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Old 26.04.2015, 10:04
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Sleepovers--what age?

I'm just wondering if anyone has noticed anything special about the age children start sleeping over at their friends' houses in Switzerland. My daughter is 3 and has slept over twice at two different friends' houses. We've had one friend sleep over here. No problems so far, and her friends and their parents are absolutely lovely. It seems we all share a similar parenting philosophy, and even if we didn't I think it's enriching for my daughter to experience other ways of functioning. She's also an only child so it gives her a break from being the centre of attention. I think it's also a way to give other parents a night off, as not all of us have grandparents and in-laws around.

My friends and family all seem rather shocked about her starting this at age 3. TBH it never occurred to me that she was too young, because she's so confident, expressive and sociable. Have I stumbled upon a particularly open-minded, easygoing group of parents (most are Swiss btw☺) or is this fairly normal here?

P.S. I'm only worried about being a bad mother in the respect that my daughter is only too eager to spend the night away from me! 😂
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Old 26.04.2015, 10:12
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Re: Sleepovers--what age?

My son is 9 and is invited to sleepovers occasionally, and has been for the past 2-3 years. My daughter will turn 4 on Tuesday (!) and sleepovers don't seem to be the norm in her daycare, unfortunately! I wouldn't see a problem with it. She's quite independent and can take care of herself, and tell me if something went wrong.

With 3 kids, I never managed to get rid of the three at the same time! Lol
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Re: Sleepovers--what age?

If the child wants, then it is perfectly fine.
I wish that mine wanted it at that age.
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Old 26.04.2015, 10:35
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Re: Sleepovers--what age?

My son was older when we came here so I don't know about the 'Swiss' taken on sleepovers but it was quite normal at age 3/4 in Belgium if the children were happy to do it.
That being said every child in Belgium could go to 'school' full time from the day they turned two and a half and the schools would take them on overnight trips from age 4 so it was a fairly normal thing there. My family in the UK were very surprised that our son was going away on a 3 day trip at age 4.

If the kids and the parents are comfortable with it I think it's a good thing to do sleepovers.
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Old 26.04.2015, 11:14
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Re: Sleepovers--what age?

If a child doesn't need nappies or wet the bed and doesn't have a panic attack if mummy isn't there, then any age is fine.
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Re: Sleepovers--what age?

hey- no grandparents or family here to help out and everyone needs a break sometimes- if you feel comfy with the family ( and they are ok with their kids sleeping at yours) why not? good for your little one to feel ok with it- that's a real gift and shows good parenting, imho, that she's is relaxed enough to spend that time away- enjoy!
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Re: Sleepovers--what age?

I agree with the other posters here: if you and the other parents, and most importantly your child, all feel comfortable, then that's super.

Paradoxically, when the children get a bit older, perhaps a more stringent control is necessary. If your daughter is 11 or 14, and says she's going to spend the night at Sally's, then I think it is even more important that you know who Sally is, where she lives, where her parents will be, whether or not daughter+Sally or Sally's parents will be having over visitors over at the same time, whether daughter+Sally intend going out from there, and when, exactly, and with which Transport, daughter will return home. Or to quote from Monopoly: Do not pass GO, Do not collect $200.
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Re: Sleepovers--what age?

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I agree with the other posters here: if you and the other parents, and most importantly your child, all feel comfortable, then that's super.

Paradoxically, when the children get a bit older, perhaps a more stringent control is necessary. If your daughter is 11 or 14, and says she's going to spend the night at Sally's, then I think it is even more important that you know who Sally is, where she lives, where her parents will be, whether or not daughter+Sally or Sally's parents will be having over visitors over at the same time, whether daughter+Sally intend going out from there, and when, exactly, and with which Transport, daughter will return home. Or to quote from Monopoly: Do not pass GO, Do not collect $200.
Excellent points! I imagine I'll become a lot more uptight when she's a teenager
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