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reporting domestic violence?

Looking for advice please on what to do (or not do) regarding a neighbor's potential domestic violence situation.
We live upstairs from a family of four and over the past few months we have heard some incredibly loud fighting coming from their apartment on a regular basis...slamming doors, screaming/yelling, the reverberations of something smashing into the metal railing of the staircase.

I do not have concrete proof of actual abuse (we do not have any direct contact with these people, haven't personally seen any bruises, etc.), but this morning things escalated to a point while we were eating breakfast that we considered calling the police.

I have no desire to meddle in their private affairs or make baseless accusations, but listening to them day after day is quite disturbing. What does the forum recommend we do?
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Re: reporting domestic violence?

We had the same few months ago but thisvwas during the night. I just knocked on the door and said to keep it down.

They argue a lot but a lot quieter.

Unless you are sure violence is happening a door knock is as far as I would go.
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Re: reporting domestic violence?

Experienced a very similar situation here with the family of 4 above, that's been ongoing since I moved here.

Long story short(ish). It got so bad one time that she ended up running out of the apartment not fully dressed, screaming and crying at the top of her voice with him running down the stairs after her. Luckily, another neighbour, also from their country of origin, was able to smooth over the situation and talk to them both in their language.

I called and reported it to the Verwaltung the next morning. They said if it happened again, I should call the police and to let them (the Verwaltung) know in writing as well as a further call.

They also said they would (and I am sure did) write to the family about complaints received from various other neighbours in the apartment block regarding noise disturbances etc.

Since then, whilst he continues to raise his dang awful voice to her and the kids quite often, he seems to be mindful of when, for how long and at what intensity! Thankfully, I've not heard any accompanying hitting sounds.

Earlier this year, the Verwaltung contacted me and asked how the noise levels etc were and stressed once more to let them know in writing if things escalated again. In this way, he said it gives them "a strong case" in order to evict them. Apparently, some other of my neighbours have already done this.

Knowing how hard it can be for some people to find a place to live and because I actually like her and the kids, I said I would only do this if I ever witnessed (saw and/or heard) his being physically violent to her and the children.

One of my friends who lives on my street has actually seen him hitting the eldest child on the street and, whilst I was appalled to hear this, my only other regret is that it was not me who had seen it!
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Re: reporting domestic violence?

Yes ximix, you're very right to be careful and caring. Nonetheless I'd also worry about the fact that anything really delicate (like losing the flat) would only trigger more of a reaction from him.
Such a very sad and delicate situation.
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Re: reporting domestic violence?

My neighbours can argue and bang about quite a bit too. Though I never hear anything resembling hitting one another or someone in physical pain.

Keep a caring eye and ear out. If you are suspecting abuse I would not necessarily ask to keep the noise down as abuse may continue more quietly making your ability to really know if something is wrong much harder.

But if it is just loud arguments then just have a word how it is disturbing you.

It can be difficult. I think its somewhat best to keep out of peoples business unless we are sure things are seriously wrong but what with numerous cases recently whereby a little bit of attention from neighbours and people close to a situation could of saved a victim from short or long term abuse i.e. the kidnaps in the US and slavery cases in the UK recently.

Not suggesting anything of that sort here, just that we're reminded after such events to ask questions on the behaviour of others around us that raises alarm, it's just knowing that line between serious abuse and heated couple/lively family.
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Re: reporting domestic violence?

Thanks Sky!

This is something I'm very mindful of as well. He clearly has issues and which, from what I can gather from others, he is already well known in the community for! Oddily enough, he has some kind of respect (probably disdainful) for me and even held the apartment building door open for me just the other day as he was going out and I was coming in!

The children were (could still be) attending a special school and were, at one point, quite disorderly and rude. More recently, though, they appear much more well behaved and join the queue to say "hello" or "hi" in English whenever they see me.

So, methinks, and hopes all is not lost. Only time will tell...

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Yes ximix, you're very right to be careful and caring. Nonetheless I'd also worry about the fact that anything really delicate (like losing the flat) would only trigger more of a reaction from him.
Such a very sad and delicate situation.
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Re: reporting domestic violence?

I'm having a similar situation with my neighbours, today it got so loud with stuff sounding like broken furniture, hitting walls and a man screaming in tears; (the female voice is very loud so i can imagine he's trying to be herd over her shouting).

well i was so worried today that i came close to calling the police (what number do i call?) for fear that things might escalate from breaking furniture to breaking bones.

i would've knocked but I'm almost 39 weeks pregnant and kinda hesitant to be caught in a cross fire; they don't work and the arguments start like clockwork during the daytime.


my question is, what exactly are the numbers to call in this situation?
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my question is, what exactly are the numbers to call in this situation?
Are you really struggling to find that very basic information out? https://www.google.ch/search?q=zuric...m=122&ie=UTF-8
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