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Swiss father, can I receive the child support he should have paid my mother?

I am a new member and I just want to ask something, my father is a Swiss but I never knew him, my mother was married to a Swiss when she got pregnant with my father, then when he knew about it he ran off, I am 24 years old now and I have a son, is it possible that I can get the child support that I needed when I was a child? I was living in the Philippines in that 24 years and now I came back to Switzerland to look for a job and I am having difficult time to look for it because I don't speak German and I really need some financial help for me and my family in the Philippines...
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I am a new member and I just want to ask something, my father is a Swiss but I never knew him, my mother was married to a Swiss when she got pregnant with my father, then when he knew about it he ran off, I am 24 years old now and I have a son, is it possible that I can get the child support that I needed when I was a child? I was living in the Philippines in that 24 years and now I came back to Switzerland to look for a job and I am having difficult time to look for it because I don't speak German and I really need some financial help for me and my family in the Philippines...
Contact a lawyer regarding your father... but its highly doubtful you can back-claim the money without a paternity test and so late in your life. Your mother is to blame for not doing anything about it.

If you don't speak German, have no relevant skills to the Swiss market and cant find a job then don't expect much sympathy...

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I am a new member and I just want to ask something, my father is a Swiss but I never knew him, my mother was married to a Swiss when she got pregnant with my father, then when he knew about it he ran off, I am 24 years old now and I have a son, is it possible that I can get the child support that I needed when I was a child? I was living in the Philippines in that 24 years and now I came back to Switzerland to look for a job and I am having difficult time to look for it because I don't speak German and I really need some financial help for me and my family in the Philippines...
I doubt it's possible. Most claims lapse after 10 years.

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Re: Child support by Swiss father

Was your mother still married to the Swiss when you were born? Was your birth ever registered in Switzerland? Children of Swiss citizens normally have a right to Swiss citizenship, but it has to be registered before age 22. However:


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A foreign-born child who holds the citizenship of another country in addition to Swiss citizenship loses his or her Swiss citizenship if he or she is not registered with a Swiss authority in Switzerland or abroad (e.g. Swiss embassy or consulate general, Swiss registry office) before the age of 22.
If the child is older than 22, he or she can apply for reinstatement of Swiss citizenship within a period of ten years. If the child has close ties to Switzerland, the application can also be filed after this deadline has expired.
You could contact helpline@eda.admin.ch for more info on this.

As a Swiss citizen you would then be eligible to receive welfare assistance(you would not be able to reside in the Philippines of course). Your father could possibly be forced to pay for your education, since you are only 24. I would get in touch with the local social welfare office, they could probably help you figure out where to start with this.
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Was your mother still married to the Swiss when you were born? Was your birth ever registered in Switzerland? Children of Swiss citizens normally have a right to Swiss citizenship, but it has to be registered before age 22. However:




You could contact helpline@eda.admin.ch for more info on this.

As a Swiss citizen you would then be eligible to receive welfare assistance(you would not be able to reside in the Philippines of course). Your father could possibly be forced to pay for your education, since you are only 24. I would get in touch with the local social welfare office, they could probably help you figure out where to start with this.
My mother was married to a swiss but she got pregnant by my father who is also a swiss, she is married that time to another man, not to my father.
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I am a new member and I just want to ask something, my father is a Swiss but I never knew him, my mother was married to a Swiss when she got pregnant with my father, then when he knew about it he ran off, I am 24 years old now and I have a son, is it possible that I can get the child support that I needed when I was a child? I was living in the Philippines in that 24 years and now I came back to Switzerland to look for a job and I am having difficult time to look for it because I don't speak German and I really need some financial help for me and my family in the Philippines...
How do you plan on finding your father if you've never met him?

The thing is, the Swiss law assumes that the spouse is the father of the child (Art. 256a ZGB).
Since your mother was married at the time you were conceived, you will have to prove that her husband is not your father and then prove that 'the other man' is your father.
Frankly, the only way to do that is with a DNA test, to which your biological father can say no to.

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Re: Swiss father, can I receive the child support he should have paid my mother?

Let me get this straight. You made it through childhood ok - which, by the way, is the point of child support - but now (apparent moral ambiguity of your mother aside) you want to collect the funds you should have gotten from the man who slept with your mother in order to pay for his grandkids?

I humbly suggest looking for another approach.
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Re: Swiss father, can I receive the child support he should have paid my mother?

You presumably have no way of finding this man as I guess you don't even know his name. So how do you expect to find him? I also assume your mother was sleeping with her husband at the same time she was having an affair so he may not even be your father. First thing to do is get a paternity test done so you know whether or not your "father" is your father or not. Does he even know you might not be his child or has your mother/you lied to him all these years? As keksli says Swiss law assumes his IS your father, especially if his name is on the birth certificate.

As swisscanmom says, you are probably eligible for social welfare to help you get your feet under you here, but it certainly won't extend to family back in the Philippines. If your Swiss father needs financial help then he should look at the documents listed here as he may be eligible for assistance:

https://www.eda.admin.ch/eda/fr/dfae...-etranger.html

These links may help you:

https://www.eda.admin.ch/content/dam...eckkehr_EN.pdf

https://www.eda.admin.ch/eda/en/home...zialhilfe.html

Have you registered with RAV yet for help in finding a job? They may also be able to help with language lessons.

Oh, by the way, where is your child's father in all this? Surely he should be providing financial support if you're not married.
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Let me get this straight. You made it through childhood ok - which, by the way, is the point of child support - but now (apparent moral ambiguity of your mother aside) you want to collect the funds you should have gotten from the man who slept with your mother in order to pay for his grandkids?

I humbly suggest looking for another approach.
i suggest ALL you happy chappy thanks rot guts rethink if you were in his/her shoes....and HOW would you feel : ENGLISH FORUM AT IT"S BEST HEARTLESS !!Lucky you, you have most likely not this situation to deal with !!
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i suggest ALL you happy chappy thanks rot guts rethink if you were in his/her shoes....and HOW would you feel : ENGLISH FORUM AT IT"S BEST HEARTLESS !!Lucky you, you have most likely not this situation to deal with !!
I don't understand why you are upset about Corbets reply. And there is no need to call EF members heartless; had you read through the replies properly, you would have noticed nobody wrote anything disrespectful or rude to the OP.

I suppose to you it's perfectly alright if someone you have had zero contact with comes to you saying "Hey guess what, I have no scientific proof, but I'm your daughter! You abandoned me and my mother, so now you have to pay for my son. My mother never bothered to contact you, but now I'm here demanding you support me."

If a male friend of yours were to tell you such a story, you'd be "Oh don't be so heartless, give her the money already!'


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i suggest ALL you happy chappy thanks rot guts rethink if you were in his/her shoes....and HOW would you feel : ENGLISH FORUM AT IT"S BEST HEARTLESS !!Lucky you, you have most likely not this situation to deal with !!
This is a situation of the OP's own making. Frankly deciding to come to Switzerland in hopes of claiming money is foolish and naive. No country in the world is going to allow this. Claim child support that she should have had when she was a kid, come on! She was supported - by her parents. To turn up here expecting to find someone she knows absolutely nothing about and presumably with her own son in tow? Simply crazy. Sounds more like a troll story than a real one.
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