similarly disgusted at the level of swearing in general conversation in london. Travel on buses there and its worse then in Australia
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Re: I got Fed up with my Family Speaking with Food in there Mouth And swearing

thats a good training
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Re: I got Fed up with my Family Speaking with Food in there Mouth And swearing

I know someone in the swear words centre of the universe (aka the UK ) who uses the F word with reckless abandon but gets very upset on hearing s**t, even if not directed at them!

Go figure!

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One thing I find very frustrating, is that I know many dads who swear like troopers, and yet go berserk when their kids do (and blame the school)...
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Re: I got Fed up with my Family Speaking with Food in there Mouth And swearing

I'm remembering something I saw years ago on the TV.

An American stood in something and said "Aw shit, I've stood in some doo doo"

Have a Spanking good evening all

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For some reason, I found myself thinking about swear words the other day... and how it's rather strange that certain words have become taboo and forbidden. I mean, after all, they're just words. So why is it okay to say "poo" but not "sh*t," for example?

Anyways, glad you found a way to keep your family from speaking with food in their mouths... and one that doesn't require duct tape.
Lol it was Getting close to duck Tape

I Even Trained my Friends ( our neighbours ) we often have Dinner together, i was Telling them about my Box to put Money in the other Day, Last Night they came over for a BBQ And did Not speak with Food in there mouths ( the Box was Not for Friends just for my Family And was Not on the table, i also Never intended it for them i was just Telling them what i had done )
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Re: I got Fed up with my Family Speaking with Food in there Mouth And swearing

I agree with the comments, and that non-English speakers don't realize the vulgarity of expressions they are using. However when British use "bugger it" or Americans "mother" meaning "motherf..." it reflects the slow moderation of intensity.
It's common here to hear "hure geil" or "hure gut" etc and the speaker doesn't realize it comes from "like a whore". Or an elegant person saying "Läkmir ..." not realizing it is short for "lick my a..." Same process, where the meaning of words changes with time, and new ugly words have to be continually invented.
New ones are presented on http://www.urbandictionary.com/
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