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Re: Seeking tips and inspiration for quitting smoking...

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Thanks! Last night I was reading through a lot of reviews for that drug, and things like nausea, trouble sleeping, severe constipation, mood swings, etc. were often reported. You really didn't notice any side-effects that like? One guy even reported that, while on that drug, he went to a party and ended up freaking out on everyone there, consumed by rage for no apparent reason whatsoever, but doesn't even remember any of it.

I know what you mean... My three-year old has just recently begun to say things about my smoking (thanks to my husband telling him to do so). It gets on my nerves a bit, but deep down, I know that it's probably best for me if he continues to do so.
My doctor at the time explained lots of these side effects, mostly related to mood swings and psychological stuff - told me to be careful with suicidal thoughts at one extreme to bad moods etc at the other. I didn't notice any of these and the wife didn't complain that I was grumpier than usual

I guess if you had any history of psyc issues the doc probably wouldn't prescribe it or would be extra careful? But like all drugs from aspirin to morphine, some people get side effects, it's a risk vs effect thing.

I have a check up in couple of weeks with the doc so will ask her then. And by then the 200 cigs that the inlaws brought from duty free should be finished!!
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Old 02.01.2015, 11:17
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Re: Seeking tips and inspiration for quitting smoking...

SMOKING has always been a BIG TURN-OFF for me. Even as a young woman I would never have considered kissing a smoker.

Then..... I came to Switzerland, and met my husband. When he proposed marriage, HE PROMISED to stop smoking if I married him. ....that was 27 years ago and I am still waiting....and though I love him dearly, my stomach continues to physically revolt each time I must endure the stale cigarette smell on his hands and lips, on our patio, in his clothes, etc. Worse....our son now smokes with him, as do his friends.

For all these years, my in-laws would tell him; " Darling, you can smoke here. You are at home." ( though they love me, they felt my anti-smoking rules to be unfair..)

Sometimes, I wish to become a smoker, so I could forget this aversion, which I have. So, I could be one of them and not feel to be living in someone else's movie. In my film, the house smells of aromatherapy and baked bread. Naturally, the actors of my production have sparking clean natural teeth, and pink healthy gums.



OP...good luck.

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SMOKING has always been a BIG TURN-OFF for me. Even as a young woman I would never have considered kissing a smoker.

Then..... I came to Switzerland, and met my husband. When he proposed marriage, HE PROMISED to stop smoking if I married him. ....that was 27 years ago and I am still waiting....and though I love him dearly, my stomach continues to physically revolt each time I must endure the stale cigarette smell on his hands and lips, on our patio, in his clothes, etc. Worse....our son now smokes with him, as do his friends.

For all these years, my in-laws would tell him; " Darling, you can smoke here. You are at home." ( though they love me, they felt my anti-smoking rules to be unfair..)

Sometimes, I wish to become a smoker, so I could forget this aversion, which I have. So, I could be one of them and not feel to be living in someone else's movie. In my film, the house smells of aromatherapy and baked bread. Naturally, the actors of my production have sparking clean natural teeth, and pink healthy gums.




OP...good luck.
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Old 02.01.2015, 18:13
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Re: Seeking tips and inspiration for quitting smoking...

I had my last smoke Jan. 8, 2010, and I too read the Carr book. I'm not much a believer in self help books but it seemed to do the trick, but the concepts within just seemed to resonate.

After I quit I was able clearly see the shitty things that I obliviously did as a smoker: the thoughtless littering of the butts, lighting up next to anyone or in an enclosed area, lying to my wife who was pressuring me to quit, but what finally did it was having kids. Touching my newborn daughter with stinking hands was not an option, nor was setting that sort of example for her as she got older. I can't believe parents let their kids see them smoking....

It took about 2 years of gradually decreasing cravings, and I remember worrying if I'd ever be able to fully enjoy things that I had associated with smoking, which ended up being an absurd concern.

If I can offer the following tips that I think helped me:

I temporarily gave up things that I strongly associated with smoking, like beer and coffee with cream and sugar. (I switched to black)

I started running, and ended up running a few marathons with my newly clear lungs.

Accept and embrace the fact that you will NEVER have another cigarette. It's harder initially but I think it greatly helps long term success. There is absolutely no way I will ever smoke another cigarette as long as I live.

Good luck, don't give up, you can do it, and it will get MUCH easier.
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Old 02.01.2015, 18:21
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No new tips to give but wishing you all the success in trying to quit for good
I read a Japanese method sometime ago - you carry a small flask containing
broken ice cubes and put a few pieces into your mouth whenever you get the
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Old 02.01.2015, 18:40
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Re: Seeking tips and inspiration for quitting smoking...

After I stopped, I realised that I didn't smell any more ..... well, sweat and booze, obviously - but not smoke.

...... and you'll start to smell and taste things again ...... not sure if that's a good thing in Switzerland?
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Old 02.01.2015, 19:11
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Old 02.01.2015, 19:23
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Re: Seeking tips and inspiration for quitting smoking...

I'm not a smoker and never have been - but I wanted to say good for you that you're going to quit.

I have plenty of relatives and friends that went through it, and in many cases they had to try a couple of different things before finding what worked. So if you have a little setback, try another method or combination of methods until something sticks.

Most of the people I know could relate to two of the posts on this thread - the one about finding something to do with your hands, and the one about finding another routine to replace the smoking routine.

Good luck!
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Old 02.01.2015, 19:30
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he says the nicotine gums taste awful and make him nauseous.

that is he whole point Mélu- it makes you feel sick so you don't want to smoke!

Must say most people who went to roll you own to cut down smoking ended up going back to 'normal' cigs quite soon as it was a pain to roll. So I do hope he finds a way. Patches are expensive, yes- but smoking a packet or more a day for life costs an absolutel fortune, in many many more ways than money too. Hope he finds a way- very hard for you too.

