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Living here, getting married at home-help please!

Hi!

Myself and my fiancè are getting married next year at home in Ireland. Our priest has asked us for a load of paperwork from our priest here and we have to do a Marriage Counselling Course.

The only thing is, we are not actually registered to our religion(catholic) over here. Has somebody gone through this that can maybe guide me in what to do? Feeling a little overwhelmed and i don't like it!

I have searched on here but not found any answers, my apologies if i bypassed a relevant thread
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Re: Living here, getting married at home-help please!



None shall be granted passage by St. Peter through the Pearly Gates, who are not properly registered and who have not regularly made cash donations (although gold is always better) into the collection basket on the Sabbath.

I pray for you.
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Re: Living here, getting married at home-help please!

This really is a question for your priest back home, as he is the one asking for information. As long as you are marrying in Ireland, local practices should apply.

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As to registering as Catholic in Switzerland - is this something that you wish to do, or not?

If you wish to join the Swiss Church, simply go and speak to the priest at your local parish to get the ball rolling.

But if you do not wish to join the Swiss Church, think about why not, in light of your faith, and discuss this with your priest back home.

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A different situation, but nonetheless one involving one of the sacrements:

When preparing to take on the role of godmother to a child back home, the priest in Chicago asked about how I practice my faith - as of course being a committed Catholic is a requirement, given that the role is one of religious guidance.

I simply explained that although in my heart I consider myself a Catholic in good standing, I nonetheless chose not to join the local Swiss parish because I believe that the bigotry and exclusivity that are hallmarks of this small village parish go against most of what the Church I was raised in stands for - and my conscience would not allow me to participate in this very anti-catholic (small c) Catholicism.

I explained how Swiss law requires one to financially support the local church if one declares membership, and that I, again in good conscience as a Catholic, cannot see my way to funding this parish's particular form of nastiness.

I then spoke of how I kept my faith alive without membership in the local parish. Cue a bit more philosophical/theological discussion - but my priest in Chicago was satisfied.

Now - my experiences as a member of a very liberal Chicago parish choosing not to join a Swiss small village parish are likely quite different from yours, both in Ireland and here. But take from that what you will.


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On a practical note - if you choose not to join the Swiss church you of course cannot do the marriage prep course here. In that case, do the marriage prep course back in Ireland.


ETA:

Thinking again about the marriage prep course - you might want to speak with the priest of the English Speaking Catholic Mission in Zürich:
http://www.englishmission.ch

Now... I don't know the current priest or how inclusive or exclusive his views are. But many years ago the then priest was very open and inclusive. As this parish is sort-of-not-really part of the Swiss system, a group apart designed to meet the spiritual needs of English speaking foreigners - 15 years ago many of the congregation I knew were not officially registered with the Swiss Church - you might find guidance. Again, I do not know the current priest, or the current 'tone' of the congregation.

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Wishing you all the best.

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