Just leave the family. Line up a job and then give them notice. Here in lies the the problem. Legally, you have to give 4 weeks notice if your in a contract. If your not, pack your crap and go. They aren't giving you consideration, don't give them any.

Where you will run into more problems is that once you give notice, they may tell you to pack your crap and leave now. So make sure you have a place to go till the new gig begins.

Good luck. I have been au pairing in CH for over a year now. My first family was great and I stayed a year with them. I have not been able to find a nice family since. Seems to me like most want housekeepers and not au pairs for their children. (I think it's time for me to go back to having a real job.)

Ditto to all of the above.

Sad to say, but no matter how wrong they are, parents will generally not let you tell them how to parent, and a nanny is expected to be an extension of their parenting "style," not a challenge to it.

You've obviously taken a job with parents whose philosophy is diametrically opposed to your own. It matters little that theirs is dead wrong; they're the boss, so the best thing you can do for yourself is find another boss.

god. this sounds awful. I am nanny for a family here in zurich, and I cant believe how lucky I am with the family. They are lovely, and the little girl is very sweet too. Obviously she has the occasional meltdown (being 2 is hard!!), but the parents know how to deal with it, and as do I now.

I would find a new job for sure, I get around 3 messages a week through EF asking if I can help out families with part time and full time nannying. No matter what you say to the parents, they are not going to listen to you. In their eyes, their little girl is perfect, and they are raising an angel. Im sorry, but i cant see any good coming from questioning their parenting.

If you do decide to find another job, let me know and I can maybe forward some of my messages from families onto you. PM me if interested.

Lizzie

I wish you all the best on your next job

This is so true. If you are true professional there is always employment around the next corner. In fact most professionals will damage themselves by failing to stand up for themselves and doing the right thing.

In this case you need to set the agenda and be prepared to leave. If they are going to undermine your authority and destroy your value to them then you are dealing with psychological problems and you are a Nanny not a psychiatrist.

A good friend of mine once said, "You can't fix stupid. They just bring you down to their level and beat you with experience." When I used to teach, I came to realise that I couldn't save everyone. I did try but it wasn't always healthy for me.

Good luck,
Brian.

I would quit. I would not work where the child has control over me. What with over-population the, child care industry is the place to be, so if you are a trained nanny then you won't have a problem getting another job.
What is a trained nanny anyway? And which institution did your training?

Eight months on and it looks like the OP has already taken some of the good advice on here...

I sure did...when facing a career crisis, then take a Buisness Degree...no one gets messed around in Buisness..Do they?

I don't wanna open a complete can of worms here (well, i do a bit....), but the whole spoilt kid thing runs in a lot of Swiss families...parents are spoken to rudely, kids don't listen, yet get everything, consequences aren't followed through.

I'm fairly confident of the truth of this, I've had 4.

Your 100% right, although it is tough to say ....but at least someone finally said it!

Thanks god it only happens in Switzerland