I guess it is like booze, people can only stop if THEY really really want to.

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Old 02.01.2015, 20:21
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Re: Seeking tips and inspiration for quitting smoking...

Thanks again to everyone here...

I think that what I find most comforting and encouraging is being reminded that it is possible to quit... and without having to spend the rest of my life craving a cigarette. In that book I had mentioned, Carr talks about the fear that people have of quitting (he himself had been a very heavy smoker for 30 years) and how we needlessly use that fear as a means to justify our smoking.

One thing I'd like to know is how long the really strong cravings last (I smoke a pack per day). I assume that you experience a lot of stress while going through that initial phase of heavy withdrawal, and I want to be prepared for that in every way possible. The last thing I need in my life right now is more stress. I had actually hoped to have my last cigarette today, but due to the sleep deprivation (re: my other thread), I decided to wait until I was having a better day.
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Old 02.01.2015, 20:34
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One thing I'd like to know is how long the really strong cravings last (I smoke a pack per day). I assume that you experience a lot of stress while going through that initial phase of heavy withdrawal, and I want to be prepared for that in every way possible. The last thing I need in my life right now is more stress. I had actually hoped to have my last cigarette today, but due to the sleep deprivation (re: my other thread), I decided to wait until I was having a better day. :(
You won't get a better day. Every day has its problems. That's just part of your mind coming up with an excuse that the rest of your mind thinks is acceptable.
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Re: Seeking tips and inspiration for quitting smoking...

Yes, you must choose a good day to begin your non smoking life. I was smoking at least 30 each day, and a new girl friend helped me at the beginning: I stopped for her sake.

Then I realised my life had been ruled by cigarettes, many jobs needed 2 hands, so the ciggy was in the mouth and the smoke went in my eyes, and, and... and then I was annoyed that I was so weak to succumb to the addiction.

Finally about 15 years ago I stopped at the 4th attempt, and I know I am addicted and I can never smoke again. Now I hate the smell of tobacco.
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Thanks again to everyone here...

I think that what I find most comforting and encouraging is being reminded that it is possible to quit... and without having to spend the rest of my life craving a cigarette. In that book I had mentioned, Carr talks about the fear that people have of quitting (he himself had been a very heavy smoker for 30 years) and how we needlessly use that fear as a means to justify our smoking.

One thing I'd like to know is how long the really strong cravings last (I smoke a pack per day). I assume that you experience a lot of stress while going through that initial phase of heavy withdrawal, and I want to be prepared for that in every way possible. The last thing I need in my life right now is more stress. I had actually hoped to have my last cigarette today, but due to the sleep deprivation (re: my other thread), I decided to wait until I was having a better day.
Without meaning to be even remotely preachy or judgemental, I'm always surprised when people with young children find it hard to quit cigarettes. If living as long as possible to be there for your kid, and reduce the chances of anything getting in the way of that, isn't enough of a motivation... then I don't know what is.
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Old 02.01.2015, 20:46
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Without meaning to be even remotely preachy or judgemental, I'm always surprised when people with young children find it hard to quit cigarettes. If living as long as possible to be there for your kid, and reduce the chances of anything getting in the way of that, isn't enough of a motivation... then I don't know what is.
Yeah, my son is definitely the biggest reason that I want to quit. When you have kids, you have a whole new reason to live -- one that is outside of yourself.

I just wish there was a button I could press to stop the damn nicotine cycle. It really is the devil. I've even told my nieces and nephew that, if they ever decide to start smoking, they will spend most of the rest of their lives wishing they hadn't.

What gets me is when people (especially people with children!) claim that they don't really want or care to quit.
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Old 02.01.2015, 21:08
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After 9 yrs. there are still cravings, but I find them least strongest when I'm asleep.
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Re: Seeking tips and inspiration for quitting smoking...

Gee, thanks. That's... uh... reassuring.

I'm afraid that, if I do really try to quit, I'm going to freak out and attack the neighbors or something.
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Old 02.01.2015, 21:30
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Just get on with it. Seriously.

The world is full of people who have quit smoking and not murdered their neighbours as a result.

Yes, you will get cravings. Yes, you will sometimes really, really, desperately want a cigarette. I still do, now and again. But you pick up your knitting, or make a cup of coffee, and you look at your kid and you get over it.
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The last thing I need in my life right now is more stress. I had actually hoped to have my last cigarette today, but due to the sleep deprivation (re: my other thread), I decided to wait until I was having a better day.
On your other thread you said that the neighbours get up early and disturb you from Monday to Saturday so how about making tomorrow your last day as a smoker and stop on Sunday.
No excuses, a nice lie in in the morning to relax you then go for it, your first day as an ex smoker.
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I had actually hoped to have my last cigarette today, but due to the sleep deprivation (re: my other thread), I decided to wait until I was having a better day.
You are making excuses, and you know it .

Before I gave up for good, I tried many other times. I would pick a fight with my husband so I would get angry and stressed and I would have a genuine excuse to smoke a cigarette.

I'm onto you, my girl

Come on, let your last tonight be the last.





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You are making excuses, and you know it .

Before I gave up for good, I tried many other times. I would pick a fight with my husband so I would get angry and stressed and I would have a genuine excuse to smoke a cigarette.

I'm onto you, my girl

Come on, let your last tonight be the last.





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yes! watch the tricky mind that gives you plenty of excuses not to quit yet and plenty of reasons why you need a ciggie. i noticed that i would get really irritated with my husband too- then i realized it was just an excuse to have a smoke. so strange how the mind works, but you just have to treat it like a terrible two year old. no means no.
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