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31 Signs You’re A Third Culture Kid

It's Friday - 31 Signs You’re A Third Culture Kid (TCK)

This may resonate with some of you.

Link: http://www.buzzfeed.com/regajha/31-s...rd-culture-kid

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Old 06.09.2013, 10:57
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Re: 31 Signs You’re A Third Culture Kid

All of these points are true!

Thanks for this, it made me smile.
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Re: 31 Signs You’re A Third Culture Kid

All true, except instead of slipping foreign slang into my English, I slip English words into my Russian
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Old 06.09.2013, 11:50
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Re: 31 Signs You’re A Third Culture Kid

Made me smile!

Can definitely relate to many of the examples listed.

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Are your kids third culture kids?

"There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots, the other, wings" said Goethe.
In this endeavor, what are the challenges and the advantages of being the parents of our Third Culture Kids?
I've listed here 10 Signs That You May Be A Third Culture Parent.
What do you find the most difficult to cope with?


This was sent to me by Anne- from expatriateconnection, for comments. What do you think? It was clear in my OP that it was not written by me- but Mod changed the post. Anne is a French national from Alsace, living with her family in Australia.

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Re: Are your kids third culture kids?

I was finding it an interesting read until I got to point 5.

We can’t rely on family and friends (at least in the beginning of a transition) to give a hand. We’re used to do everything on our own. We are the mother, the entertainer, the auntie, the grandma, the cook, the nurse, the teacher. And sometimes even the father because he’s too often absent!


Doesn't quite fit in with "are you a third culture parent"

To answer your question though - apart from the initial culture shock, I don't see any of these as big parts of my experience.
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Re: Are your kids third culture kids?

Many of the points don't necessarily have to be confined to foreigners. Even native parents often don't have a clue what their offspring are talking about with their friends.

Parents are embarrassing no matter whether it's filling in a form in a foreign language or boogying-on-down at a wedding disco, or even just breathing in a certain way.

I've lived in the same area for over 10 years yet my primary school aged son knows various nooks and crannies, as well as short-cuts through the area I'd never even noticed.

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Re: Are your kids third culture kids?

Being a Third Culture Kid myself, I probably am Fourth Culture Parent
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Old 24.03.2014, 16:07
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Re: Are your kids third culture kids?

The actress Julianne Moore wrote a children's book titled "My Mom is a Foreigner, But Not to Me," as I guess her own mother was a foreigner in the U.S.

http://www.amazon.com/My-Mom-Foreign...5669800&sr=1-2

I've never read this book, but I'd like to. I already appreciated her as an actress, but my respect for her deepened when I learned about her book.
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Re: Are your kids third culture kids?

I find Anne's writings very interesting- although I do not myself always relate to it. I moved to the UK and settled there, before I had my children- so my situation was very different. Read some of her other articles- food for thought. She'd love any comments btw.

I do love the 'roots' and 'wings' concept.
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Re: Are your kids third culture kids?

I like #9 and #10, been thinking about those things!

the "6 things your child does not want to hear" article is useful too because it addresses what I am apprehensive about (y)
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Re: Are your kids third culture kids?

My parents were pretty cosmopolitan and I got exposed to many different cultures as a child. I think they thought it was normal and never acted as if there was anything special about what they were doing.

Children are often quicker to pick things up and understand what's happening around them. There were several instances when we were seriously embarrassed about our parents failure to understand things and them getting worked up about things they had imagined in their own heads but were unwilling to have explained to them.
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Re: Are your kids third culture kids?

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"There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots, the other, wings" said Goethe.
In this endeavor, what are the challenges and the advantages of being the parents of our Third Culture Kids?
I've listed here 10 Signs That You May Be A Third Culture Parent.
What do you find the most difficult to cope with?
I'll stick to Goethe for thoughts generated vs time spent reading quotient. I think that post is not particularly well written ("got his son") but we don't always scrutinise our writing in the same way online as we would in a more lasting format. I know I don't, and make a habit of writing letters on paper as I enjoy the process.

What I think is missing slightly is the experience that 3rd culture children have when their parent(s) are from 2 different places. Mom from one place, father from another, living in a country to which they have no connection. I personally have never experienced this so-called Culture Shock, except when returning to the country of my birth.
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I personally have never experienced this so-called Culture Shock, except when returning to the country of my birth.
Lucky you, I had a huge culture shock when I signed up on this forum.
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Old 25.03.2014, 18:33
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Lucky you, I had a huge culture shock when I signed up on this forum.
To have a culture shock you first need culture.

That is one thing you won't find on this forum.
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Re: Are your kids third culture kids?

Anne if of course French, living in Australia- so her style maybe perceived as a bit stilted. As said, she'd love to have your comments directly, if you have the time. Do read some her other features.
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That is one thing you won't find on this forum.
Shall we leave now?
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Re: Are your kids third culture kids?

It's funny you started this thread now, Odile. I am struggling to get my daughter into university (and without me she would have achieved nothing, believe me) and my son is not interested in school anymore, so I talk to teachers, plead and beg, and all this time I think I have been overprotective and taking every obstacle out of their way. Maybe that was my way of dealing with the culture differences, that I did too much for them instead of letting them sort out some of their problems on their own.
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Good luck- not easy for you. We all know as parents that the more you push, the more they back pedal- and yet you know you have to find a way of pushing, to help them As a parent of teenagers, you sometimes feel that whatever you do is the wrong thing- heads you lose, tail you lose. I am glad mine are all grown up now, and found a good way out of the maze (one via University and one by-passing it- Uni is not the only way forwards for all). Rooting for you... (I am now a grand-mother, and mine 38 and 40).

I posted this now because Anne send me an e-mail with this enclosed just the other day, asking for my comments. As said, if you find time- she'd love to hear from you directly.

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Good luck- not easy for you. We all know as parents that the more you push, the more they back pedal- and yet you know you have to find a way of pushing, to help them

I posted this now because Anne send me an e-mail with this enclosed just the other day, asking for my comments. As said, if you find time- she'd love to hear from you directly.
I think I will find the time for a feedback (that is what she wants, isn't it?) and get in touch with her. Thanks!
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